I swore I would stay away but he broke my heart

[annacurvy]

I was playing. Met an older man. I gave him everything. All he asked. More actually. It became too hard because of distance and he turned out to be married so I tried to stop it. He persuaded me to stay. For a while until he suddenly backed out. I miss him....

Please help me miss him less.....

 

[annacurvy]

Thanks for the sweet PMs.... I must sleep now but hope I can write back it thank you all... Xxxxx

 

[sensualsharon]

Why let the fact that he's married stop you? As my mom always said, if they were getting what they needed at home, they wouldn't be looking elsewhere. Doesn't bother me one bit if one of my phone guys has a gf or is married. I like them so young, not many married college boys to worry about, and it makes things more inconvenient, but I don't care in the slightest. Hope you feel better soon, but don't let guilt over this stop you from seeking fun, it shouldn't matter at all.

 

[ThereAre4Lights]

I can understand your point, Sharon, but I think there's another angle, which is that of belief and vulnerability.

Even online, there's something broken when the man or woman who was telling you "Oh, I had to take a call from my mother" is hiding the fact that it's actually a call from his or her spouse. No one likes to be lied to, and even if one's ethics are such that they feel at liberty someone to play around online (I don't judge that, and judging someone on that basis is fruitless anyway) there's a violation of expectation to the other party. It's essentially abusing the anonymity of the internet to drag someone into something they didn't ask for nor have the chance to consent to.

Also, the flipside is a practical minefield. Imagine the shame and betrayal of someone who is very much AGAINST that sort of thing on principal and it suddenly being dropped on them. At best, you have the hurt and pain of a real, actual human being on your conscience. At worst, the betrayed party might seek revenge and, depending on the circumstances that can lead to drastic consequences.

Be careful on the internet, folks. When it comes to one-on-one conversations on a sex site-- even if it's just perfectly platonic "Read any good books lately?" kind of stuff--it's good to just get it out there to prevent hurt feelings or misunderstanding.

Also, vegetables. Make sure to eat them.