I pulled her hair.

[partsecond]

My wife is into BDsM. I am not.

But, I tried. I pulled her hair hard, and pushed in deep, and fucked her hard and called her my slut.

I have bad feelings now.

what should I do?

 

[nastyman12a]

Spank her clit and then slide a couple of fingers deep into her ass.

 

[partsecond]

Spank her clit and then slide a couple of fingers deep into her ass.

I have slid fingers I. Her ass, but never thought of spanking her clit.

I'll try it.

 

[Loverskitten]

Yeah, then grab her neck and look her in the eyes and command her to suck your cock!
If she's not doing a good job, grab her hair, toss that bitch to the ground and tell her to clean between your toes! When her butt is in the air and her tongue is lapping your feet, you start slapping that ass until it's pink.... then, if she's finally done a good job, softly pick her up, kiss her red hot behind, and deeply kiss her panting mouth.
Good boy.

 

[rosco rathbone]

My wife is into BDsM. I am not.

But, I tried. I pulled her hair hard, and pushed in deep, and fucked her hard and called her my slut.

I have bad feelings now.

what should I do?

Those "bad feelings" are called shame and guilt. Savor them! Without shame and guilt, there's no hot sex. When everything is permitted, nothing will be exciting.

 

[FurryFury]

Hot.

Those "bad feelings" are called shame and guilt. Savor them! Without shame and guilt, there's no hot sex. When everything is permitted, nothing will be exciting.

 

[Scentofawoman]

Thank god she didn't have extensions or a weave. Some women would just kill you then.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Thank god she didn't have extensions or a weave. Some women would just kill you then.

Since I probably paid for it anyway, no way am I fucking with the weave. [/bitches always gettin they hair and nails done]

 

[preternatural]

My wife is into BDsM. I am not.

But, I tried. I pulled her hair hard, and pushed in deep, and fucked her hard and called her my slut.

I have bad feelings now.

what should I do?

it doesnt need to be all about pain. Being controlled is a big part of it, for me anyway, someone else controlling my body, my pussy,, my orgasm. Maybe cuffs or ties to make the control more real and absolute, but that is still just feeding into the mental part of it.

Ps; if you're very observant, and tell her to cum when she's close anyway, she'll very likely become conditioned to you commanding her to have an orgasm... It will, after a while, work out of the bedroom too.

TOTAL control.... So hot.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Don't tell her she's a slut if that bothers you-- tell her she's a good girl.

Or, remember that calling her YOUR slut is entirely different from calling her A slut.

How does she feel about the way things went? Ask her. Ask her BEFORE you tell her that you have bad feelings.

 

[Loverskitten]

Don't tell her she's a slut if that bothers you-- tell her she's a good girl.

Or, remember that calling her YOUR slut is entirely different from calling her A slut.

How does she feel about the way things went? Ask her. Ask her BEFORE you tell her that you have bad feelings.

Totally about the "YOUR"!!!! Add anything to the back of that and it's a turn on (if you're in a relationship)

BUT, why tell her he's having bad feelings? Finally, a husband who wants to Top his wife because she likes it!!!! Yay! Don't kill it! I bet she's in heaven.

 

[goodsonformom]

Don't tell her she's a slut if that bothers you-- tell her she's a good girl.

Or, remember that calling her YOUR slut is entirely different from calling her A slut.

How does she feel about the way things went? Ask her. Ask her BEFORE you tell her that you have bad feelings.

*nods*.......

 

[subwannabe]

You shouldn't feel bad about doing something special for your wife that pleases her. It's what she wants and she will love you and your relationship more if you can get to the point where you can do this and not feel bad about it. You will never be able to give 100% if you can't get over the bad feelings. Just constantly remember you are pleasing her and you really shouldn't feel bad about that.

 

[deadhead1971]

I also recently began experimenting with my wife's desires to be dominated in certain situations. I personally have not had any guilty feelings. I'm overwhelmed with a rush of pleasure when her breath quicken because I pull her hair or call her my dirty little slut.

 

[partsecond]

Yeah, then grab her neck and look her in the eyes and command her to suck your cock!
If she's not doing a good job, grab her hair, toss that bitch to the ground and tell her to clean between your toes! When her butt is in the air and her tongue is lapping your feet, you start slapping that ass until it's pink.... then, if she's finally done a good job, softly pick her up, kiss her red hot behind, and deeply kiss her panting mouth.
Good boy.

Wow. I have commanded her to suck my dick. Once years ago I had my hand around her throat, but felt bad about it.

I will spank her ass pink though. That sounds fun.

 

[partsecond]

Don't tell her she's a slut if that bothers you-- tell her she's a good girl.

Or, remember that calling her YOUR slut is entirely different from calling her A slut.

How does she feel about the way things went? Ask her. Ask her BEFORE you tell her that you have bad feelings.

I haven't asked her yet if she liked it. I'll have to do that.

hhmm.. Good girl sound like a good idea.

 

[partsecond]

You shouldn't feel bad about doing something special for your wife that pleases her. It's what she wants and she will love you and your relationship more if you can get to the point where you can do this and not feel bad about it. You will never be able to give 100% if you can't get over the bad feelings. Just constantly remember you are pleasing her and you really shouldn't feel bad about that.

She has about 20 s&m books on her Nook. She has read them for years. I know she likes that.

I really just wish she would enjoy doing the things she wants to fantasize about in a more willing act.

I know she thinks the only way she can get away with it is if she is "forced" to do it by her "master".

You all have given me a great idea. I think the next time we have sex, I am going to start it by saying, "I need my slut tonight.". I think she will like that.

 

[lothwen]

My wife is into BDsM. I am not.

But, I tried. I pulled her hair hard, and pushed in deep, and fucked her hard and called her my slut.

I have bad feelings now.

what should I do?

Well, let me ask you something.

Has she asked you to do these things to her? Has she begged and pleaded and told you that this is what will turn her on? After the sex was over, did she act offended? Or did she tell you that it was the best sex she'd ever had?

If she liked you pulling her hair and calling her a slut and fucking her hard and wants you to do all of this (and more) then I say continue on,and don't feel guilty. If, however, she's having second thoughts about it, then I say you need to respect her wishes. Sex needs to be mutually satisfactory-just because you're the Dom in the relationship doesn't mean you completely ignore your Sub's feelings. They have to be enjoying themselves just as much as you are.

 

[partsecond]

Well, let me ask you something.

Has she asked you to do these things to her? Has she begged and pleaded and told you that this is what will turn her on? After the sex was over, did she act offended? Or did she tell you that it was the best sex she'd ever had?

If she liked you pulling her hair and calling her a slut and fucking her hard and wants you to do all of this (and more) then I say continue on,and don't feel guilty. If, however, she's having second thoughts about it, then I say you need to respect her wishes. Sex needs to be mutually satisfactory-just because you're the Dom in the relationship doesn't mean you completely ignore your Sub's feelings. They have to be enjoying themselves just as much as you are.

Usually, after I cum, she gets on all fours, and says something like, "So, how would you break in your new sex slave?"

Then I have to spank her and tell her how I would do it as I finger her pussy and ass.

I know she likes being called a slut after she is warmed up. I like that part too.

Agreed about about mutual satisfaction. That is why I am also g.

So, if what you are asking is, 'am I sure she is into this', yes, she is.

 

[lothwen]

That's good. Then there's no need for you to feel guilty.

You did say that you weren't into BSDM. Does your wife require this all the time, or is she okay with it being more sporadic (sometimes rough, sometimes gentle, sometimes you dominating, sometimes not)?

 

[partsecond]

That's good. Then there's no need for you to feel guilty.

You did say that you weren't into BSDM. Does your wife require this all the time, or is she okay with it being more sporadic (sometimes rough, sometimes gentle, sometimes you dominating, sometimes not)?

Pretty much every time. We have a pattern. I cum, she asks me about what I would do with my sex slave.


I do enjoy talking about lining her up with other sex slaves and other scemarios.

I like spanking, though she has asked me to spank her tits before. I haven't done that.

 

[Stella_Omega]

She has about 20 s&m books on her Nook. She has read them for years. I know she likes that.

I really just wish she would enjoy doing the things she wants to fantasize about in a more willing act.

I know she thinks the only way she can get away with it is if she is "forced" to do it by her "master".

She might chill out a little bit as she gets her fix fixed. I remember those days in my own life, too-- don't actually miss them much at all!

You all have given me a great idea. I think the next time we have sex, I am going to start it by saying, "I need my slut tonight.". I think she will like that.

I think you're kind of an awesome guy.

Go ahead and spank her tits. they are much much sturdier than men give them credit for.

 

[partsecond]

She might chill out a little bit as she gets her fix fixed. I remember those days in my own life, too-- don't actually miss them much at all!



I think you're kind of an awesome guy.

Go ahead and spank her tits. they are much much sturdier than men give them credit for.

Thanks. I must be on the right track then.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thanks. I must be on the right track then.

So far, it does seem as if your activities are not especially risky. But always remember-- You, as top, have a right to your own limits as well. Do not allow her to pressure you to go further than your deepest moral sensibilities are comfortable with.

here's a link to a friend of mine's recommendations for books
http://astore.amazon.com/wwwpowerexcha-20

Some of them are about the physical side-- and some about the dominance/submission side-- and some are just about getting your kink on

 

[Loverskitten]

I really just wish she would enjoy doing the things she wants to fantasize about in a more willing act.

I know she thinks the only way she can get away with it is if she is "forced" to do it by her "master".

You all have given me a great idea. I think the next time we have sex, I am going to start it by saying, "I need my slut tonight.". I think she will like that.

Here's why, women, since childhood, are taught that it is wrong to be kinky and horny.
I was talking to someone about massages just yesterday and how men can go get "happy endings" so easily. Shit, I'd like to go get one! I actually said "don't people realize women get horny too, even more so than men (my age)" Why is it so wrong for us? Men go to bars looking to get laid but if a woman does, she's a slut?

So if your wife is "forced" to do these things it takes the guilt out of those guilty and "this is wrong" feelings women are conditioned to have. Same reason we have rape fantasies (that are actually nothing like real rape)

I really do appreciate a husband who not only KNOWS his wife's fantasies but is making them reality! SERIOUSLY HOT!!!!! good job!