I need some help

[Stormystarr]

ok, here's the situation...I met this guy a while back on Lit. and we have fallen deeply in love. We have talked on the phone and we e-mail one another everyday...Now, here's the problem.

I want him to come here to be with me, he wants the same thing. My ex-b/f is now begging me to take him back. He can get very mean at times, but he can be sweet when he wants to be. I have no idea how long it will be before this guy and I actually meet, he says withen the next year. So I need some advice on what to do about the ex-b/f, take him back for now and string him along like he did to me and wait for this guy to get here, or should I just wait for him, we are very much in love!

 

[Isabella Thorne]

stormy .. if you and the lit guy are in love .. and you want to have sex with the ex .. if it were me .. i would discuss it with the new love ..

... and also what do you mean bout the ex getting very mean .. see if that means some kind of violence .. or even verbal abuse .. i wouldn't go near him ..

 

[Siren]

Stay with the one you love

 

[Svedish_Chef]

So who is the lit guy...


And see him first before you commit for gods sake!

Look after yourslef cause there is nothing worse that two pulling on you at once.

Da chef

 

[Rosebud]

I agree do not go to ex....instead find a way to get to your online love sooner

 

[Angelique]

Not much I can say on this topic that hasn't already been said quite well by both Isabella and Siren.

I'm a firm believer in following your heart, wherever it may lead you. Only time I'd question it, is if it involved domestic violence...and even then, I can't imagine anyone's heart leading them there.

Something Xander and I have learned to live by is "Good things come to those who wait". We've waited a long time to get together, and even now, he's 15,000 miles away, and won't be returning until September. Waiting on someone can be very difficult, but when true love is involved, the wait is well worth it!

Good Luck Stormy...and let us know how it all works out. I think it would be really cool to see another couple from Lit hit it off as well as Xander and I did.

 

[Docgtvt]

why play with fire? a mean temper can and usually does flare up. especially when there is a third approaching.
avoid the trouble and sever all ties with the ex. in the long run, you'll be glad you did.

 

[Nicole]

I have to agree with Siren on this one.

It seems many of us have found love from this site, I know that I have and I am madly in love with a Lit man too. My situation is a little diffrent, I refuse to go into it here, but lets just say that circumstances are a little different. Let's just say that I am EXTREMLY lucky

Stormystarr my advice to you, is to NOT string your ex along, you know how that feels. I know that we all need physical, but I would rather wait until I am with the one I love before I have that again. I do beleive that he will be well worth the wait .

Stormystarr if you are anything like me then you talk to your love from Lit everyday, I know what that does to your heart, and although there may be times that you feel your loved one is letting you down or hurting you, they don't mean to. Leave the ex alone and wait for the one you love. He will be worth it.

Oh and to my man from here, I love you baby xxxxx

[Edited by Nicole on 07-24-2000 at 03:54 AM]

 

[Xander]

Well Stormy. I have to back Siren, Nicole and my love Angelique here.
Follow your heart. It's well worth it.
I know that I'm 15.000 miles away from my love. And it's very hard at times. But I know in my heart that it is all worth the wait.
So if it's the lit guy you love. Go for it, and ditch the other guy.

"All good things comes to those who wait"

 

[Budokan]

I can't believe anyone would willingly and under their own power go back to an abusive relationship--no matter what the reason.

 

[Skitten]

I agree with the majority here defienetely don't go back to the ex you already know what he is about and if he is abusive that is two strikes against him already. As for the guy on LIT. at least give him a try you never know until you try you talk to him every night and you know that he feels the same as you do you know that he cares for you deeply so try the new guy out he may be your dream guy you never know until you try.

 

[MADDOG]

Hey Stormystarr, So who is this lit guy? You have me very curious.

MADDOG

 

[Big Willie]

i said it before and i'll say it again......

Follow your heart. Too many people make the mistake of following their brains, so they become politically correct or do what is right. thats bullshit follow your heart, it'll tell you what you really want. bugger everyone else its only your own opinions which matter in the end.

sorry for the language but its what i truly believe in. (my statement, not the language!)
Peace
BW

 

[Jeff726]

Hey Stormystarr, So who is this lit guy? You have me very curious.

MADDOG

Me, too. Who is this guy? Tell us!

 

[Sammyjo]

yeah, who is it?

might as well 'fess up...we will get it out of you sooner or later...oh, and drop that ex like a bad habit.

oh...and if it IS someone off here...chances are he has read this and is now getting concerned that you ARE or WILL BE back with the jerk...doesn't that bother you? or are you perchance hiding under a pseudo-pseudonym?

 

[Unclebill]

Run! Don't walk.

... and also what do you mean bout the ex getting very mean .. see if that means some kind of violence .. or even verbal abuse .. i wouldn't go near him ..

Got to agree with Isabella on this one wholeheartedly. And to add my $0.02 worth, if the ex has demonstrated even a hint of violent potential, you would do well to relocate to where your Lit guy is and make sure the ex doesn't know where you're going. Mean to me implies violent or potentially so thus for your own well-being, SERIOUSLY consider relocating considering the circumstance.

You certainly should not reassociate yourself with the ex and risk injury or worse, especially should he not take well to being 'strung along' as you put it. Part of the 'mean' is likely to be a possessive attitude so beware.

 

[dave-73]

DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU (marry me)