I need some advice please

[belladonna40]

This isn't so much a literary question/statement as a plea for advice. My b/f has been overseas for a little over 3 weeks. He's coming home on Monday and I'm picking him up at the airport. We've been having rather suggestive phone conversations (not phone sex) Anyway, to make a long story short, he's been joking with me that he had "big expectations" when he arrives. I know he's just kidding but I'd really like to "WOW" him. I said something to the effect that i feel so much pressure as I don't know where the line is between erotic and perverse. He assured me that he's up for about anything (within reason I'm sure) that I'd like to do.

So my real question is....(two parts really)

What can I do that will send him over the edge?

and

How do you know what a man will think is "weird" as opposed to erotic?

 

[Mae13]

Hooo boy...loaded question there hun! To be honest (for question #2) there is no way to judge except person to person. Sometimes you can tell from watching the way they react to situations or conversations. Have you watched movies together that have erotic scenes that really seem to get him breathing heavy? Think back, have you ever talked about something it seems he got really excited about? But in all honesty, the only way to know how they would define something as erotic vs. "weird" is to

a. Ask
b. Try it and see!

It takes a lot to lay something on the line and see if someone likes it. It hurts to have your lover look at you like you're a freak when you suggest/try something or ask them to do something to/for you. It's one of those nasty risks you either choose to take or hide inside you and live without

That "up for about anything" line doesn't offer much security either. If he's really basic when it comes to thinking about sex, "anything" can be a pretty small damn list. To some people getting wild is having sex with the lights on, to others its an orgy with barnyard animals...quite a diversity there, hehe!

Not to toot my own horn, but if you peek at the response I penned earlier tonight in the "is the passion gone?" thread...that scenario (or an adaptation of it) could be a hell of a welcome home! Or hell, you could just meet him in the airport in a trenchcoat and nothing else, then make sure you parked in a remote lot at the airport and have a romp right there! Of course with heightened security, they might be suspicious of someone in a trenchcoat, and might ask you to remove it. Boy could that be embarassing, unless you were both into exhibitionism, then it might be fun too, lol!

Not really an easy question to answer as far as "wowing" him unless you really have a good idea of what excites him! Good luck welcoming your lover home

*hugs*
Mae

 

[mixelplix]

What can I do that will send him over the edge?

and

How do you know what a man will think is "weird" as opposed to erotic?

Over the edge -- Meet him with no panties on and let him know that your not wearing them as soon as you can. Maybe give him a little peek or feel that will keep him wanting more and more untill you can get alone.

I dont think anything you can do will be too weird.

 

[Ventoso]

I have the same suggestion: meet him at the airport without panties and with a short skirt. Let him know that you do not wear anything under the skirt and ... see his reaction!

Good luck and tell us the results of your special welcome!

 

[sport]

Get a motel and have it fixed up ready for him. Pick him up at the airport have only a long coat on, nothing under it. When the time is right let him see, then take him to the motel for a long nite.

 

[SilverVeil]

If I was an asshole.........

I would say pick him up nekkid
And a man might think it was weird if you fucked a rubber chicken.

But I'm not an asshole so I agree with what the rest are saying.....no panties is a good bet to WOW him.
As for what men think is weird and what they think is erotic is kind of up to the individual man. Some men are fascinated by my anal fixtation. Others think that anal sex is nasty and dirty. ( Women too )

If something you suggest is met with a lot of hesitation and never mentioned by him again, then I would think that it is a little weird for him. And anything you suggest that he replies " YOU WANT TO WHAT ?!?!?!? " is a good indication that he is shocked.

 

[funwdi]

No panties suggestion ROCKS!
Just remember, a man's g-spot is in his anal area, so if you are giving him a blow job, maybe your hand wanders back to fondle his anal area a little? Even if you don't penetrate, I think he might like it. Otherwise...no rubber chickens, okay?