I need help!

[Guest]

I thought about asking Aspasia Fern, but I need a quicker answer.. so I came to this board.

Here's the situation. Saturday night, I went bowling with my friends. One of them hurt his finger, so we left early, and I got home 2-3 hours earlier than I normally would. When I walked upstairs to tell my daughter I was home, I saw my 15-year-old daughter making out with one of her female friends! I kind of suspeceted she might be "active" but I never thought this. I didn't think she saw me, but all day yesterday and today before school she acted REALLY weird around me, basically not saying a word to me unless I asked her a question and trying to avoid me. She did ask me if she could get a lock on her door though (I said I'd think about it)

Is this activity normal? Should I think she's a lesbian?
What should I do? I probably should talk to her (right?), but what do I say? Is it wrong that I was "excited" by seeing this? I had trouble pulling myself away from her door, and when I finally did I realized I was completely erect.

Any help/advice fully appreciated!

 

[huskie]

I take it your a dad? My daughters I wonder what she's going to be like and what I'm going to be like when shes a teen and starts dating????? My fears never cover her being a lesbian. I wouldn't fell comfortable with it BUT I would not have a fear of it. The real question is "How could my daughter get HURT from being a lesbian?? Other than me, her dad, making fun of her about it, just to have something to pick on her about (that a joke...ok).

Secound thing..... You getting turned on? Hell I geuss thats normal maybe ok?? Just don't act on it. We as humans surpress our selfs all the time of lots of diffrent stuff. This is just one more thing.

huskie

 

[badasschick]

I wouldn't try to make her uncomfortable about it. Yeah she's experimenting with sex, but she should know that you still love no matter what. Hey, she could be doing something else with boys, at least she won't get pregnant this way.....but anyway, maybe she was just practicing kissing, I practiced with my girlfriends when we were young, and thought nothing of it. Just don't let her be made to feel like she's a freak in her own house.

Coming at her and telling her that being a lesbian and/or bisexual is wrong, will just pull you apart. but be cool and just talk with her about sex, and how she feels about boys and girls, let her be comfortable with herself. She shouldn't feel ostricised in her own home.

You being turned on by it, C'mon you're a guy. its gonna happen. Just don't get all creepy Humbert Humbert on us.

 

[Semler]

"What should I do? I probably should talk to her (right?), but what do I say?"



What would you do if it was your daughter and she was kissing a boy? I say treat it the same way you would if it were her and a boy.

 

[Quint]

"What should I do? I probably should talk to her (right?), but what do I say?"



What would you do if it was your daughter and she was kissing a boy? I say treat it the same way you would if it were her and a boy.

I agree with this totally. I don't believe that fooling around with another female should be treated any less lightly than fooling around with a guy. Yeah, no pregnancy risk, but any frivolous sex play should be dealt with however you the parent feel is necessary. I do advise talking to her about it, because she obviously knows that you know SOMEthing. Don't know how good a relationship you two have, but if you can, sit down and discuss her sexuality. Keep it unaccusatory and positive, and let her know that you'll support her (if you can...if you're against her being a lesbian, then skip the whole conversation thing and go get therapy). But don't just pretend nothing's happened and ignore your daughter's life choices!

Not gonna address the arousal thing.

 

[Belilica]

I personally have had experiences with women, and some of my first ones were.... I'm straight, so if it;s a concern about your daughter being a lesbian, it's possible, but not necessarily true. Good luck with things!

Bel

 

[marksgirl]

I to like Bel played around when I was young and I'm not gay. But with the gay thing so out in the open these days she might be curious and testing the waters as it goes. My brother was gay and we just excepted it and went on down the road because you can't change a persons sexuality. She does need to know all the pros and cons with any kind of sex though, be cool about it and do talk to her about it, kids need all the help these days they can get!!!

If it turned you on and you like the thought of it, go here on lit and there are many stories, threads and role playing things to read. But to really go there, my best advise is don't.

 

[The Gimp]

What would you hope to gain by having this conversation with her? If you haven't talked with her about sex in general then now would be a good time but if thats not the case then i'd just let it go. Discussing this would just make you both uncomfortable.

 

[Xero]

What would you hope to gain by having this conversation with her? If you haven't talked with her about sex in general then now would be a good time but if thats not the case then i'd just let it go. Discussing this would just make you both uncomfortable.

If I didn't talk to my friends and family about things that made me uncomfortable, I would seldom, if ever, solve any problems that may arise between us.

Communication and honesty is best in all things. That's just my opinion, however.

 

[Guest]

Thanks for all the replies (except the one saying I should just 'let it go' ???).

I talked to her about it, and there's no problems between us.. I think we might actually be closer because of it. She's even going to let me watch in the future (though, for legal reasons I probably have to say that it won't be until she's older).

The only problem is my wife (her mother) doesn't come home until Sunday!

 

[Xero]

She's even going to let me watch in the future

Whoa killa...

Nevermind, that's on you, cuz.

 

[DaddyHorny]

If you are just here to look for someone to share this fantasy with you you are going about it the wrong way.

just be open about that part..don't make up a fake story about your daughter, in order to find somebody online to roleplay

IF however, you are serious about your daughter telling you that you can watch...my advise is HELL NO...DON'T DO IT!!!! It is not worth it...just my two cents

I enjoy the fantasy part..but would never consider doing that in real life! ...it should remain just fantasy role-playing

Hope this helps,
Daddy!

 

[The Gimp]

Now I see what's to be gained by having this conversation with your daughter, if you were looking to iniaiate a threesome then you should have just said so......

 

[RazeByFire]

This is the problem with being unregistered, one never knows if the person who made the original post is the same person giving updates. REGISTER-It's FREE!

 

[Guest]

What the hell?

What did I have to gain from the conversation? Well, a NORMAL relationship with my daughter, for one. If you knew how to read, you'd notice that I said things were uneasy between us. Let's see, have a 10 minute conversation and get over it or go the rest of your life being uncomfortable around the only person living in your house. Um.. DUH!!! I hope you don't have any kids.

When did I even hint I was just on here for the fantasy? Huh? That's right, I didn't. I wanted some damn advice, and I thought I would update you incase you were just a bit curious about it. I'd read one of the fucking stories if I wanted the damn fantasy. If I wanted someone to roleplay with, it sure as hell wouldn't be on here.

Jesus.. I ask for some advice, and get attacked.. holy shit.

 

[Guest]

She's even going to let me watch in the future (though, for legal reasons I probably have to say that it won't be until she's older).

If that's the kind of " NORMAL relationship" that you're going to have with your daughter then more power to you. For her sake I hope this is just some twisted fantasy that you're venting............

 

[Guest]

 

[zantac666]

My brother and his wife sat down with my niece and told her the truth about sex they said nothing about being with another girl.

So when she was driving me somewere she askd me what i thought about to girls haveing sex i said are you see a girl she said no but just wondering i said it is only natural to experiment with the same sex and she was happy se talked to me she was not sure about here mom and dad.

I'm bi i love girls but being with my frend is exciting. We were 13 and just started different things and had fun he is married and i'm not but have fun with girls he is the only guy i have bee with.

Hope everything goes ok with you and your daughter.

 

[Guest]

I am a DIFFERENT unregistered than original poster but thought I'd give my two cents on this issue

1: her experimentation seems normal

2: 'watching' her can and will seriously screw her (and you) up, and will put you in jail if you're caught, and frankly you should be caught if you do that kind of thing...

good luck