I need help.....

[Guest]

.....my husband an I have only been married since jan. and we have a one month old daughter. I've always been real passive in bed and he wants me to be more agressive. I dont really know how to be agressive, can any one help me?

 

[Starfish]

Sure, You've come to the right place.

You are now going to be surrounded by some of the most domineering, sexy women on the earth to tell you the little tricks of the trade...


I'll start with a tip...


If you are tense about it, because you've never been in control, simply try having him sit at a level that is lower than you. He can be in a chair, on the bed, whatever, but you should be standing or on your knees in front of him. This will help you feel more in control and then you can start to let the wild woman in you come out. Try tugging on the back of his head as you force his face into your breasts. Make him lick your nipples. Guide his head with your hands. This will make him feel like he is at your command and you will start to get hot from it too.

There are so many things you can do, so I'll leave some for others to suggest, but I think this is a good topic anyway.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Tell him what you want where you want it.... don't let him touch unless you tell him he can. You be in control of the situation for that hour or time for that session together..

Or

Be more assertive as in starting the pleasure process when he would not normaly expect it..... middle of the night.... first thing in the morning.... when you usally don't get sexy.

Or

Talk dirty to him. "Tell" him what you want him to do to your body and use sexy discriptive words.


Or

Leave the lights on and wear slinky clothing.

Or

When out shopping tell him you are not wearing panties and let him view inside your hand bag where they are sitting.... (they love that one )

Or

Give him a blow job while he is sitting watching TV. Just crawl on over and do it!!!!

OR buy a vibrater if you don't have one, play together with it.

Or

Use your camera for more than baby photos.

Or

Make love anywhere but the bedroom.


Most of all relax, laugh and enjoy

 

[T.H. Oughts]

And you live on the other side of the world Mapleman.....

 

[bknight2602]

Tell him what you want where you want it.... don't let him touch unless you tell him he can. You be in control of the situation for that hour or time for that session together..

Or

Be more assertive as in starting the pleasure process when he would not normaly expect it..... middle of the night.... first thing in the morning.... when you usally don't get sexy.

Or

Talk dirty to him. "Tell" him what you want him to do to your body and use sexy discriptive words.


Or

Leave the lights on and wear slinky clothing.

Or

When out shopping tell him you are not wearing panties and let him view inside your hand bag where they are sitting.... (they love that one )

Or

Give him a blow job while he is sitting watching TV. Just crawl on over and do it!!!!

OR buy a vibrater if you don't have one, play together with it.

Or

Use your camera for more than baby photos.

Or

Make love anywhere but the bedroom.


Most of all relax, laugh and enjoy

Where were you when I was dating, you vixen!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Where were you when I was dating, you vixen!

On the other side of the world dating someone else.



Unregistered, I was thinking about your question last night while laying awake in bed... With a new baby alot of time and energy is going to go into dealing with the baby for the next couple of months. (I will not mention the life time right now)

Also your hormones will be all over the place after giving birth so your husband should cut you some slack while you get your body back into total action.

He can't really expect you to be full of sexy life when you body is going through so much and you will be tired from getting up nights and dealing with a new baby.

 

[Guest]

Well, it's not that he expects me to bounce right back after having the baby, it's that I have always been passive and he wants me to be a little more agressive. I need some new ideas

 

[Marxist]

Well, it's not that he expects me to bounce right back after having the baby, it's that I have always been passive and he wants me to be a little more agressive. I need some new ideas

Go with the passive-aggressive approach. Or maybe not. Whatever.

 

[LittleMsNaughty]

Also your hormones will be all over the place after giving birth so your husband should cut you some slack while you get your body back into total action.

He can't really expect you to be full of sexy life when you body is going through so much and you will be tired from getting up nights and dealing with a new baby.

They say it takes 9 months to grow a baby and at least nine months for your body to get back to where it was before you were pregnant - then there are the other things like sleep deprivation etc............... I felt terrible when right in the middle of a romantic moment - I started snoring!!!! Lucky my man is understanding about these things.

 

[Guest]

Does any one have any advice or some new tricks I can try on my husband

 

[SweetCherry]

Try role playing. If you can't be yourself and be more agressive, maybe you can "be someone else" and do it a little easier.

 

[Guest]

Okay I am registered now. Does anyone have any more suggestions?

 

[LustrusStorm]

This is me!

 

[SweetCherry]

Welcome, LS. I hope you can find the answers you need.

 

[Guest]

does he want you to be a little more agressive or like 'Tie me up and fuck me' kind of agressive?

Personally I think you should start off small and work your way up....try the little things like the hair pulling and guiding his head like Starfish suggested....

one of my favs is watching porn and immitating what the woman in the film is doing to the man....

You can always just take control and shove him down on the bed/couch/table and remove his clothing....and either perform oral or ride him......

The main thing is do whatever makes you comfortable at first. Oh and check out the stories...they might give you some more ideas.