I need help! Anyone! PLEEEASE!

[LordRaziel456]

I'm a kinky guy. Period. I mean I like the idea of nasty dirty hard fucking... like most guys do. The problem is, my new girlfriend isn’t that... liberal(?) with her passion.

She isn’t stiff or self-conscious, but not very willing to experiment. I love the idea of anal, just because its taboo, and I love the idea of giving her a rim job, or just LOVING every bit of her.

And maybe being a bit rough, ya know? Nothing painful, or hurtful, just being playful.

I love her to death, and would never ever do anything she wouldn’t want me to... so how do I get her to open up? To let me try these things and see if she likes them, without freaking her out...?

She thinks of "fucking" as dirty and vile, like you fuck someone you don’t care about and "make love" to the ones you do. As I see it I love her completely, who else would I want to "fuck' AND "make love" to?

Shouldn’t I feel this way about the girl I'd give the world to? Shouldn’t there be no taboos, or walls between us?

Help me please...


-Lord Raziel

 

[Ms_Lilith]

1) calm down. It's not the end of the world.

2) TALK to her. Outside the bedroom space. The only way you'll figure out if she is willing to try things is if you ask her... DON"T try things in the bedroom, because if she's pretty set in her ways, that is the kind of thing that will freak her out.

 

[Guest]

I agree with Vixen ... talk to her first ... bring things up when you are both kinda relaxing , just being together at home . Tell her some of the less kinky ( LOL) stuff that you like and kinda of ask her if she would ever contemplate something like that or maybe even just try a little , tell her what it does to you and the feelings you have about it , just stay calm lol while you're doing it. I understand completely where you are coming from ... I do. You just need to talk. Start from there ...

 

[AngelGirl25]

bedtime story.....

Why not find a story of literotica that says some of the stuff you want to do? Or even better- write one?

Find one what shows the pleasure of the contrast between tender and rough and shows a man who respects his woman as much as you obviously do. Its a non-threatening way to explore these feelings, a way to start dialogue on the issue and a way of showing her that although you may way want to be rough you still love/respect/all the other warm fuzzies her.

Then, of course, simply read it to her and see what happens...

 

[Valcorie]

Re: bedtime story.....

Why not find a story of literotica that says some of the stuff you want to do? Or even better- write one?

Find one what shows the pleasure of the contrast between tender and rough and shows a man who respects his woman as much as you obviously do. Its a non-threatening way to explore these feelings, a way to start dialogue on the issue and a way of showing her that although you may way want to be rough you still love/respect/all the other warm fuzzies her.

Then, of course, simply read it to her and see what happens...

WOW, That is a great idea.

Might I add also, that you perhaps use the term "making love" when you discuss with her what you would like to do. Perhaps that may help her to shift her perspective of what making love is.

Good Luck!

 

[AngelGirl25]

well i do try

thanks- like i said- i do try

 

[LordRaziel456]

UPDATE!!!

Update:


Okay, today was my birthday, and she wanted to do something special and asked me what I wanted...

I said a nice birthday blowjob would be great, now in the past she's been... eager... but well, clean. No swallowing, and I'm not allowed to even TOUCH her head. Well since it was my day she was VERY into it... and as she was down there I told her how hot it was to look into her eyes so we made eye contact... and it was like... LIGHTENING. She was a new woman, the sounds and purring that came from her, and she TALKED...

"Baby cum for me, I want it... I need it..."

It was heaven, I asked where she wanted it and to my surprise she said:

"In my mouth, god baby tasting you would make me cream..."

Well I'm man enough to admit that things were over pretty quick after that.

I came so hard, but her head didn’t move, she didn’t flinch, nor cry out, she... just... SWALLOWED...

Afterwards I asked what got her so hot and she replied that the look on my face, the pleasure she saw radiating from me was such a turn on, she said I could of asked her to do anything and she would done it... and loved it


Praise God.

I think there's a chance we might actually dirty this girl up... thank you. Talking with her did help... any other ideas?

 

[BirdsWife]

Re: UPDATE!!!

No swallowing, and I'm not allowed to even TOUCH her head.
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I think there's a chance we might actually dirty this girl up... thank you. Talking with her did help... any other ideas?

Congratulations. I think your birthday present is the first step, but may I suggest you proceed slowly.

From the comment above about touching her head and what you have said about her separating "fucking" from "making love", it sounds like possibly somewhere in the past she may have been coherced or forced to do something she did not want to do. Seeing the love and passion her actions were creating for you may have helped break the barrier for her between "dirty" sexual acts and "loving" sexual acts.

The only thing I can suggest now is to keep talking, and continue to make love to her. I think the more comfortable she is in your relationship, the more receptive she will become to new ideas.

Good luck.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]