I need advice about prostate stimulation

[LeaVance]

I'm trying to convince my boyfriend that prostate stimulation is actually worthwhile.

I discovered it accidentally when I started fooling around with him. He said he kind of liked it, but he was quick to add that he felt weird about it.

I heard that this is something that a great number of men enjoy and it has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

I am sure this would be a "winner" for us, but he's so hesitant to try.
I just need to know the proper way to do it.

 

[vibes]

I heard that this is something that a great number of men enjoy and it has nothing to do with being gay or straight.

This ^^^

If he liked it, it means you did it the right way

 

[Nezhul]

Ok, here's a few points that you may try on him.

1) Male body (and human body in general) has a lot of erogenous areas. That, I hope, he can accept. And prostate just so happens to be one of them.

2) The thing that is actually stimulated is not prostate. It's not really "meant" to be stimulated and has no pleasure-wired nerve endings.
What gets you going is prostate juices being pushed out and going down the tubes. Many men do not know it, but orgasmic feelings are actually triggered by special nerve endings inside the tubes, that are stimulated by the sperm flowing PAST them. So ejaculation goes off and the liquid literally rubs those spots. 90% of cum comes from prostate, so as you stimulate it it
a) increases the volume of ejaculation and hus the pleasure it brings
b) it pushes the liquids out and some can literally cum from prostate alone.

3) Anal sex is not a gay thing. In fact, it's no-one's thing. Not meant for women, nor for men. Gay people are given bad rep by religion, mostly. And as they use the only available hole, anal sex goes down with them.
But there's nothing inherently bad or gay about anal sex. Gays just happen to use this. Gay like to touch and caress each other, does it make any caress gayish? No.

4) When he's having sex, he's having sex with you. He's a strong man who has a beautiful woman in love with him, sharing bed with him.
Exploring each other's body is a natural thing. And there's nothing bad about the asshole. Just as he likes your asshole, just as you can derive pleasure from it, so can he. As a man having sex with a woman.

5) explain how you want it. How you want to see dildo/fingers stimulate his ass. How horny it will make you feel, how much pleasure you will take from that.

6) Take a non-dick shaped dildo for starters. Or use fingers. Surely there's no problem in female fingers touching ANY part of his body!

7) trade him something for a dare. He agrees to try anal sex, you agree to something else, like getting tied up or spanked, whatever he's into. That may just be a win-win for you.

8) don't make him stand doggie-style. That may only enhance the gay association. Stimulate while he's standing up as you are kneeling and giving him a blowjob. Or have him lie oh his side/stomach.


Now a few points for you to consider:
1) some people just don't like anal sex. Some even find it unpleasant. You should accept it if that's his case.
2) anal sex takes getting used to it. I recommend being relaxed, taking a small smooth dildo or even a special all-male prostate massager. Start small.

As for proper way:
1) go slow. Don't try to fuck him fast and hard.
2) he may lose erection. That' totally normal. Anal stimulation relaxes pelvic muscles for both men and women. If you stroke his cock he will become hard again though.
3) you need to stimulate the frontal side of his anal so tilt the dildo slightly.
4) it may not even be fucking in and out. When you find the spot (he will know it as it feels slightly like wanting to pee) you can rock the dildo from side to side to stroke only this spot.

 

[RedSilk69]

Ok, here's a few points that you may try on him.

So informative! Thank you!