I need a teacher please......

[Pervisity]

Good Morning Board

I do not visit here often although I have always wanted to be a Mistress. With the love and closeness of my lovers and mine we have not been able to break past the wanting to listen to eachother in the bedroom=) and I can not hurt her the way she likes, (vice versa).

Well, we have had an offer for a delightful young lady to come be our Sub. The feeling I had when she offered her control over to us sent me over the edge and I want to taste more of it.

Here is the thing, all 3 of us are new to the Play. I would love for someone here to take me under their wing and teach me how to be a good Mistress to our sub. Great, I guess this means I have to give some of my own control up (this is going to be difficult).

Get back to me here or PM me please. I need HELP!!!!!!!

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Get back to me here or PM me please. I need HELP!!!!!!!

You might have a little more luck here: Click me.

 

[catalina_francisco]

After reading your posts I am not sure what your intention is with this thread.
If you are looking for someone to take over and teach you, you should post in BDSM personals.

Or are you are looking for advice on how to deal with your feelings and how to handle giving up partially control and advice on being a Dominant?

Could you please clarify what is your intention with this post.

Francisco.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Could you please clarify what is your intention with this post.

Francisco.

Ah 'Cisco ... ever polite and charming.

Let's just get to the point for the budding Domme. If you want advice, we have tons. If you want lessons, well now, that's going to cost you.

What's that old bumper sticker say? "Grass or ass. Nobody rides for free."

 

[Pervisity]

After reading your posts I am not sure what your intention is with this thread.
If you are looking for someone to take over and teach you, you should post in BDSM personals.

Or are you are looking for advice on how to deal with your feelings and how to handle giving up partially control and advice on being a Dominant?

Could you please clarify what is your intention with this post.

Francisco.

My intentions my dear are only to learn how to be a good Mistress. The girl offering to be our Sub is as new to the Lifestyle as we are. It is something my partner has already discussed and know we want to explore.

My biggest fear you would say to do with the BDSM lifestyle is that I am going to accidently hurt our sub. How do you get over the fear of physically hurting another who wants it? The giving up control comment I made was humor. I am a very controlling person but have learned when I need to give that up so I may learn something new new in life. I was mentally dominated for 10 years.

If you are reading the rest of my post before this one you are going to make the wrong conclusions about me. I am a goof off and like to joke around. She really does want to ride my Pony This is an alt used for the protection of another involved. We know how the board enjoys gossip and would like not to be trolled.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

How do you get over the fear of physically hurting another who wants it?

You don't. That's what keeps you from doing exactly what you're attempting to avoid. Talk a lot to one another. Make sure you talk in the middle of it as well. Best of luck.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

You don't. That's what keeps you from doing exactly what you're attempting to avoid. Talk a lot to one another. Make sure you talk in the middle of it as well. Best of luck.

AA you have a way of getting right to the point...

 

[Pervisity]

You don't. That's what keeps you from doing exactly what you're attempting to avoid. Talk a lot to one another. Make sure you talk in the middle of it as well. Best of luck.

Thanks.

I am a regular here on Lit and like I said do not visit here very often.

My partner and I have tried BDSM for us and there is just to much love involved for us to go there.

I will go read threads and study. She has already chose her safe word.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks.

I am a regular here on Lit and like I said do not visit here very often.

My partner and I have tried BDSM for us and there is just to much love involved for us to go there.

I will go read threads and study. She has already chose her safe word.

For many of us, the depth of our love is what gives us the ability to enjoy that which we deeply desire. If there is no desire to do this stuff, or to do it feels wrong and not something which should happen between people who care about each other, I would rethink becoming involved with your prospective sub as you could cause damage such as you fear.

Catalina

 

[Pervisity]

After much thought and consideration I have come to the conclusion (about myself at least) that being someone's Mistress is not my style.

If a lady we are playing with wants one of us to be a little rough, tie them up, gag them, spank them, or whatever they desire I can do but I do not want someone giving me the type of control a Mistress has. I should have known this when my partner begged me for it and I said I can not.

This lady turned out to be a guy. Thank you for your replies and help.

 

[jdmct]

you and your GF are very lucky to have each other.
This is coming from a guy

James

 

[Etoile]

You don't. That's what keeps you from doing exactly what you're attempting to avoid. Talk a lot to one another. Make sure you talk in the middle of it as well. Best of luck.

Also, keep in mind that physical pain is not the only type that can be inflicted in this type of relationship/play.