I need a new image...

[PacificBlue]

Does anybody know a store where I can go buy one? Heh!

Seriously...when I try to hit on a guy it comes off completely wrong. I'm tired of being the "girl" friend instead of the girlfriend. Don't get me wrong, I like my guy friends they are fun but I want someone to roll around on the carpet with.

I've heard it's all in the attitude but just saying that doesn't help me. I need to figure out how to give off a different one. I have this horrible sinking feeling I'm gonna look back on my life and say "I wish I had..."

Any thoughts?

 

[Wiggles]

Well, it could be the other way around. I am usually the girlfriend, and never the girl friend. And I have to believe that you get to meet more people your way.

Just grab their asses. They love that.

 

[PacificBlue]

Actually no...you'd think that would be the case but it never seems to work out that way.

I need to change my image. How to do it is my question.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Actually no...you'd think that would be the case but it never seems to work out that way.

I need to change my image. How to do it is my question.

Just grab their asses. They love that.

 

[PacificBlue]

*sigh*

 

[LukkyKnight]

Well, trust me - it sends a very playful message. Not at all like, "Can you help me fix my carburetor?"

I don't think it's really image, PB, I think it's intent. In time you will find your path crosses somebody who makes you want to be more than friends, and if you communicate with him... it will happen.

 

[Mae13]

Hey PB...we sound rather alike in many ways.

I have lots of boy friends, lots and lots of them! I love them to death, moreso than many of my girl friends. But a 'boyfriend'...now that is a totally different creature, something I haven't had for quite a while now. Or a girlfriend. Animal friend? (Kidding, KIDDING on the animal friend part!) Lol...well you get my point

*sigh* Dunno if I have any great ideas on changing your image...what do you want it to be? Just more attractive in general as 'dating potential' to all the starving men out there? When you know what you want to be, think on it, dream of it, immerse yourself in it. "Practice" the new you until it is your skin. Be honest. Be communicative, and honest, to yourself and others. Don't get caught up in all that head game bullshit that seems to plague so many relationships between folks. Go for what you want. Don't accept less. Let folks know where you're comin from, let them know what you want too! Sometimes one of your boy friends...well you may look at them and realize something you wanted was staring in your face the whole time

I can repeat all that which is said...about cycles, and good things come to those who wait, and when you're not looking for it is when it will happen, etc etc etc...maybe there is some truth to it, maybe not *shrug* Become who YOU want to be, decide what YOU want to have, then merge the two. I only wish I knew an easy way to tell someone how to do any of those 3 things.

Ok, I am done babbling now...good luck hon.
*hugs*
mae

 

[PacificBlue]

It's funny really the gf's I have say the grass always looks greener from the other side and then go on to tell me how it sucks to have boyfriends/husbands, etc. Funny...they all seem to jet out of the office at 5:00 to run home to be with them. They can't be all bad now can they?

I'm getting impatient, I admit that. I'm lonely and I'm tired of being lonely. I've tried various activities to try and meet people in face-to-face situations and none really seem to work well. I come home feeling like there is something wrong with me and frankly I'm tired of feeling that way.

I realize that I don't exude sex upon first meeting me in person, here online may be a different story. When someone is staring me in the face I tend to blush. Yes, I still have a wild streak of innocence left. I'm beginning to think that's a hinderence. I've also noticed that guys want to push the limits within the first one or two dates...how am I supposed to know if I want to be sexual with this person when I don't know much about them. *shrugs* I'd like to get to know someone first before I end up under the covers. I'm not frigid by any means I'd just rather be safe than sorry later.

 

[TonyG]

I haven't noticed anything wrong with you. Of course the way you keep feeding me cookies during Alias, my judgement might be swayed.

 

[Mae13]

Funny how that works, isn't it? If you are a sexual woman, it is often presumed that you are not discriminatory in who you will sleep with...like your legs are always an open invitation as it were! I don't think it's a tease issue to enjoy some physical contact without jumping right to "the deed"! And besides, it makes it rather sweeter when things DO connsumate, no?

I think the grass is always greener on the other side. And while I *do* truly enjoy my freedom, my non-attachment, etc....I *DO* truly enjoy having that connection with someone else, to hold hands, to touch and caress, to talk and giggle and play in bed all day on a lazy weekend, to make sweet love and have wild animal sex...that is bliss as well!

 

[PacificBlue]

I haven't noticed anything wrong with you. Of course the way you keep feeding me cookies during Alias, my judgement might be swayed.

*grin* speaking of which...oreos tonight? or oatmeal raisin?

 

[Wave_Rider]

The Beach Boy "Speaketh"

. I come home feeling like there is something wrong with me and frankly I'm tired of feeling that way.

I realize that I don't exude sex upon first meeting me in person, here online may be a different story. When someone is staring me in the face I tend to blush. Yes, I still have a wild streak of innocence left. I'm beginning to think that's a hinderence. I've also noticed that guys want to push the limits within the first one or two dates...how am I supposed to know if I want to be sexual with this person when I don't know much about them. *shrugs* I'd like to get to know someone first before I end up under the covers. I'm not frigid by any means I'd just rather be safe than sorry later.

If you are dating guys, who push toooooooooo hard on the first or second date.........then change the "type" of man you are finding yourself with.......You seem to be caught in a period of "Over Analyzing & Self-Esteem battering". Just stay true to the person inside you.......listen to your mind and your heart.

Just "Breathe" cutie............maybe its all that rain you get in the Northwest? wink..........

Smiles

 

[PacificBlue]

Re: The Beach Boy "Speaketh"

Just "Breathe" cutie............maybe its all that rain you get in the Northwest? wink..........

Smiles

*breathing*

 

[Wave_Rider]

Re: Re: The Beach Boy "Speaketh"

*breathing*

LOL...........another "save" for the Cali "folk"........noticing how well you took to 'direction'......wink.......

 

[Juspar Emvan]

*wry chuckle*

Can I jump on this band wagon? Too many girl friends, no girlfriends. And there's a frightening truth to the RL/ Net personality differences.

I think it's about confidence, knowing wha tyou want and having no fear of rejection. But I've yet to develope those.

Perhaps we should exchange phone numbers.

 

[PacificBlue]

Perhaps. We can exchange notes.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Perhaps. We can exchange notes.

lol

See, rejection is easy in here.

 

[PacificBlue]

lol

See, rejection is easy in here.

hmmm...I don't think it is. In some respects I think it can be harder. You spend hours with someone talking and getting to really know someone's "insides" before/if ever you meet them in person. That is pretty intense or can be if the two that are talking are honest with each other about who they are. I know some here who "role play" who they want to be instead of who they really are.