I need a life (warning: rant)

Lovepotion69

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Was chatting with my friend on MSN. Within the course of one year he has gone from substitute teaching (where we met) to moving city, starting up a business, filed the business bankrupt, applied for a job in Denmark, got the job two weeks after the bankruptcy, moved into his own flat and enjoys his new job.

In his personal life during the same year he moved back to his parents after breaking up with his ex, met me, had a fling with me, moved to Malmo, got back together with his ex, broke up with his ex, had a very brief "thing" with a girl he met in Malmo and now lives with her (but they're not having a relationship.)


I feel like he's been through so much in only one year. Another friend is working in England and her music career is going better now. She's playing a lot of gigs. Another friend who just graduated from a profession that has high unemployment just landed a job. Yet another friend will soon finish her studies and I have a feeling will get a job fairly fast.

Now, me on the other hand... I'm still substitute teaching, not able to get a somewhat steady job, I would love my own place and I can't lose the bloody weight I'm supposed to lose. And the only men that I meet are in 6-9th grade.

I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. Every day is the same. Nothing new happens. Nothing exciting to tell my friends about. When my friend was getting married in April I got obsessed about the trip as it seemed the only exciting thing happening in my life.

The other night I felt like a loser. No job, no career, no flat, no man and fat. Yaaay. I need to get a life. Badly. :(
 
you can have my life if you like...i don't seem to be using it.
 
Life my dear is exactly what you make of it. If you aren't happy with it then buckle down and change what isn't making you happy.

Take me for example. I'm a C.N.A. in a local hospital, making less than the people who serve the food. I'm paying way too much for rent, and I'm in dept so I can drive a nice car. (Note I didn't say a fantastic car.) Yet I'm happy. Yes there are things I wish to change, and will change as time goes on. I will be going back to school to get my R.N. and I will get into the medical area I love. (Emergency Medicine) But I have a roof over my head. I have two neat cats. I have some comfortable furniture, even though it doesn't all match and more than half of it came from yard sales. (The other half came from Flea Markets, sans Fleas.) Last but most important I have a loving wife and I have my health. What more can I ask for? (Okay, yeah I could ask for a house in my name as well as a nice new car and new furniture. Not to mention a job where I'm respected and didn't have to worry about getting sued because someone didn't like the way I wiped their mothers ass.) Believe it or not I'm happy. I'm happy with my life and the way it's going. Yeah it's slow and I'm not going out to parties every night, but it';s moving in the direction I want it to. I can't complain too much, it was my choice to live this way.

Cat
 
I'm sure you don't feel that way everyday though, Seacat.

Every once in a while you just get frustrated by failing to meet self imposed deadlines especially when it comes to self improvement. I sympathize totally with you LP. some days just aren't the way you thought they would be when you were having some one read a fairy tale to you. Some days it feels like life is passing you by especially when you compare it to the life of some one close to you. But the grass is always greener and i am sure that some day soon life will become exciting and maybe even unexpected and you will be wishing for the day when nothing was happening and you were stuck in a comfortable rut.
Don't worry LP...you are an intelligent, sophisticated, discerning young woman and soon you will feel differently than you do today. Keep dreaming and hoping for tomorrow and it will come. :rose:
 
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