I Love You

[Zamdrist]

Some may disagree with me, but...I think this phrase is often over used.

It should be spared for those special moments for the greatest impact. My last SO needed to hear it on a daily basis, either in person, on the phone or via e-mail.

I always thought that cheapened the effect. Repeating it over and over and over.

Hold close that that phrase, and let it loose when it will do the most good, or when you're overcome with the feeling.

 

[Horny Hippie Girl]

I personally believe, if you feel it, say it. People don't hold back there words of hatred for the right moment. They yell that out at the slightest provocation. There isn't enough love in the world as it is without people feeling like they have to hoard it all up for a special occasion. Let it out!!! Love is all you need!!!

 

[riff]

I think it depends.

I can say "I love you" like it was sticking a gun to someone's head. That is the wrong "I love you."

But I can also say it and it really means, "I'm in you, you're in me..." (you know... the Lennon thing)

 

[Zamdrist]

There isn't enough love in the world as it is without people feeling like they have to hoard it all up for a special occasion. Let it out!!! Love is all you need!!!

Agreed, not enough love to go around. Yet, while words can be special I think, at least I think, they should be used sparingly for best effect.

The same with insults. If I call you a dick head 20 times a day, it becomes a joke. Repeating 'I love you' over and over, several times a day...or even once a day, IMHO cheapens it.

 

[Bindii]

I can't sleep until we have said the 'L' word. I just can't. But apart from that we rarely abuse the phrase "I love you". When we say it we know that the other really means it.

He shows his love for me in many ways with the little things he does, still it is nice to hear the words every now and then.

 

[cutie pie]

Hold close that that phrase, and let it loose when it will do the most good, or when you're overcome with the feeling.

I guess I am one of those that would like to hear it often, though not necessarily on a daily basis. . .Repetition doesn't necessarily cheapen the effect unless, of course, you're saying because you think the other person wants to hear it and not because you really want to say it.

I spent a long time saying it out of habit. . .because I thought I was supposed to say it.

The next time I say it. . .I will honestly and truly mean it. . .when I'm overcome with the feeling.

 

[lilminx]

I agree with you, Zam. I had two exes that would say it all the time. One told me it after a week of dating (no, not you, Paganangel).

I felt that it cheapened things, and that they weren't sincere because they said it so readily and easily.

 

[Zamdrist]

Re: Re: I Love You

The next time I say it. . .I will honestly and truly mean it. . .when I'm overcome with the feeling.

Exactly my point

 

[ksmybuttons]

My love doesn't change. I can say I love you to the people I love every minute of every day and mean it every time.

However, I never say I love you without truly meaning it. I give that emotion great deference and use only to those people to whom I feel my definition of love applies.

 

[Zamdrist]

Think how you would feel, if after two days of not hearing it, you said something funny, or just walked across the room and out of the blue he/she said:

"I love you dear." Looking into your eyes and smiling.

Wouldn't that be better than hearing it several times a day?

 

[Dhalgren]

I would imagine people who have online or long distance relationships, tend to say or type "I love you" more often than people who see each other and are more able to express their love up close..on a daily basis.

I don’t need to hear it to know it’s real…I see it, taste it and feel it in so many ways.

Though, I do tend to say it more often than he does because he’ll say something and I get little swelling bursts of love that pour right out of my mouth.

 

[cutie pie]

Wouldn't that be better than hearing it several times a day?

But what if he's been given several reasons to say it several times during the day?

 

[Zamdrist]

Dhalgren: Well said, as always.

But what if he's been given several reasons to say it several times during the day?

Very good point!

 

[ksmybuttons]

I would hope I evoked his love more than every two or three days. I tell him I love him frequently because I do and also as it is a promise that I will continue to look for those things I love all the time. It is always meant and he knows it.

 

[Zamdrist]

I would hope I evoked his love more than every two or three days. I tell him I love him frequently because I do and also as it is a promise that I will continue to look for those things I love all the time. It is always meant and he knows it.

Understood, and I'm not judging.

I think a warm smile into the eyes and a brush of the hair from the face says just as much, without being repeatative.

 

[lilminx]

Another thing I don't like about "I love you" too often. When someone says it to me so much, I know that they expect me to say it often in return. I don't like saying it, and hate the pressure I feel about saying it.

 

[Cheyenne]

I would imagine people who have online or long distance relationships, tend to say or type "I love you" more often than people who see each other and are more able to express their love up close..on a daily basis.

I think you are correct.

In person, there are so many other ways of showing that you loe someone. Showing can be the same as saying.

 

[kotori]

It depends too on just where the relationship is. At the beginning, it's nice to hear, to be reassured. Nice to say, in part, to reassure yourself.

 

[sigh]

if you mean it, there can never be such a thing as expressing love too much...i tell my child i love him all the time, and mean it more each time it's said

but i do understand that there are people who use the words as a tool, a cheap fix to mend a situation or to get something that's wanted, but that's lying and it's not the same thing at all

 

[Zamdrist]

if you mean it, there can never be such a thing as expressing love too much...i tell my child i love him all the time, and mean it more each time it's said

Oh absolutely and good point. I make an exception to the rule when it comes to my son. It's easy with him, and of course, a different love one that should be repeated.

 

[Rubyfruit]

if you mean it, there can never be such a thing as expressing love too much...i tell my child i love him all the time, and mean it more each time it's said

I'm the same way, sigh. I tell my kids I love them everyday, sometimes several times a day - whenever I feel my heart about to explode.

The 3 year olds just started saying it back. God, it's so wonderful to hear.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Ruby, yeah that's the greatest, isn't it? Sometimes my son looks at me and says, "Mom, .... I love you" and it jolts me out of whatever mundane thing I happen to be doing and floods me with this amazing feeling.

~sigh.

Kids are great.

 

[sigh]

The 3 year olds just started saying it back. God, it's so wonderful to hear.

oh yes, i still get a shiver of delight when he tells me he loves me too...and a few days ago i got one out of the blue

so cool

 

[Woodmiester]

It's an interesting word and while I was reading your comments I was thing if I shoud post or not, and of course I decided too, so my 2 cents are;
Sometimes we say I love you as easy as we say good morning or nice to see you, how's the weather, it's almost expected and means nothing. Doing that degrades its meaning.
I also think it's a lazy word, meaning instead of saying, hey I really really like you or I really do think we're cool together, we (in general), are too damn lazy to say all those words and use love.
Telling someone that I love them is too me special. Each of us has a reason to use it or say it and maybe something underlying when used.
Like a few of you have said already, our children we Love, and I do Love my Son, but even with him while I try to show it and I know he needs to also hear it, I don't want him to become like me and rarely use it, but maybe I'll wrap my comments trying too express how I feel about the word Love.
If I tell someone I Love them, then it means I'd be willing to die for them.

 

[dreamer]

It is was over used in terms of what we use it for, but as for quantity with those you DO love...I don't think it can ever be said too much.

I remember feeling overwhelmed and shocked at myself when I told my ex I loved her after only a month of dating. I've been in relationships close to a year sometimes before that. Oh and yes, sex comes after love...well except that time in college

However, when I do feel that way I feel they shouldn't forget it for a moment. Heh, I'd still give a hell of a lot for the opportunity to tell her again.

I guess it just goes back to how I usually conduct all my relationships, few and close over many and casual. Although I have to admit this format of conversation/communication/meeting people sure has broken me of that in a lot of ways.