I love you, but I'm not in love...

[ellec89]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

Use him and keep looking. If you don't find Mr. Right, you still have Mr. Almost.

 

[fgarvb1]

"I love you, but I'm not in love... "

Yeah.

I had to give my wife that news along with the divorce is still on.

Even though it's the best thing for both of us, it still sucks.

 

[parodyluvr75]

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual?

Or am I just with the wrong guy?

At 23 you should have passion. If there isn't any in the relationship, not much future in it. People change. Love dies.

 

[lovetoread]

You cannot force an attraction that is not there.

Move on.

 

[Sinny]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

You sound like a dude who just wants to get laid.

Oh, wait.

 

[sweepthefloor]

Have you ever felt that want before with someone else, or just with yourself?

 

[thirty]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

Your description is very erotic!

 

[ellec89]

I have felt lust before with other men, very strongly too. And I have never had problems getting wet for them. I think my boyfriend just lacks sex appeal. I can't really put my finger on how this can be approved or even if it can be remedied.

It would be a shame to breakup with someone as lovely and sweet as he is, and I wouldn't dare cheat on him, but sometimes I wonder if there is passion out there or am I just stuck in the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality. Not sure...

But I do know that one day I would love to be ravaged...over and over again, and it doesn't look like my boyfriend is the man for the job. Pity--he is such a sweetheart.

 

[thirty]

I have felt lust before with other men, very strongly too. And I have never had problems getting wet for them. I think my boyfriend just lacks sex appeal. I can't really put my finger on how this can be approved or even if it can be remedied.

It would be a shame to breakup with someone as lovely and sweet as he is, and I wouldn't dare cheat on him, but sometimes I wonder if there is passion out there or am I just stuck in the "grass is greener on the other side" mentality. Not sure...

But I do know that one day I would love to be ravaged...over and over again, and it doesn't look like my boyfriend is the man for the job. Pity--he is such a sweetheart.

You can only live once, honey!

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

She bores me. Can we please move on.

 

[Supersexkitten]

He's not a mind reader.

Ask him to tie you up and call you dirty names and take you anyway he wants to. There should be butter involved.

 

[tactful]

I'm really surprised there were, 88 ellecs', before you.

 

[sweepthefloor]

I don't have the answers for you. My lust has always been self driven.
--
Did you ever lust for him?

 

[miles]

Send a PM to RobDownSouth. He's Lit's resident expert on relationships.

 

[StacyLeigh]

My first bit of advice would be to talk to him. Tell him what it is you are desiring and longing for. Maybe he doesn't know or thinks you like the way things are (Guys can be dense sometimes ).

But if, after all the discussion, you are still sure you aren't in love with him - it is probably time to move on. If you do love him, it's only fair to for the both of you.

Trust me, I am/have been there, and you will find that person that gives you both the love and passion you're craving. You're far too young to settle.

Best of luck

 

[butters]

He's not a mind reader.

Ask him to tie you up and call you dirty names and take you anyway he wants to. There should be butter involved.

leave me the fuck out of this!

 

[willrose]

Look on the bright side, it's easier to love someone and have to try to find the passion then to be passionate about someone and have to try to find the love - generating lust is an awful lot simpler than generating love. You could try asking him what does turn him on then use that as a starting point. Alternatively, tell him he is not allowed to touch you at all for a week and wear elegant lingerie each time you see him - by the end of the week he should be harder than German grammar. Good luck with the relationship!

 

[rosco rathbone]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull.

The problem is you. Look up "Cluster B Personality Disorders".

 

[InsatiableDsire]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

You can try talking to him about it. Perhaps he does just need to know what you want and some coaching in technique. But don't wind up 23 years later with the nice, sweet guy, great dad, who everybody loves, but might as well be your brother for all the passion he inspires in you...

 

[Joeybagadonuts]

I am loved by a man who unfortunately, excites little passion in me. When he first came into my life, I fancied myself in love, but after the excitement of a new relationship wore off, I found my love to be dull. He feels more like an old friend to me--someone who I enjoy spending time with, but not someone who I want to share my bed with. I love him dearly, but I am no longer in love with him. I don't even know if I ever was.

I always imagined myself to be with someone who would cause that certain tingling sensation below the belt. I don't expect this all of the time, but I would like to experience some kind of an urge, the urge to shove his hand in my panties before I even have the time to take them off. I want to experience thinking of my partner in those times when my own hands are touching my wanting pussy, moistening at the thought of his scent or the way he dragged his tongue between my slit. Or simply shivering with pleasure at the thought of making love to him later when we are alone.

Gosh I am warming just thinking of it now---that passion my partner doesn't know how to ignite in me. I don't even know if he can. It's been hard bottling my sexuality inside. I think my sexuality overwhelms him and he just doesn't know what to do with it. I am a highly sexual woman--I love pleasuring others and myself, endlessly.

Any advice on how to make a relationship more sexual? Or am I just with the wrong guy?

I've read your post and have considered this matter very carefully and it's clear to me that you're a fuckin' lesbian.

Seriously, if it ain't there, move on. He is who he is and not likely to change.

 

[Geist26]

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[Scentofawoman]

Your 23 and young enough to walk away. It's hard to and it will break your heart. Being in a passionless marriage is not fair to you or even him. Move and let go even though it breaks his heart.

 

[Santa__Claus]

Mrs. Claus and I never had that problem. We still can't keep our hands off each other.

 

[doctor_insanus]

"I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

It's a bullshit line, and it does nothing to soften the blow.

Just end it.