I love crushes! But not the orange kind

[A Desert Rose]

Is there anything worse than having a crush on someone who doesn't know you exist? Or knows you exist but has no idea you care? Or just kinda knows who you are but that's all.

On one hand, I love crushes. They remind me I'm still young yet... ;-) and single enough to take great pleasure in them.

It makes my pulse race to see him. I like that feeling. I like seeing him and knowing I've got a secret. I like the cat-n-mouse of it. I love secretly studying him, and he has no idea... I love the smell of him when he's around.

I love having crushes and at any given time, I usually have a couple of them.

But it's also frustrating and sad. You want him to notice you. You want him to speak to you. And you can't bring yourself to let him know.

If someone had a crush on you, would you want them to tell you? Would you want to know, even if you didn't have similar feelings for them?




And on a personal note: foxy, wherever you are, cellis and I miss you hugely.

 

[graceanne]

Crushes is the only thing I miss from not being married. I loved that feeling, when you're crushing on someone. lol

 

[A Desert Rose]

Crushes is the only thing I miss from not being married. I loved that feeling, when you're crushing on someone. lol

I know someone like you, and I mean that as a compliment, would never act on any crushes you might have. Not to say that you have any... I would have no idea, one way or the other. But you seem to be very much in love with your husband and not interested in that "other" game anymore.

Having convictions and sticking to your comittments is something to be admired and respected. I think you're a dying breed and I'm sure you're proud of your life.

I'm guessing you and I are the only ones who know how crushes feel. Or you're the only one who cares to comment on my thread. LOL

thank you for that, grace. ;-)

And I told him today that I have a tiny crush on him... judging by his face, I think he was pleased to hear it.

 

[FurryFury]

I love that first flush of excitement. The ideas of what you and this person might do together and become together.

(It just bites my ass real hard when that gets all shot to shit as usual.)

Still, it's a great fun thing to have over and over again!

I look at my husband sometimes and feel that all over again. Or I think of something he did today that makes it all feel shiny and new. Or the look in his eyes when we really talk about our life together. When I know for him, life really couldn't get much better because in part, he has me.

It's a horribly lovely thing that makes me smile and want to kiss him, so I do.

Fury

Oh and I LOVE orange crushes! I even have some lip gloss that is orange crush!

 

[A Desert Rose]

I love that first flush of excitement. The ideas of what you and this person might do together and become together.

(It just bites my ass real hard when that gets all shot to shit as usual.)

Still, it's a great fun thing to have over and over again!

I look at my husband sometimes and feel that all over again. Or I think of something he did today that makes it all feel shiny and new. Or the look in his eyes when we really talk about our life together. When I know for him, life really couldn't get much better because in part, he has me.

It's a horribly lovely thing that makes me smile and want to kiss him, so I do.

Fury

What a nice thing to say! Crushes aren't limited to just singles. It's wonderful you still feel those things for the man you have made a life with. I'm sure Grace does too.

I love the sweaty palms and like you said the "flush of excitement" that comes with it when I see him or when he stops to talk to me about something goofy like... mmmm lab results... LOL

 

[FurryFury]

Ah those are lovely moments to cherish no matter what...

Fury

 

[HawkEye38]

Hmm, didn't realize it, but I havn't had a crush on anyone for many a year. Life and love's just sort of hit kinda hard the last 5 years, so I dunno, maybe I've gotten too old for things of that sort.

I'm 19, people tell me I have an old soul, maybe they're right.

 

[graceanne]

I know someone like you, and I mean that as a compliment, would never act on any crushes you might have. Not to say that you have any... I would have no idea, one way or the other. But you seem to be very much in love with your husband and not interested in that "other" game anymore.

Having convictions and sticking to your comittments is something to be admired and respected. I think you're a dying breed and I'm sure you're proud of your life.

I'm guessing you and I are the only ones who know how crushes feel. Or you're the only one who cares to comment on my thread. LOL

thank you for that, grace. ;-)

And I told him today that I have a tiny crush on him... judging by his face, I think he was pleased to hear it.

I am in love with him - most of the time.

But even if I wasn't, I wouldn't act on a crush or flirt with another guy. As long as I'm married it's just not ok.

When I was in highschool and dating that sub, I knew I was gonna break up with him. He was driving me crazy. And I was interested in another guy - but I didn't flirt with him. As long as I was with another guy I owed him my loyalty.

As far as I'm concerned that if things ever get bad enough that I need to seek someone else's attention, then things are over, and I owe him the respect of ending it with him before I start with someone else.

 

[Red Sonja]

Not true... I do know how crushes feel. And I am glad to comment on your thread... but, work has to come first.

Ever notice how when you are crushing there is an electrical current between the two of you? You can tell just before he walks into a room, and you look up because you can palpably "feel" his presence kwim? You just know when its him calling on the phone... and he knows when it is you too.

It's so exciting and intoxicating. The irritating habits are still endearing and fun quirks. A lot of the time I still feel that way about my hubby. It's like we are joined at the hip. He still wants me to take his arm when we go out walking, we hold hands... it's like we are still newly weds.

 

[Xelebes]

Yeah, I crush on girls.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I preffer to sidestep the crush all together and leap right into boiling the bunnies.

 

[babiesmiles]

I love crushes ! I always have one .

I had when single , when not single and now that i'm not technically single !

I love to have someone who fills my thoughts , like a little holiday from my frantic train of life , a moment for collect myself focusing on a pleasant feeling.

But I have crushes not only on people , I have on musics, books , artworks , places. Call me sick but it happened to me to have crushes even on determinate job cases or study searches I made .... ok I am a passionate lass ... but I'm "mediterreanean" so I think I'm someway justified ..

 

[brioche]

I still get crushes. and yes, they are fun.

 

[FurryFury]

Hmm, didn't realize it, but I havn't had a crush on anyone for many a year. Life and love's just sort of hit kinda hard the last 5 years, so I dunno, maybe I've gotten too old for things of that sort.

I'm 19, people tell me I have an old soul, maybe they're right.

*Hands you a cane.* Poor old dude...

Trust me there are crushes and then there are crushes. You have at least one or two good ones left in ya.

*nods sagely*

Fury

Oh and Beautiful Graceanne, I respect your values.

For me though, I just happen to consider flirting like breathing. Now acting on it's a whole 'nother ball game. I've always been faithful. I don't feel like one other person can ever fulfil 100% of my needs. That's why I work, have a wide circle of friends and hang online, I've got all sorts of needs.

Fury

Red Sonja!

I do know those lovely electrical prescient feelings. Umm! Great stuff!

Fury

 

[A Desert Rose]

Yeah, I crush on girls.

And no doubt, lots of them crush on you. ;-)

 

[cellis]

I do like having a crush on someone even though it has been a while... I used to have the biggest crush on Nessus.... most of you won't remember her, but she was one of the best.

 

[snowy ciara]

I crush a lot, but usually don't really mention it to the crushee. I must say, the one who knows my crush handles it really well, and only teases a little bit.

 

[graceanne]

I crush a lot, but usually don't really mention it to the crushee. I must say, the one who knows my crush handles it really well, and only teases a little bit.

SNOWY! *hugs*

Don't you think, now that you live in arizona, you should change your name to something like 'sandy ciara' or 'desert ciara' or 'guess how warm it is here ciara'?

 

[snowy ciara]

Nope, cause I miss it and I'm going home someday, or at least somewhere closer. And it does snow here, you know....Well not, "here" here, but in the state.

 

[Xelebes]

And no doubt, lots of them crush on you. ;-)

Oh, they crush all right. Nasty nasty jaws.