I like that guy..but does HE like guys?

[CuriousNiceGuy]

I'm sure it has happened to a lot of you.Guys and girls..

So there's this guy who's super-hot and has an interesting personality.
I liked him when I first saw him but tried to make it more a friendship and didn't give off any 'I like you' signs.I don't touch him a lot(and by touch I don't mean in a pervert way ) I speak to him as a friend.But again the logic clashes with the feelings.I still like him.
Anyway, this guy-his name is Aggelos(in greek it means Angel-it suits his cute face )- he is very famous with the ladies.He flirts with each newly appeared opportunity and doesn't keep long relationships.

I find it kind of funny that, because I'm somewhat shy he's trying to give advise on how to hit on women(WHY DO THEY ALWAYS SEE ME LIKE A FRIEND????Do i have to introduce myself in a "Hi, I DON'T wanna be your friend.I want to FUCK you!").
Despite the fact that I like him I try to build a good friendship with him.
He probably likes me as a friend, but I sometimes get the feeling it's more than that..
Like when we're with others, we talk a lot and laugh more, but when we are alone, we mostly walk slowly and talk silently.And the awkwardest thing is that when we stay up late and end up on a bench or something, he sometimes rests his head on my shoulder, or stares at me intensely and I feel like my heart is going to burst..

Do you think that it's just my imagination?
I'm not making this sound any more than it should..I'm just so confused.
I want to go on with a friendship, but if he DOES like guys, I'd prefer to try things out with him.BTW I haven't had a relationship with a guy before..

Also have you guys/girls ever been in a similar situation?

 

[willingtotry]

I'm sure it has happened to a lot of you.Guys and girls..

So there's this guy who's super-hot and has an interesting personality.
I liked him when I first saw him but tried to make it more a friendship and didn't give off any 'I like you' signs.I don't touch him a lot(and by touch I don't mean in a pervert way ) I speak to him as a friend.But again the logic clashes with the feelings.I still like him.
Anyway, this guy-his name is Aggelos(in greek it means Angel-it suits his cute face )- he is very famous with the ladies.He flirts with each newly appeared opportunity and doesn't keep long relationships.

I find it kind of funny that, because I'm somewhat shy he's trying to give advise on how to hit on women(WHY DO THEY ALWAYS SEE ME LIKE A FRIEND????Do i have to introduce myself in a "Hi, I DON'T wanna be your friend.I want to FUCK you!").
Despite the fact that I like him I try to build a good friendship with him.
He probably likes me as a friend, but I sometimes get the feeling it's more than that..
Like when we're with others, we talk a lot and laugh more, but when we are alone, we mostly walk slowly and talk silently.And the awkwardest thing is that when we stay up late and end up on a bench or something, he sometimes rests his head on my shoulder, or stares at me intensely and I feel like my heart is going to burst..

Do you think that it's just my imagination?
I'm not making this sound any more than it should..I'm just so confused.
I want to go on with a friendship, but if he DOES like guys, I'd prefer to try things out with him.BTW I haven't had a relationship with a guy before..

Also have you guys/girls ever been in a similar situation?

I hear you on this. I'm way too shy to ask a guy if he's gay or bi, so I usually just hit on guys on know are gay. Well, the cute ones anway.

Does he know you're gay/bi? Maybe he feels the same way.

 

[DarkAurora]

GO for it! Not trying to stereotype but I've never met a straight guy who leans his head on other guys. Next time he leans his head on your shoulder or stares at you intensely, go for a kiss. Be brave! You only live once. Either that or let him know that you're gay or bi and then he may make the move on you.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

No, he doesn't know I'm bi.
Lol DarkAurora, I can't even get to tell him that I'm bi quite yet, I would go in for a kiss??? Not that it hasn't crossed my mind
Yes, it's true that I've never seen any straight guys lean their heads on their friends shoulders..
Well, I do that when I'm bored or want to sleep, but just on my friends..
Regardless of the fact that I'm bi..
It's just that, here in Greece there's a lot of 'acting like I'm gay for fun' going on.(we are more open-minded than most people anyway..)
Maybe he just feels comfortable with me.
And the more annoying thing is that he is always calling people with 'baby', or 'love'..And ok when we're alone together and he calls me that, I feel embarassed sometimes..

Oh, well..I guess if I tell him some day that I'm bi, I'll just hope he makes a move on me..

But it's not just something you tell on people..What if he asks why i'm telling him.We're not even that close to actually feel comfortable with telling him.

I hope it works out for me anyway
Thanks for the advice guys

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Lol..I never thought I'd post again here, but the mystery is probably solved-NOT in my favor though.
Today I asked him to call me and go get some coffee, and in the afternoon he called.I answer the phone, and I hear him saying hello.Then after some blah,blah he tells me my voice is sexy(!??!?!).And asks me to tell him something hot(!!!???!?!?!??!??) and I laugh.And I'm thinking:"well, that's a good sign.."
And then I ask him what he is doing and guess what he says..No, you probably can't..

"I'm having some coffee with my mother at the balcony."
I mean MEEEEEEEEEEEEERCY!!WHO talks like this to a BOY in front of his mother?

Btw later that evening we were supposed to meet at a party of a common friend, but he had a 'job'.
I'm guessing I'll just focus on something else.
Too bad..he was really hot..

 

[DarkAurora]

OMG, how can you have any doubt at all that he likes you?! He totally wants you, go for it! Go for it or I'll shove this dancing banana up your butt and not in a pleasurable way!

 

[Harrowborg]

It certainly sounds like hes dipping his toes in your pond so to speak. While it would be nice to say go for it, make a move just be careful. Flirtings one thing, for the most part its harmless and no one gets hurt but crossing that line is something else entirely. The fact hes so 'famous' with the girls kinda goes to show he likes this reputation so may not be emotionally ready to be 'famous' with guys as well. be careful.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

OMG, how can you have any doubt at all that he likes you?! He totally wants you, go for it! Go for it or I'll shove this dancing banana up your butt and not in a pleasurable way

Lol, I know it sounds crazy that I have doubts, but this is me and my friends we're talking about.I mean we even grope each other at times with my best (totally straight) friends. But..

Flirting's one thing, for the most part its harmless and no one gets hurt but crossing that line is something else entirely.

..THIS is what i'm afraid of.I'm flirting with him partially as a joke(of course I wouldn't mind anything happening ) but if I tell him(or show him!? )
I got the hots for him, it may change everything.
*sigh* sometimes I curse myself for being so unconfident..
Well, if it happens it happens.
But thanks for being supportive
DarkAurora, how could a banana in my as not be pleasurable?

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Ok, just keeping you informed on this.(Not that you were itching to learn how things were going on )Things have been working out just fine, but only that.Not good, not bad..Juuuust fine.
We get out more than before and usually when we go out with many people he comes sits with me, then I leave and then he comes again..
Yesterday he sat on my lap with the lame excuse that he didn't want to ruin his white trousers on the dirty bench (-_-), but after some teasing from my friends(Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!) he got up and I became lonely
I would like to think it's going to THAT direction, but I'm still TOO cautious.
My two best friends who are with us most of the time, would have probably noticed it too, but I think AGAIN he is just being friendly.He really has started to fit in with my best friends and me though, and even if nothing happens I'm still happy to spend time with him as a friend
Till next time people

 

[SilkVelvet]

Hi CuriousNiceGuy, question for you please..

Hope you don't mind me asking.. you say that you live in Greece and that the people you hang out with are pretty much open-minded..do you think that is because Greece had bisexual heroes in the past eg Alexander the Great , or just that you hang with some kool ppl ?

Oh and I think yeah he is a flirt and he has sussed that you like him.. I'm not sure what he is doing either though, from what you are saying.

Keep us posted

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm..no..not at all.When I said open-minded I didn't think of that, though I was sure that at some point someone would think about the famous 'homosexual' greek heroes.Personally I don't even believe that Alexander the Great had homosexual experiences, though it would sound normal for me.I only said that because most of the people I know don't usually care about such things as sexuality.You either like men, women, or both.It's that simple.Why make a fuss about it.
It's a shame though as I can't 'trust' this open-mindness they've shown, as I fear it is just 'acting cool and grown-up'.
Anyway..If I was in another country and a guy did the things this guy does, I would probably go for it(as I have the impression that things aren't as simple in other countries as in Greece.But then again, we aren't that special..).
Sorry, but lately I don't know what to believe.I'm in a constantly confused phase about people and feelings and especially honesty and originality.
That's why I can't even make a move with this guy.

The only sure thing I can tell you, is that my belief that Greek are open-minded has nothing to do with our history, but mainly from my experiences with Greek people.