i like sex -- my girlfriend doesn't

[JaJaJa]

OK, I have this problem. Basically, my girlfriend doesnÕt like sex nearly as much as I do. She thinks itÕs -- nice, I guess, but ranks it below reading newsgroups. As an enlightened guy, I wouldnÕt want to have sex if she wasnÕt interested, so we rarely do.

This has been making me pretty unhappy recently. I wind up feeling a little angry, and a little hurt, and generally stupid and unpleasant (you know the feeling IÕm talking about). We have a loving relationship, and I hate myself for letting this get to me, but it really is.

Falling asleep turned on is like falling asleep with a burn on your finger, but worse, cause if you could just do this one thing it would all go away...

Anyway, I know IÕm not the only person to experience this. How have you guys (and girls, I suppose) handled it? How have you girls (and to be fair, guys) handled being subjected to it?

The only thing IÕve thought of so far is to castrate myself, but I know that would only hurt me in the long run

 

[Wizard]

What the hell is up with the O's????????????????...........................

 

[Weird Harold]

What the hell is up with the O's????????????????...........................

The accented O's are a translation error from a cut and paste operation. They should be apostrophes but they came from a program with "smart quotes" turned on.

posted by JaJaJa
OK, I have this problem. Basically, my girlfriend doesn't like sex nearly as much as I do. She thinks it's -- nice, I guess, but ranks it below reading newsgroups. As an enlightened guy, I wouldn't want to have sex if she wasn't interested, so we rarely do.

The only thing I can think of is that you aren't spending enough effort on her pleasure. Some women just don't enjoy sex, but most of them are less than satisfied because it takes more effort from their partner to satisfy them.

I don't know if this is the case with your relationship or not. The only way you can find out if it this is the problem is to ask HER what can be done to improve your joint sex lives.

 

[Wizard]

Ahhhhhhhhhh never saw anything like that before WH, Now I know....Thanks....

 

[Blackbich]

Have you tried talking to her to about what's going on? Some women have past sexual issues that they need to resolve. Until they do this, they may have a problem with sex. You say you have a loving relationship - if that's the case she'll understand that this is an issue for you and will be willing to look inside herself to resolve what's going on. If not, you have some decisions to make.

Good luck.

 

[lavender]