I just told my friend...

[Harrowborg]

Well, I guess this is a familiar story for everyone who reads this board but today I told my best mate I was bi-sexual. We were having a casual chat about things and she was like, I wonder what it would be like to kiss another girl. I mentioned that it wouldn't be so weird so she said, well how many guys have you made out with, as a joke. So I told her the truth, and suddenly it felt so liberating. I don't regret or feel guilty that I can walk down the street and admire both guys and girls, but I have felt like, constrained, restricted that I have to be this 'hetro-sexual' guy to my friends when thats not really me. Anyway, maybe some of you can relate to this, but it certainly is nice to finally be me, and be happy about it.

 

[College_geek]

Good for you! I just wish that the world in general could be more accepting so that others could be themselves and not have to pretend they're something they're not. Yeesh.

 

[Harrowborg]

Yeah, wish it was that easy to. Its nice being able to confide with someone your such great mates with that you sray from the 'norm' but hey, she knows now.

 

[Never]

In high school there was only one girl I knew that I was comfortable enough with to come out to. In college, everyone around me knew and it was great. I've come to the point where I can't consider someone my friend unless they know about my sexuality. It's not that I feel the need to tell people but how can you be close to someone if you're worried they'd reject you over your choice of partners?

 

[Harrowborg]

Yeah, thats kinda how I feel. Although, living in England which I guess is the same in most parts of the world, I know I would alienate and make people feel uncomfortable not being part of the 'norm', eg. hetro-sexual, only having sex when trying to pro-create etc.. it was nice being able to trust someone though.
(btw, i love that little aviator, is that from somewhere?)

 

[sexy-girl]

that's cool ... i had a sort of bad experience when a friend found out i was gay but i didn't tell her in the best kind of way (i kissed her )

i'm not sure if its because of that but i didn't tell anyone else i was gay until i had a steady girlfriend but i think if i knew i could of told someone and they would of been ok with it i would of


what i find most annoying about telling people now is when i'm 95% sure they know already but they will just ignore it so i end up having to spell it out to them

 

[Never]

Harrowborg,
Unless I hang out with a wild little crowd, I'm pretty certain most heterosexuals don't have sex only to procreate.

It is from somewhere, a manga or an anime, but I don't know where it's from.

sexy-girl,
Kissing them to tell them you're gay. Yes, that sounds like you.

 

[april-wine]

I guess I have always thought that my friends are my friends NO matter whom I sleep with....Well, unless I am hitting on them....

 

[Harrowborg]

eeek...been there, kissed my best mate, regretted it so much in the morning with the worst hang over on record. I dunno, not to sound to deep or bla bla bla but its like most 'conversative' people while shaggin each others wifes, daughters, nannies..um, anything with a pulse really, still only see sex as something between a man and woman when they are trying to have kids. i dunno, another topic maybe.
Its kinda funny, now I've told her, just feel more confident I can tell other people. Although she thinks I'm going to start going on gay pride marches and all that, I was trying to tell her just because I happen to like guys as well now, all it means is I have more options.

 

[sexy-girl]

Harrowborg,
Unless I hang out with a wild little crowd, I'm pretty certain most heterosexuals don't have sex only to procreate.

It is from somewhere, a manga or an anime, but I don't know where it's from.

sexy-girl,
Kissing them to tell them you're gay. Yes, that sounds like you.

you make the best looking posts

it just seemed like a polite way to tell her and she did kiss back a bit ......

Its kinda funny, now I've told her, just feel more confident I can tell other people. Although she thinks I'm going to start going on gay pride marches and all that, I was trying to tell her just because I happen to like guys as well now, all it means is I have more options.

i still only really tell people that i know will find out anyway or people that mean a lot to me and i want them to know

 

[Prime]

Yeah, wish it was that easy to. Its nice being able to confide with someone your such great mates with that you sray from the 'norm' but hey, she knows now.

The internet is a great thing, it grants anonimity to all. the things i've said here, i've never said to anyone in real life. but then thats not because i'm scared of what people might think, but more because i don't really give a damn what they think. hell, i've never out and said to anyone that i'm straight, bi, or gay. frankly, my sexuality is no ones buisness but that of myself and the person i love.

but i know what you mean about the liberating feeling

 

[Harrowborg]

The internet is a great thing, it grants anonimity to all. the things i've said here, i've never said to anyone in real life. but then thats not because i'm scared of what people might think, but more because i don't really give a damn what they think. hell, i've never out and said to anyone that i'm straight, bi, or gay. frankly, my sexuality is no ones buisness but that of myself and the person i love.

but i know what you mean about the liberating feeling

I think most people who know me well enough on here no my bi its just taking that chance with someone in your life who you trust but are a bit scared might react badly. Its sad to have to admit to that but what I feared most was alienating my mate but hey, it worked out.

 

[Mermaid]

The first time I told a friend in college that I was bi, she cried and said "But I don't want you to go to hell..."

 

[Regis2001]

I have to say, telling my friends that I was bi (well, I told them I was gay, but I was confused) was sort of a mixed blessing. I wasn't - I'm still not - the most manly of men, and so I managed to get caught in the camp feedback loop. Y'know, they expected me to be camp, so I was camp, so they expected me to be more camp, and so on and so forth.

But after we got that little misunderstanding cleared up and I worked out that yes, I could like girls and I didn't have to be like Graham Norton, things were good. And they remain so to this day.

Have a nice day!

 

[Harrowborg]

...You know what, I hadn't actually considered if my mates would expect me to act in a different way now lol. I just assumed they would expect me to show up to stuff with either a girl or guy and just accept it..oh well..have to see.