I just found out my boyfriend is bisexual !

[PredatorSmile]

I have just discovered something shocking about my boyfriend of 2 years. It seems that my tall, dark and handsome, sensitive poet boyfriend is bisexual. How did I discover it ? He spent the night at my place and I saw something that caught my attention. A shiny card sticking out of his pants pocket. While he was asleep. I found the words " Bisexual Men's Network" on it. It seems that he's a member of that organization.


I didn't know what to think of it at first. Now, I'm wondering why he didn't tell me. I mean, I'm bi too, hello !!! I've been with both men and women in the past, though I have a definite preference for men when it comes to long-term relationships. I'm in love with this guy. Always have been. Wanna know something odd ? Two years ago, when we first made love, he told me that I was his "first woman". That surprised me. I would have thought that a pretty boy like him would have been with plenty of women by the time he was in college.



I am so awed that he didn't tell that he was bi. I'm cool with it. I have lots of gay male friends. My best friend is a gay man who's in a long-term relationship with his male partner. If anyone is open to sexuality and alternative lifestyles, it's ME !!!


He doesn't know that I know he's bi. I'm cool with it. Still, I dont know how to break it to him. Why are men so secretive these days ?

 

[RazorSplitClit]

Maybe, he's so happy with you he doesn't want to fuck anyone else? So, it doesn't matter what his sexual orientation is.

 

[Prime]

Maybe, he's so happy with you he doesn't want to fuck anyone else? So, it doesn't matter what his sexual orientation is.

well spoken

 

[Juken]

He doesn't know that I know he's bi. I'm cool with it. Still, I dont know how to break it to him. Why are men so secretive these days ?

These Days? Men have always been secretive regarding any same sex tendencies. I think that bisexuality among men is not as accepted as is with women.

 

[hoodooman]

it's odd but

It's an odd phenomenon but even bi sexuals and gays can have double standards when it comes to bi.....

I've had people tell me how open they are to bi and gay but then I found out they weren't as ok as they said...

Telling you may be embarassing for him and it's also possible he fears he could lose you and/or that telling you may mean many others will know eventually..

 

[little cletus]

Maybe, he's so happy with you he doesn't want to fuck anyone else? So, it doesn't matter what his sexual orientation is.

I think if his membership card is hanging out of his pocket, he probably has been fucking someone else...pretty recently too. Not divulging your bi-sexuality can be dangerous to your partner. After 2 years this should have been talked about. You dont have to break up, but you deserve the truth, and also owe him the truth.

 

[Samuelx]

Hmm....hard to decide. I'm curious as to why he wouldn't tell you he's bi since you're bi too and have lots of gay/bi friends. If you're not open-minded, then who is ?

 

[interface]

Maybe he's never actually been with a guy? If you're his first woman, then maybe there was no first man?

Many possiblities. But, here's the thing:

People on forums don't know the answer to questions that they can't know the answer to.

Ask him. That simple.

 

[robbie_boy1]

I have just discovered something shocking about my boyfriend of 2 years. It seems that my tall, dark and handsome, sensitive poet boyfriend is bisexual. How did I discover it ? He spent the night at my place and I saw something that caught my attention. A shiny card sticking out of his pants pocket. While he was asleep. I found the words " Bisexual Men's Network" on it. It seems that he's a member of that organization.


I didn't know what to think of it at first. Now, I'm wondering why he didn't tell me. I mean, I'm bi too, hello !!! I've been with both men and women in the past, though I have a definite preference for men when it comes to long-term relationships. I'm in love with this guy. Always have been. Wanna know something odd ? Two years ago, when we first made love, he told me that I was his "first woman". That surprised me. I would have thought that a pretty boy like him would have been with plenty of women by the time he was in college.



I am so awed that he didn't tell that he was bi. I'm cool with it. I have lots of gay male friends. My best friend is a gay man who's in a long-term relationship with his male partner. If anyone is open to sexuality and alternative lifestyles, it's ME !!!


He doesn't know that I know he's bi. I'm cool with it. Still, I dont know how to break it to him. Why are men so secretive these days ?

I read all the posts and thought.... You have been so open and honest with him, perhaps he is trying to understand your thinking. It is only a guess because I am bi and I told my wife that I was. At least I thought I was and wanted to explore so we explored it together just like we explored her bi side.

In the great scheme of things, with us anyway, it doesn't really matter. We both feel that everyone has some bi in them. Please let it be known that is our feeling and not necessarilly the way management feels *LOL*

 

[PredatorSmile]

I see what you mean. Since I've been dating him, both men and women have hit on me. I tell them off because I'm faithful to my man. The thought that he could be cheating on me with some guy temporarily made me seethe with anger. I believe in honesty in relationships. I've had open relationships before. Once, the gal I was with had women and men on the side, with my consent. Heck, once, we shared a girl. Now, I'm feeling monogamous. I'm very open and rather vulnerable right now. I'm cool with his being bi. If that means that at some point he's gonna want a man, then he can tell me and we can work it out. I might even join in on the fun, lol. But cheating on me is NOT okay !!!

 

[fingermagic]

I have just discovered something shocking about my boyfriend of 2 years. It seems that my tall, dark and handsome, sensitive poet boyfriend is bisexual. How did I discover it ? He spent the night at my place and I saw something that caught my attention. A shiny card sticking out of his pants pocket. While he was asleep. I found the words " Bisexual Men's Network" on it. It seems that he's a member of that organization.


I didn't know what to think of it at first. Now, I'm wondering why he didn't tell me. I mean, I'm bi too, hello !!! I've been with both men and women in the past, though I have a definite preference for men when it comes to long-term relationships. I'm in love with this guy. Always have been. Wanna know something odd ? Two years ago, when we first made love, he told me that I was his "first woman". That surprised me. I would have thought that a pretty boy like him would have been with plenty of women by the time he was in college.



I am so awed that he didn't tell that he was bi. I'm cool with it. I have lots of gay male friends. My best friend is a gay man who's in a long-term relationship with his male partner. If anyone is open to sexuality and alternative lifestyles, it's ME !!!


He doesn't know that I know he's bi. I'm cool with it. Still, I dont know how to break it to him. Why are men so secretive these days ?

Can I have him when you are done??? Pretty please.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Back off, he's mine ! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[mreneetg]

Have you set up a candle light dinner for your man, and then after dinner showed him this thread on Literotica? If that doesn't break the ice and lead to a long talk, then I don't know what would. Hugs

 

[mjk128]

Back off, he's mine ! Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr !!!!!!!!!!!!

There is just something sooooo sexy about a posessive woman!!! Hell Yeah! Flash those claws!

 

[stargazer64]

Nosy neighbor over here........

Wondering if you've talked to the boyfriend yet about what you've found out.

After getting a peak into this moment in your life, I need to have some closure and find out what happened in the end. (I told you I was the nosy neighbor)

Don't you hate reports on the news when they never show you what happened next or how it was all resolved? I know I do.

 

[mreneetg]

I agree with stargazer, need to have closure to find out if anyones advice has helped, or if predatorsmile has had some awe inspiring moment of truth with the boyfriend.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm, maybe he doesn't want to put weird ideas in your mind.
Like: "Oh, is that his best friend or is there something more? I'll RIP HIM APART!!!"

Well, if he didn't put you any strange ideas I sure did -_-''
Sorry about that! ^_^''

Men are secretive because they don't like change or rejection.
If he tells you that he's bi, you may change your attitude towards him.
Dunno, just wild guesses..I know that If my girlfriend was bi I'd tell her the truth though..It's up to him really, don't push him to tell u, cause he may freak out.

 

[Mari J]

A shiny card sticking out of his pants pocket? Maybe he wanted you to find out.

 

[DarkAurora]

It's most likely one of two scenarios (Hopefully number two)

One: He's secretly sleeping with guys on the side

Two: You said something off-hand that may make him think you won't accept him being bi.

 

[BT-NJ]

Sadly, it's like that old movie saying:
"I want the truth"
"you can't handle the truth!!"

 

[FLBob]

Telling you may be embarassing for him and it's also possible he fears he could lose you and/or that telling you may mean many others will know eventually..

I think this is the most likely scenario. Perhaps he's just afraid of what you'll think of him. The general stigma is that it's perfectly ok for a woman to be bi, but not for a guy. He may be afraid of losing you or being embarrassed.

Buy a porn one day and watch it with him...then go buy a bi-porn and pop it in...comment on how sexy you think it is and maybe he'll open up about it.

 

[JerryEdwards]

Hmmm

Maybe that was his way of letting you know...? If you made a negative remark towards it he would say someone at work gaveit to him as a joke. With a positive comment... ya in like Flynn!!

 

[Samuelx]

Um, how could I be a bisexual woman and yet be intolerant of bisexual men ? That's hypocrisy of the lowest kind.

 

[Samuelx]

I meant, how could she be a bisexual woman and yet be intolerant of bisexual men ? I've never seen anything like this before.

 

[OlderBiMan]

The best thing you can do is be supportive and understanding. By the way, bisexual men are perfectly capable of being monogamous. Being bi doesn't mean the guy will ditch you and hump the nearest jock or cheerleader he sees walking around. My wife knew I was bi and she was supportive. We spent decades together, raised children and had our own business. I have no regrets. God rest her soul.