I have permission...honest

[Imi]

I had an interesting conversation with my hubby tonight that highlights a double standard. Or maybe it doesn't, but I want to see what other people think about it.

If a man said to a woman "Well, I'm married, but I have permission to play," she'd probably snort and say, "Yeah, right, see ya later." If a woman said that to a man, the response would probably be "Cool! Let's go!"

True? How many ladies would believe a guy actually did have permission to play?

 

[RogerBsGirl]

Not me...

 

[strawberryangel]

I had an interesting conversation with my hubby tonight that highlights a double standard. Or maybe it doesn't, but I want to see what other people think about it.

If a man said to a woman "Well, I'm married, but I have permission to play," she'd probably snort and say, "Yeah, right, see ya later." If a woman said that to a man, the response would probably be "Cool! Let's go!"

True? How many ladies would believe a guy actually did have permission to play?

In my experience none of them really do. Because the majority of who I have spoken with hide it from the mate. All are ready to go, all the time. And when I say I can't talk that way they say "cool" but every now and then push the issue...lol

 

[montrealgirl]

How many ladies would believe a guy actually did have permission to play?

Not I.

 

[MrFantasyMan]

I had an interesting conversation with my hubby tonight that highlights a double standard. Or maybe it doesn't, but I want to see what other people think about it.

If a man said to a woman "Well, I'm married, but I have permission to play," she'd probably snort and say, "Yeah, right, see ya later." If a woman said that to a man, the response would probably be "Cool! Let's go!"

True? How many ladies would believe a guy actually did have permission to play?

If a guy has to tell you he has permission...he doesn't!
If you need to hear he has permission you shouldn't be asking...

 

[baldbull]

U R right!

again..

 

[whatageek]

I have permission to "play"...believe it or not!

 

[Imi]

So what happens if you actually bump into someone who is in an open relationship? Seems like that guy would be caught between a rock and a hard place. Be upfront and not be beleived or not mention it because it's not an issue and risk being called a liar.

I guess the guy would be called a liar in any case.





Okay, maybe the guy can't avoid being called a liar???

 

[Imi]

I have permission to "play"...believe it or not!

Now, how did you manage that? And how successful have you been at finding partners to play with that were okay with the fact that you have a wife?

 

[baldbull]

Trying to figure out......

your interest IMI? Profile says happly married, i am too so why are we here?

 

[sinnamongyrl]

I gave my husband"permission',Not that anyone needs it.If he is going to..he/she will with or without your persmission.But I told him I did not mind if he did.I am sure a lot of people would just say its wrong/crazy/stupid,but ..its just the way I feel.

 

[montrealgirl]

your interest IMI? Profile says happly married, i am too so why are we here?

Now THAT is the million dollar question right there.

 

[whatageek]

Ummm, well...good question. LOL We just decided after 13 years to give it a try and see how it worked out. This was a very recent decision...so I haven't done any "playing" yet...but did have dinner with another very nice Lit member the other day. My wife of course has men falling all over her...quite the pickins' LOL. Me of course being a guy I have a harder time finding "potential playmates".

 

[baldbull]

so that is the thread we should really start...

you are one of the more outspoken fems on lit, so why are you here? Why cant I meet you in the real world (translation: why aren't you out tonight or in bed getting your body rocked?

 

[whatageek]

I gave my husband"permission',Not that anyone needs it.If he is going to..he/she will with or without your persmission.But I told him I did not mind if he did.I am sure a lot of people would just say its wrong/crazy/stupid,but ..its just the way I feel.

Well I don't necessarily agrea that he/she will do it with or without "permission". If my wife was not ok with it then that would be the end of it. I would never do anything to jeopardize what I have at home.

Some people do say it's wrong/crazy/stupid....but who cares eh? LOL

 

[sinnamongyrl]

you are one of the more outspoken fems on lit, so why are you here? Why cant I meet you in the real world (translation: why aren't you out tonight or in bed getting your body rocked?

who are you asking about?Imi or Montrealgirl?

 

[strawberryangel]

Well I don't necessarily agrea that he/she will do it with or without "permission". If my wife was not ok with it then that would be the end of it. I would never do anything to jeopardize what I have at home.

Some people do say it's wrong/crazy/stupid....but who cares eh? LOL

exactly that is the point. When you have communication and each knows what the other is doing then it is another tie that binds. It is the ones that tell me "my wife doesn't know I am on lit and I plan to keep it that way" that puzzle me...then why say you are happily married. I am, hubby knows and we post together. We have rules that we follow to keep each other comfortable...I am more adventurous then he but respect his wishes.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Well I don't necessarily agrea that he/she will do it with or without "permission". If my wife was not ok with it then that would be the end of it. I would never do anything to jeopardize what I have at home.

Some people do say it's wrong/crazy/stupid....but who cares eh? LOL

exaclty.who cares what other think.i view sex in a very different light than a lot of people I know do.My friend said i was NUTS to do this,,,HIS FRIENDS?hhahaha..they said he was one of the luckiest guys they knew.....,,,weird how that it is....

 

[montrealgirl]

exactly that is the point. When you have communication and each knows what the other is doing then it is another tie that binds. It is the ones that tell me "my wife doesn't know I am on lit and I plan to keep it that way" that puzzle me...then why say you are happily married. I am, hubby knows and we post together. We have rules that we follow to keep each other comfortable...I am more adventurous then he but respect his wishes.

Now that sounds ideal...hope I can have a relationship like that someday...

Good for you...

MG

 

[sinnamongyrl]

exactly that is the point. When you have communication and each knows what the other is doing then it is another tie that binds. It is the ones that tell me "my wife doesn't know I am on lit and I plan to keep it that way" that puzzle me...then why say you are happily married. I am, hubby knows and we post together. We have rules that we follow to keep each other comfortable...I am more adventurous then he but respect his wishes.

i am married,,,but not happily so,THAT is another long and very boring story all together.But I gave the "permsion slip" in the beginning when I was,,,,,,its always been there.But is sounds like you have a much happier marriage than I do,You are very lucky.I think that is great,

 

[southerntierguy]

I had an interesting conversation with my hubby tonight that highlights a double standard. Or maybe it doesn't, but I want to see what other people think about it.

If a man said to a woman "Well, I'm married, but I have permission to play," she'd probably snort and say, "Yeah, right, see ya later." If a woman said that to a man, the response would probably be "Cool! Let's go!"

True? How many ladies would believe a guy actually did have permission to play?

I hope this isn't being too sterotypical. I would find it difficult to believe from either a man or a woman, although I know there are some situations where it would be a true statement. I think the difference in response, if there is one (I have no real data to base this on other than an impression), is that probably most men think too much with their dick and wouldn't care what the woman's real situation is, not that they'd necessaily believe the woman's statement. I don't think the majority of women are quite that self serving that they can ignore the obvious truth. What does it say about what's going to happen if the potential partner is telling a lie right at the start?

 

[whatageek]

As we say....it's the difference between love and sex.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

As we say....it's the difference between love and sex.

yes,,,exactly,,,,although they are great together,,,its not an absolute.

 

[Imi]

Now THAT is the million dollar question right there.

Well, I think that whatageek had the right of it.

Ummm, well...good question. LOL We just decided after 13 years to give it a try and see how it worked out. This was a very recent decision...so I haven't done any "playing" yet...but did have dinner with another very nice Lit member the other day. My wife of course has men falling all over her...quite the pickins' LOL. Me of course being a guy I have a harder time finding "potential playmates".

And that is almost EXACTLY the convo I had with hubby.

 

[Imi]

What does it say about what's going to happen if the potential partner is telling a lie right at the start?

But that was the whole point of the post. What if the guy was upfront?? And wasn't beleived? Whatageek is in that very position. Same with my hubby should he choose to take me up on my offer. I suspect that he would be luckier if I set him up with someone than if he tried on his own.

Personally, I know I have a list of people I'm interested in, some I'll play with, with hubby, some not. Some I'll think about and probably will just leave it and perhaps some I will.











(This does NOT mean you should PM me with offers.. While I've got permission to play, I'm not looking to become a player. If I haven't talked to you, if I haven't met you, YOU AREN'T ON MY LIST. In fact, there ARE only TWO people I HAVEN'T MET that MIGHT EVEN POSSIBLY MAKE IT ON THE LIST!!!)