i have a question

[max_dylen]

im a 20 year old male and for a long time now ive relised that im a sub at heart, so ive started exploring this , ive learned a lot but im having trouble meeting some one to share myself with , but this is my question
when one is in a Dom/sub relation with with some one wut kind of rules apply , is it just like any other relationship , or are u "allowed" to pesue other relationship while being in this one

 

[lilfrk]

Only if your Dom/me tells you to. Unless of course y'all make that arrangement to begin with.

 

[cymbidia]

Every relationship is different, Max, and every good BDSM relationship is a relationship first, before it's BDSM. What's right for you and your partner might not be right for someone else. You have to decide what the "rules" are for yourselves. What's good and right for an online situation, too, might not be at all workable for people who are doing this in a daily-life or sjkkin-to-skin manner. (Here in this forum, we're very focused on matters of importance to people engaged in skin-to-skin BDSM.)

There are no hard and fast "rules" that bind us all to a common set of responses. None. There will never be, can never be, a set of hard and fast rules that will fit us all. Never. There are far too many variances under the BDSM umbrella for that to work.

BDSM is all about exploring into the hidden and secret world of deeply intimate and sensational (in the classic sense of the word) sexual play. As such, the explorations i have undertaken in my life, and still intend to look into in my future, may be markedly dissimilar to the explorations you're interested in undertaking in your life.

Welcome to the BDSM forum, Max. Please type your words out all the way, okay? We're not a chat room here; you have time to do that before you click on the submit button.

Additionally, please go read the three stickies at the top of the forum. They're filled with basic BDSM information and provide all newcomers with a look at who we are and the sort of place this is, Lit's BDSM forum.

 

[Shadowsdream]

one thing I always ask a submissive that wants a Dominant in real time and a relationship in the vanilla world is....

Do you expect the Dominant to fit their needs for you into your dating schedule or do you expect to fit your dating schedule into the Dominants schedule.

It is a legitimate question that takes thought that is brutally honest in the begining, for both parties. Don't try to start something that has nowhere to go but down and out the door.

That said...some Dominants will say yes..some will say no.