I have a huge problem/turnon with mixed attractiveness couples

[Ransack]

When I see an overweight guy with a fit or fittish woman I get triggered. It really....I don't know...bothers me, hurts me. It touches a deep wound apparently. I'd love to talk to women who are dating or married to much less attractive men than them or their respective partners. Or do you share this burden? I'd love to talk to you too. Here or privately.

 

[Ingenue844]

When I see that I always assume the less attractive one is rich, or at least the breadwinner.

My marriage is an equal attractiveness one and that’s what I mainly see with others too.

 

[KatieDoes]

What does who a woman dates have to do with you at all? Why on earth would you be ‘triggered’ by the appearance of two people you don’t know anything about and have no business involving yourself with?

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

My sex god is hot, and I'm loyal to him.

But this raises the question, who broke you?
And if no one did, then I can't help but think there's a sinister purpose behind this and that's just egotistical man.

 

[Diosax]

Why does it trigger you? Is it because you're good looking and even then you can't pull an attractive woman? Have you tried having a personality?

 

[neakman]

I don't think the OP thought he would bring down the hellfire on himself for that post......

 

[KatieDoes]

I don't think the OP thought he would bring down the hellfire on himself for that post......

Hellfire? That was my nice. I intentionally held back and tried to be reasonable.

 

[KatieDoes]

Are you a mediocre man that can’t pull a hottie? Is that why it hurts you?

you know he thinks that the reason he can’t pull a hottie is because ‘women don’t like nice guys like me’

 

[neakman]

I feel like I could start a vlog " things men should not say......ever"

Hellfire? That was my nice. I intentionally held back and tried to be reasonable.

 

[KatieDoes]

I feel like I could start a vlog " things men should not say......ever"

Plenty of material in my PM’s if you ever start to run out.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

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[aussiegeekygal]

It's interesting that you use the words "fit" and "attractive" interchangeably. It may be wise to remember that a sumo wrestler is a professional athlete. You can't really tell how fit someone is by the way their body looks.

Why are so triggered by this?
Do you feel like you don't get what you think you deserve?
What qualities do you look for in a woman?

I can't speak for all women, but I can say that people stay in relationships because of how they feel, not because of the way they look. If an attractive (to you) woman is with a guy that you think is physically beneath her, what do you think is keeping her in the relationship?

 

[Diosax]

It's interesting that you use the words "fit" and "attractive" interchangeably. It may be wise to remember that a sumo wrestler is a professional athlete. You can't really tell how fit someone is by the way their body looks.

Why are so triggered by this?
Do you feel like you don't get what you think you deserve?
What qualities do you look for in a woman?

I can't speak for all women, but I can say that people stay in relationships because of how they feel, not because of the way they look. If an attractive (to you) woman is with a guy that you think is physically beneath her, what do you think is keeping her in the relationship?

All of this

 

[KatieDoes]

Are you going to answer any of these questions, Nutsack? I’m trying to decide if I should stick around for a bit or go answer my emails.

 

[AngelWithAShotgun]

It's interesting that you use the words "fit" and "attractive" interchangeably. It may be wise to remember that a sumo wrestler is a professional athlete. You can't really tell how fit someone is by the way their body looks.

Fit is a colloquial slang for attractive in England. I assumed he is English and awake at 4am pondering this cause of a heartbreak.

Cause otherwise, he sounds like a predator.

 

[Ransack]

It's interesting that you use the words "fit" and "attractive" interchangeably. It may be wise to remember that a sumo wrestler is a professional athlete. You can't really tell how fit someone is by the way their body looks.

Why are so triggered by this?
Do you feel like you don't get what you think you deserve?
What qualities do you look for in a woman?

I can't speak for all women, but I can say that people stay in relationships because of how they feel, not because of the way they look. If an attractive (to you) woman is with a guy that you think is physically beneath her, what do you think is keeping her in the relationship?

Thanks for replying. But I'd rather talk about it one on one.

 

[Diosax]

Why? Are you scared of people realizing you're a pos?

 

[KatieDoes]

Thanks for replying. But I'd rather talk about it one on one.

Ok. Answer her here. We won’t look. Promise.

 

[KatieDoes]

When I see an overweight guy with a fit or fittish woman I get triggered. It really....I don't know...bothers me, hurts me. It touches a deep wound apparently. I'd love to talk to women who are dating or married to much less attractive men than them or their respective partners. Or do you share this burden? I'd love to talk to you too. Here or privately.

 

[Condecito]

It's interesting that you use the words "fit" and "attractive" interchangeably. It may be wise to remember that a sumo wrestler is a professional athlete. You can't really tell how fit someone is by the way their body looks.

Why are so triggered by this?
Do you feel like you don't get what you think you deserve?
What qualities do you look for in a woman?

I can't speak for all women, but I can say that people stay in relationships because of how they feel, not because of the way they look. If an attractive (to you) woman is with a guy that you think is physically beneath her, what do you think is keeping her in the relationship?

Good example. And not to mention, that for many, many people, those sumo wrestlers are extremely attractive. Whatever the OP had in mind, it seems to me that he just finds more attractive fit people than fat people, but he is childish enough to believe that everybody thinks the same way, so he is surprised and cannot understand when he sees something that is not ok with his scale. He most probably feels that the World is unfair to him too. :-D

 

[Diosax]

@KatieDoes he obviously meant here in DMs or privately in another app. Why do you keep twisting everything he says?? You're so unfair!

 

[KatieDoes]

I’m sure I’m not the first woman to say this, Nutsack…. But.. what a letdown this was

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Good example. And not to mention, that for many, many people, those sumo wrestlers are extremely attractive. Whatever the OP had in mind, it seems to me that he just finds more attractive fit people than fat people, but he is childish enough to believe that everybody thinks the same way, so he is surprised and cannot understand when he sees something that is not ok with his scale. He most probably feels that the World is unfair to him too. :-D

I mean, sure, that's one way to see it.

I am genuinely curious to hear from him, though. As he mentioned, he recognizes a deep wound. I think he was trying to be vulnerable and I have the space to explore it with him it's genuinely curious...

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Thanks for replying. But I'd rather talk about it one on one.

I get that

There's a few pitchforks today

I will say that a onene conversation is a gift if someone extends that to you. Many of us pay good money to explore these big issues in therapy. If someone is decent enough to reach out, I'd hope you try to stay as curious and open as you can manage. And I hope you get some answers.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Then you have to talk to him in PM. He’s told you.

Yeah, I missed that. I have to stop reading threads from the bottom up