I hate my fucking job! I hate it! *CRYING*

[tigerjen]

Already its Sunday, and I go back to work Tuesday after
being on vacation since August 9th. I really DO NOT
want to fucking go back to work......esp. that job.....I really
need a whole new job.......sorry, I just need to vent right
now.........*cry*

I woke up this morning (actually in a half sleep/half awake
state) w/ a feeling of dread w/ my heart pounding in
my chest, and I knew that this vacation was coming to an
end. But already I'm stressing about going back.........
some of you know bits and pieces of my work situation....
but this is really out of f-ing control!

And to make thing worse, this job is taking a toll on my
health!

I'm sorry guys, but I need to cry and scream right now and
I hurt like hell!! I really do!! *crying harder*

 

[sortacurious]

TigerJen,

We haven't really interacted, but I wanted to say how sorry I am to hear that you are so upset. While I don't know any of the particulars, I have been there over a job...and it's a horrible place to be.

Sending you hugs and prayers for happiness and peace in your heart!

 

[mbb308]

Bless you, my dear, and hugs for you. I have spent too long in jobs just like that.

By all means, find something else as sensibly and quickly as possible, and move on. I've done that so many times, I can hardly count. But, my industry almost always needs my skills, so I can find work, usually quickly and in a recession.

Don't just take something to get out, unless it really is that bad. Look wisely, so that it's not out of the frying pan and into the fire.

I came to the conclusion that I make a lousy employee, but a good vendor, so I went into business for myself. I'm still not a good businessman, but I haven't missed a rent payment since I quit, and 29 October makes 5 years.

How mant ways can I tell you that there is hope? I have hope, for me and you. Trust your instincts, and take action. You'll be glad you did - it's what I've done when in the same boat.

Good luck - you'll be fine!!!!

 

[navarre]

Don't just take something to get out, unless it really is that bad. Look wisely, so that it's not out of the frying pan and into the fire.
. Trust your instincts, and take action. You'll be glad you did - it's what I've done when in the same boat.

Good luck - you'll be fine!!!!

Wise words mbb

Jen,
You'll do fine. Sometimes we just have to grit it out untill something better comes along. Take mbb's advice. He hit the nail on the head.

 

[MissTaken]

Sweet jen,
So sorry to hear that.

If it means anything, when I was first pregnant, I never notice morning sickness as I always felt sick on my way to work.

Grit your teeth and start making plans.

Something will pan out.

In fact I left that job for one in which I make very little money. And short of days that I am trying to pay bills, we, my children and I are all much happier.

I wouldn't recommend leaving a job without a better job unless it was absolutely necessary.

But there is always light somewhere, hon.

hugs to you

 

[bknight2602]

Already its Sunday, and I go back to work Tuesday after
being on vacation since August 9th. I really DO NOT
want to fucking go back to work......esp. that job.....I really
need a whole new job.......sorry, I just need to vent right
now.........*cry*

I woke up this morning (actually in a half sleep/half awake
state) w/ a feeling of dread w/ my heart pounding in
my chest, and I knew that this vacation was coming to an
end. But already I'm stressing about going back.........
some of you know bits and pieces of my work situation....
but this is really out of f-ing control!

And to make thing worse, this job is taking a toll on my
health!

I'm sorry guys, but I need to cry and scream right now and
I hurt like hell!! I really do!! *crying harder*

I agree with the others, if your job is that stressful to you, it is NOT worth it, so go and find a different job that will satisfy and comfort you financially speaking.
Hope everything works out.

 

[tigerjen]

my situation...in a nutshell?

*sniff sniff*

thank you guys........but right now I'm still in a very upset
mood......

my situation?

I work at a group home as a residential counselor for a
private sector agency well-known here in the state for
its services to the population we serve. I work w/
6 adult residents that have mental retardation.

I have been at this job in August 1997; I only went
full time one year ago, and at my age, making $11.91
an hour (of course, its not the state I'm working for) for
all the shit that I do and much more.

I've tried applying for an assistant manager position at
the house where I work 2 years in a row, including last
year.....got turned down both times.

there's been a lot of stuff happening at the house over
the past year....including my boss, who moved to Atlanta
in June.....and we've been so far w/out a manager or
assistant manager at the house, and though we have
one of the residential supervisors helping out and one
of the other house managers as an "interim" house
manager for us, and they seem to be screwing up the
stuff us regular staff have been used to......yes, things have
been getting done but they wanted to make sure who was
doing what, etc.......too many friggin changes does not
make Jen a happy camper.....plus myself and certain regular
staff know the house better......

And on top of that....we got two new regular staff, which is
great, but they are "lost".......no one to train them, etc......one
in particular is stuck w/ working w/ relief ("on call staff") and
things just get screwed........

Please don't say that I should apply for the manager or assistant
manager, because: 1. I know what they are going to say
and 2. I need to get the fuck out of there......

And all this stress is not helping matters, esp. w/ my health......
I wonder if I should talk to my supervisor about this? I don't
know what he's going to say?

And I've looked off and on thru the newpapers and on the 'net
for jobs.....so far....NOTHING!

I love the residents who I work with, but everything else is all
hell!

The past few Wednesday nites (not the one right before my
vacation though) right before going into the overnite, I started
crying and not wanting to go in......plus on some Tuesdays recently
upon driving into work for the 3-9pm shift, my tummy starts going
360 degrees in the opposite direction, making me feel like shit.......

*crying softly*

 

[Jaded1]

TJ.......................

I am so very sorry that you are upset. There seems to be few and few jobs out there now days that forefill any hopes The sad thing is the economy seem to be looking worse. Self evident by one glance at the want ads. We have talked before about this and the best thing I can suggest is to update your resume and wait. There is no sense in jumping from one bad job to another bad job. Then you may even doing what I tell you to do and that is be your own boss. Why make someone else rich Makes absolutely no sense at all...........

Jaded1, CT

 

[Freya]

I know how you feel about going in to work and feeling sick. I don't know what to say that others haven't already...except maybe to say try not to stress over things for which you have no control.

 

[tigerjen]

Again, thank you guys.......

Tell me about it....this economy and job market isn't
the greatest........hard to believe that only 5 years ago
I graduated from college and the job market was really
swinging........

And about the stress.......its hard to not stress about things
that are beyond my control, esp. since we don't have a
manager or assistant manager at the house right now,
and its really just us regular staff.......

 

[JennyOmanHill]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((JEN))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


I have been out of work for two years!! It's a bitch, but hoping that situation will be better for me once I make my move to the midWest!! It's certainly a horrible feeling not to like your job!

 

[sirhugs]

yes, planning is fine
but action is divine
do something, anything, today towards finding the next job
ignore the poor market, or your negative selfperception of your skills
just do it!

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

Free Advice

TJ,
My wife does similar work to you as she works in a nursing home, also I have a similar house right next door to mine. When a job causes the symptoms that yours is you need to get out, and fortunately you know that.

My suggestions are 1) keep looking through paper and net religiously. 2) consider a slightly different avenue to broaden the search, perhaps a nursing home or brain damage unit. 3) Consider another field of work, unfortunately nursing/counselling does not pay well. 4) Talk to friends/family, hairdresser, church members (if you go, if not consider it), as you never know who might know someone who knows someone. 5) Is it possible to work for an agency?

Just some thoughts and hopefully they will help. I myself am starting to look and it is tight unfortunately. There is hope, you can do it.

Luv ya
Buggy

 

[caligula]

Sorry sweety, but, I actually love my job.

 

[wildrose70]

Just read your thread and even thou we dont know each other all the well...I can sympathize w/you....my son was caught in a situation like that for 18yrs....manager of the assisted living for mentally handicapped....and suffers from depression himself....go figure how he did it that long....money was good but he had to get out b/4 it ruined his health.....I know about stress in a bad job...everyone has giving you good advice..hang in there hon....take it one day at a time...and hopefully something will turn up for you....

 

[badmatt]

Hi jen

*big hugs*
Hey there darlin', I know exactly where your comin' from. My job was different but the situation was much the same. All I can tell you from my experience is that you should only go somewhere else if it's something that either A. Pays the same but is much more satisfying (meaning the job has the support system to back you up) or B. The pay is A LOT (and I stress the a lot part greatly) more for the same sort of shit.

First job I took after leaving was just a little bit more pay for the same shit, which just got worse and worse.

 

[spankableBelle]

Sorry to hear what you're going through, tigerjen...stress at work can affect us all in so many ways, and while some stress is motivational, other is harmful...take care of yourself, and find a way out of that situation...

belle

 

[tigerjen]

Monday monday morning.....

good morning.....and thank you to all who posted very
late last nite/early this morning........

I am feeling a bit better this morning but still a bit
blue about the situation.

here's the thing:

I want something that I enjoy and yet:

1. need the medical/dental benefits
2. better pay than what I am making now
3. was planning to get out of the human services
field

After 5 years of the same stuff, I'm burnt like burnt
toast and want to get out........

But all in all so far.....I want to thank everyone who posted
up here with advice and etc........once my brain starts to
be on an even keel again I will piece things together and
decide what the heck to do.

es and *huggies*


tigerjen

 

[sirhugs]

 

[tigerjen]

I wish es could make the problems go away but
they can't....

 

[sirhugs]

I wish es could make the problems go away but
they can't....

but perhaps they can ease the pain
save you from going insane
until you can address the problems themselves
doesn't it help, smiling , thinking of all us supportive elves?

 

[tigerjen]

but perhaps the can ease the pain
save you from going insane
until you can address the problems themselves
doesn't it help, smiling , thinking of all us supportive elves?

*opens my arms for huggies!*

 

[sirhugs]

*opens my arms for huggies!*

why is there no emoticon for hugs anyway?

here's a few {} {} {}

 

[tigerjen]

why is there no emoticon for hugs anyway?

here's a few {} {} {}

awwwwwwwww

 

[sirhugs]

and a few more..... <> <> <>