I HATE bars!

[Needssome]

Really I do...Can someone please try and explain to me what the appeal of going to a bar is? Being in a place packed with people that you can barely get through, loud music that is still causing my ears is to ring an hour later which also prohibits you from having deep conversation. To top it all off, it's not even music I particularly like (dance music blasting my eardrums is not my idea of fun) and I don't even drink alcohol. Now, why you might ask I would be at a bar if I hate it so much, the reason being I have friends who enjoy that sort of thing and love to go dancing. I like dancing, and I don't mind dancing to dance music but when it's that loud with that many people crammed together it's not fun, it's annoying. I really don't know how people can hook up in a bar. You can barely hear what the other person is saying...drives me insane. Please....someone explain the attraction of a bar because I really don't get it.

 

[calypso_21]

I hate it when you are dancing on top of one and the bartender neglected to clean off the spill and your feet get all sticky...ewww... otherwise I don't mind them.

 

[brisbon]

I HATE bars!

Jeeesh ..... never mind, thought you were in jail and looking for bail money

 

[calypso_21]

I should amend that the bar I go to is not like the one you described and is filled with friends of mine so it is not really a pick up joint nor am I bumping into people constantly. We usually hang out on the patio all night...'cept when we are dancing. Gotta find a different bar.

 

[Eumenides]

The appeal of bars...

The appeal of bars is that people can go and...well, um

There's alcohol, and...um, well...

There's alcohol?

That's all I can come up with for that kind of bar.

Personally I like a little soft jazz or blues.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Really I do...Can someone please try and explain to me what the appeal of going to a bar is? Being in a place packed with people that you can barely get through, loud music that is still causing my ears is to ring an hour later which also prohibits you from having deep conversation. To top it all off, it's not even music I particularly like (dance music blasting my eardrums is not my idea of fun) and I don't even drink alcohol. Now, why you might ask I would be at a bar if I hate it so much, the reason being I have friends who enjoy that sort of thing and love to go dancing. I like dancing, and I don't mind dancing to dance music but when it's that loud with that many people crammed together it's not fun, it's annoying. I really don't know how people can hook up in a bar. You can barely hear what the other person is saying...drives me insane. Please....someone explain the attraction of a bar because I really don't get it.

The simple answer would seem to be that you are going to the wrong type of bar. I have been to some dance bars that are quite pleasant, the musci is at a good volume and the people are there to have fun, not with some ulterior motive. Then there are others, which seem to be in the majority, in which the music is way too loud, many people are drunk, and the frustrated sexual tension in the air could be cut with a knife.

I understand your frustration. Maybe you could convince your friends to try other places, maybe have fun checking out a new place every week?

 

[Needssome]

What can I say. I live in a university town and all the bars I've ever been to are like the one I just described. It's completely not my scene coupled with the fact that I don't drink alcohol and have never understood why people seem to have this need to get drunk...Seriously, give me some sugar and I'm high as a kite.....Why the heck do I need some drugs to make me into an altered state? Forget the sugar, and just get me into a giggle fest without any alcohol (even better when you're reallllllly tired) and not only am I incoherent but when it's over I can drive safely...Not to mention that stuff tastes nasty.

 

[Eumenides]

Off the topic: Is that Nancy and Ned?

 

[Needssome]

Off the topic: Is that Nancy and Ned?

Yep.

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

What can I say. I live in a university town and all the bars I've ever been to are like the one I just described. It's completely not my scene coupled with the fact that I don't drink alcohol and have never understood why people seem to have this need to get drunk...Seriously, give me some sugar and I'm high as a kite.....Why the heck do I need some drugs to make me into an altered state? Forget the sugar, and just get me into a giggle fest without any alcohol (even better when you're reallllllly tired) and not only am I incoherent but when it's over I can drive safely...Not to mention that stuff tastes nasty.

If its not your scene, don't do it.....LOL....if only life were that simple. Really sounds like there is no STATED reason for you to go there, so I would ahve to answer your question with a question, Why go?

 

[glamorilla]

I definately have a been there done that attitude when it comes to bar hopping. I have to confess more than a few times this past month if I get out early I stop off at a neighborhood spot just to see what's going on and play pinball. If I meet someone I like the goal becomes getting them out of the bar and not necessarily just back to my place...but someplace a little quiter and with much less cruising going on and a little more getting to know you. In cases like this I opt for a little out of the way cafe and it's always cool to have an alternate fun spot to go to (I know this little party/gallery/theyre filming a movie on the corner of...lets go see it!/etc.). If you happen upon someone cool it's a good way not to make the mistake of turning him (or her) into a one night stand and it gives you a fun way of meeting someone...if they bite of course.

Some of the places here are a lot of fun to have around.

 

[Rick DeVille]

Really I do...Can someone please try and explain to me what the appeal of going to a bar is?

1. Beer
2. Music
3. Women

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Re: Re: I HATE bars!

1. Beer
2. Music
3. Women

!) I don't drink
2) My CD player, my music
3) Women go to other places too.

 

[Lost Cause]

I don't go unless I have to...

I'm a big guy and people in bars end up trying to fight me. I go to places to have a good time, not to break bones. Some people go to bars for two reasons, drink to forget..and to hit people having a good time! Unless you go to meet someone you've known for awhile, play some pool,and drink a good draft Guiness, relax at home!

 

[intrigued]

It all depends on what you are going to a bar for. If its to dance and to party and "people watch", its perfect. If you are going for "deep conversation", you need a more intimate and subdued bar, one that plays a little jazz or piano music.
As for people hooking up, I suppose when thats on the mind, none of the above really matters.

I haven't dated in 10 years, until recently. The stigma of the "bar scene" does turn me off, I will never go to a bar "looking for a man", its just not me. But I can go with the intent being to dance and drink and have a nice time. And, like anything else, once you've had enough, you move along.
Maybe next time, it will hit you a little better...I'm sure its all mood.

 

[lilminx]

Why do you go if you hate them?

 

[Jim_Henson]

I get forced intothem

I ordered my favourite drink last night.
It cost $15 USD for one fucking drink... and I can down a dozen of these things.


This is why I dont go to bars.

 

[calypso_21]

I get forced intothem

I ordered my favourite drink last night.
It cost $15 USD for one fucking drink... and I can down a dozen of these things.


This is why I dont go to bars.

What the hell are you drinking?

 

[glamorilla]

really drunk guys are fun to play pranks on.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I like kinda sleezy, white trash bars. Went to one last night. Everybody's drunk and happy and friendly. You can almost be assured of being better looking than most people in the bar. They have honest to goodness rock in the jukebox. The bar tenders pour generously. A crowd gathers when you flash your tits and offer body shots.

I'll take that over some glossy, stuck up yuppy bar anyday.

 

[Jim_Henson]

What the hell are you drinking?

Double bourbon, rasberry and coke, and they couldnt even make it right.

At 15 bucks a hit you'd think they'd listen better.

 

[sigh]

... and I can down a dozen of these things.

Trying to imagine what a dozen double bourbons would do to me.....

Somehow, I don't think I want to know.

 

[calypso_21]

Double bourbon, rasberry and coke, and they couldnt even make it right.

At 15 bucks a hit you'd think they'd listen better.

You would certainly think so...shit drinks are expensive out there. I never charged anyone that much for that drink. Sheesh.






*edited to add...FUCKWIT bartenders...I can say this as I am a bartender who works with a number of Fuckwits.

 

[fanzee1]

Really I do...Can someone please try and explain to me what the appeal of going to a bar is? Being in a place packed with people that you can barely get through, loud music that is still causing my ears is to ring an hour later which also prohibits you from having deep conversation. To top it all off, it's not even music I particularly like (dance music blasting my eardrums is not my idea of fun) and I don't even drink alcohol. Now, why you might ask I would be at a bar if I hate it so much, the reason being I have friends who enjoy that sort of thing and love to go dancing. I like dancing, and I don't mind dancing to dance music but when it's that loud with that many people crammed together it's not fun, it's annoying. I really don't know how people can hook up in a bar. You can barely hear what the other person is saying...drives me insane. Please....someone explain the attraction of a bar because I really don't get it.

the type of place you describe is your typical, set in the heart of the entertainment district packed with tourists, 20 year olds with fake ids and yuppies who will all sprint to their cars and jet home afterward lest they be caught out in the open downtown after dark type place. And I don't see much appeal in those types of places either.

Fortunately, however, not every bar is like that. In fact, most aren't. I go to a nice little hole-in-the-wall karaoke bar every couple of weeks and it's a great place. Just friends sitting around having a drink, a dance and a good time. That's what people love about bars. I have no idea what appeals to people about those other places, except that they can say they were in "the in spot" of the moment.

 

[Rick DeVille]

Re: Re: Re: I HATE bars!

!) I don't drink
2) My CD player, my music
3) Women go to other places too.

You sound boring