I feeling really disgusted with myself

[bicuriousosaur]

I am so pathetic you all. I feel my heart is breaking in two. Tonight, I was talking to a guy who is bi and a Christian. He told me this lifestyle will lead to to hopelessness and misery, and the only choice I have is Jesus Christ. Now, I feel really down in the dumps. I mean, I met people who I thought were my friends over the Yahoo! Chat but, they probably only want me for my dick, well, most of them anyway.

So, do you all agree with the what this guy told me?

Peace,
Jake

 

[silverwhisper]

no offense, but are you serious? you met a bi christian guy and he told you that being bi/gay put your eternal soul at risk? does he look in the mirror much?

all i can say on that matter: if there's a god in the judeo-christian sense, then he gave us orgasms.

ed

 

[DarkDuchess]

I am so pathetic you all. I feel my heart is breaking in two. Tonight, I was talking to a guy who is bi and a Christian. He told me this lifestyle will lead to to hopelessness and misery, and the only choice I have is Jesus Christ. Now, I feel really down in the dumps. I mean, I met people who I thought were my friends over the Yahoo! Chat but, they probably only want me for my dick, well, most of them anyway.

So, do you all agree with the what this guy told me?

Peace,
Jake

It's your life. You have to live it for you. And sadly, not everyone is accepting of your choices, and you have to be prepared for that. If you are, I mean, really prepared, then I think that you will be happy.

What do you feel? Do feel that God, or whatever you believe in, will punish you for being what he made? Do you feel like you are some great abberation? This site is filled with people of all kinds of sexual orientations. You aren't alone and being Christian doesn't mean you have to be straight.

Be cheered

 

[bicuriousosaur]

It is strange, I got so angry at the guy too. I have my own view system about this whole thing.

I'm bi, I know I am. I am attracted to both, and I can't just deny that out of my life. I know that when he was speaking to me, he got me very depressed, when a while ago, i was happy. I don't think I am ready to be one of those Holy people.

Answer me if you think of it this way, should you be more comfortable with yourself before you do the religious thing?

Jake

 

[Queersetti]

It is strange, I got so angry at the guy too. I have my own view system about this whole thing.

I'm bi, I know I am. I am attracted to both, and I can't just deny that out of my life. I know that when he was speaking to me, he got me very depressed, when a while ago, i was happy. I don't think I am ready to be one of those Holy people.

Answer me if you think of it this way, should you be more comfortable with yourself before you do the religious thing?

Jake

Reconciling your sexuality with your religious beliefs can be a very difficult and painful task. I'm a Roman Catholic myself, born and raised, with all the baggage that entails.

But, first and foremost, it is a task that only you can perform, for yourself. Even the most helpful consellor or advisor must ultimately step back and allow you to come to your own resolution.

 

[DarkDuchess]

It is strange, I got so angry at the guy too. I have my own view system about this whole thing.

I'm bi, I know I am. I am attracted to both, and I can't just deny that out of my life. I know that when he was speaking to me, he got me very depressed, when a while ago, i was happy. I don't think I am ready to be one of those Holy people.

Answer me if you think of it this way, should you be more comfortable with yourself before you do the religious thing?

Jake

I think that part of the "religous thing" is about getting comfortable with yourself, it's about self-discovery and finding peace from your faith. It can be a hard and bumpy road, this introspection. You are ready to be whatever you can make of yourself. I think as long as you listen to that little voice in your head...the one that comes from your heart, you can't be wrong.

 

[human_male]

Would Jesus have a problem with you being bi, or gay or whatever? If you believe God made you, and since you were born the way you are then that's the way God wants you to be, or he wouldn't have made you that way. That's what I think anyway. Some Christians just like to think anyone different from them is going to hell.

 

[SweetErika]

Are you sure this guy is actually bi? It sounds like he's misguided, trying to convert/"save" others, and may be pretending he's bi just to get to them. Or, he's screwed up and struggling, and needs to preach to feel better about himself. At any rate, finding out what you personally believe is the way to go, IMO. You have every right to be comfortable and happy with yourself. Go with something that builds on that idea, and wish peace for those who are still in a stage of self-loathing. Don't let them drag you down.

 

[Raimondin]

So, do you all agree with the what this guy told me?

Peace,
Jake

Honestly, sounds more like His problem, not yours! More "bi & confused" than bi and Christian if you ask me. I'm also born and raised Catholic, complete with the "I survived Catholic School" thing. Religion and sexuality will always be like two bad neighbors always frowning at each other. I've never let my religion interfere with my individuality. First and foremost, I have to be who I am. Accepting oneself is the first step in becoming a happy person. Please don't let confused individuals bring you down.

 

[bicuriousosaur]

Honestly, sounds more like His problem, not yours! More "bi & confused" than bi and Christian if you ask me. I'm also born and raised Catholic, complete with the "I survived Catholic School" thing. Religion and sexuality will always be like two bad neighbors always frowning at each other. I've never let my religion interfere with my individuality. First and foremost, I have to be who I am. Accepting oneself is the first step in becoming a happy person. Please don't let confused individuals bring you down.

Yeah, he did sound like he had problems. He said he got turned on by shaving the back of his friend's neck, and he been in mostly one night stands. I since got rid of him on my Messenger list, though I did think he was a rather handsome older guy. I think I have accepted myself more than I used to.

 

[John Doe]

If God hates fags then why did he make so many of them? Of course by the same token you could claim that God tolerates assholes because he made so many of them too.

And it also occurs to me that if we're all God's children, when any two (or more) of us have sex, isn't that kind of incest?

That last comment really wasn't germaine at all, but I thought I'd make it anyway.

 

[DarkDuchess]

Honestly, sounds more like His problem, not yours! More "bi & confused" than bi and Christian if you ask me. I'm also born and raised Catholic, complete with the "I survived Catholic School" thing. Religion and sexuality will always be like two bad neighbors always frowning at each other. I've never let my religion interfere with my individuality. First and foremost, I have to be who I am. Accepting oneself is the first step in becoming a happy person. Please don't let confused individuals bring you down.

That's a very vivid analogy. The frowning neighbors.... I love it. So very true.

 

[DarkDuchess]

Yeah, he did sound like he had problems. He said he got turned on by shaving the back of his friend's neck, and he been in mostly one night stands. I since got rid of him on my Messenger list, though I did think he was a rather handsome older guy. I think I have accepted myself more than I used to.

I am really glad to hear that. That is the first step to your happiness. I wish you well.

 

[Raimondin]

That's a very vivid analogy. The frowning neighbors.... I love it. So very true.

Well, I think most of us have lived next door to one!