I feel guilty

[Taboohubby]

Ok I’m more sexually adventurous than my wife fir sure . But she was raped as a teenager , she says it’s no big deal and she was far from a virgin when it happened but thinking about it turns me on so much . Anyone have an opinion ?

 

[Ltimmy82]

I'd be lying if I said I didn't think this is a little fucked up lol.

But I think the question is what about it turns you on? Is it your wife being hurt or caused pain? Because that's not good.

But is it just the idea of her being taken forcefully by another man?

Is it the actual assault that turns you on or the dirtiness/degradation of it?

Because I'd say a lot of guys have, at times, fantasized about their wife or partner in a lot of different scenarios. But if it's the actual assault (the pain and abuse) that turns you on I'd say that's not good.

 

[Carnevil9]

Possibly it turns you on because you get to think about your wife having sex with another man, but without the guilt or shame of her cheating on you. Just a thought.

 

[bobb_sledd]

During those post-coital chats about fantasies, I’d recommend not telling her about this one.

 

[Kirstyandsam]

I have pmd you... i know what rhis is like

 

[abvt75]

Turn this thought into a different form.....feel better.

Thank you for sharing

R

 

[osprey44]

We all have our "Dark Sides"... I know I certainly do. I had a recent lover who admitted that she used to act-out rape role-play with an old boy friend, so there ARE women who have that fantasy. I for one, do not condone rape in any fashion.

 

[AlexBailey]

My wife lost her virginity to a frat boy rapist (sister's acquaintance) when she was fifteen and has had life long issues as a result. She was having nightmares during the Cavanaugh hearings.

I have always had a very kinky sexuality including fantasies of being taken advantage of, so part of my fantasy has been to have switched places with her so I could have taken it instead of her.

I know that the real thing would be much more than horrible and would not be something that I would probably enjoy but I get turned on by imagining it being me, sparing her from the trauma.