I Dunno Sometimes About Myself

[Jeff726]

Here I sit as someone who desires very much to wait until being in a serious committed relationship before having sex, yet almost every damn day I find myself thinking about a really good romp. Sometimes I feel like waiting won't be a problem, but others I don't think I can come even close.

I feel sex should come from love and not the other way around, but sometimes I feel like I could compromise if I really liked a woman. It is like I could just be the world's biggest sex freak waiting to come out, but I still want to wait until it is right.

I really don't know about myself sometimes. One day I feel one way and either later the same day or the next one, my mind changes. I guess it comes with being young. *sigh*

Anyone who can advise me, please do. This is starting to bug me. Thanks so much.



Jeff

 

[Ezzy]

Ezzy to say, hard to do...

Dont let it bug you, relax and try not to worry about it.

When the time is right it will happen, and you may find yourself attempting to make up for "lost time". Your body will let you know what is right, when you do.

I was an early starter, but have had friends that waited, it suited them and they are happy and secure in themselves.

Follow your heart on this and DONT WORRY.


EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif

 

[Roll-One]

Let your heart guide your way, and stop dwelling on it, the more you worry about it the worse your going to feel about it, then you may not make the right choices...

 

[Silverlily]

While regretting not having sex with someone is bittersweet, regretting having sex is not.

Be patient, and stop beating yourself up.

 

[Jeff726]

See what brought this up is that me and my ex girlfriend, still very close I may add, have been talking about sex alot recently, and have been thinking about doing it for a long time even after breaking up. Nothing could come of it, which sucks, but at the same time I don't think I would regret any part of giving myself to her because her and I are still close. We are both very good friends who just happen to wanna fuck eachother silly. Is this weird or what?

If I gave my virginity to her, sure it wouldn't be in a relationship like I want it to be, but at the same time I would still be very happy with it because it is her I gave it to.

Whatever happens happens I guess and I know through it all I will be fine. Thanks to those of you so far for your help. Give me an email or IM anytime!



Jeff

 

[Guest]

While regretting not having sex with someone is bittersweet, regretting having sex is not.

I have to agree with Kitten Eyes here hon. There was a time in my life when I thought I had to be in love before I'd have sex (I knew I would NOT make it 'til marriage). I lost my virginity to a guy who was a senior in HS as I was. We started dating our freshman year, and dated or remained friends throughout all of high school. I even had a promise ring from him, etc. (Obviously we had broken up since then-95-but that's another story all together! Ezzie knows all the gruesome details!)

Moving along in my life... 6 months before I turned 18 I had sex with another guy. No, I didn't love him. I fell victim to being horny. ~sigh~ He was 22 and drunk and I seduced him. All of you sticklers for age here would be proud of him though. He would NOT touch me again until after I turned 18. lol (My birthday was one hell of a night! lol)

Then, by the time I turned 19, those two had been the only guys I had slept with. Around that time prior to my 18th birthday, my family had gotten AOL. Quickly I discovered the "Omaha" room and loved it. After about a year of being online, one of the gals convinced me to venture out to a party she was having at a local bar. (It was through her that I met about 1/2 of the local onliners I know, the other 1/2 was from, um...)

Thanks to the internet (yes, I know that's a scapegoat, everything I have ever done is because of MY doing), I've met several people offline. I've made tons of great friends, some real jerks, a few ex boyfriends, and some one night stands. There have been a few times that I regreted having sex. Remember that Jeff. I would never want to see you get hurt. Don't have sex because you feel you "have" to, okay? Take care of you.

Luv,
Linds