I dont understand

[SpookyStar]

I totally agree with vixenshe and Chele and I really think you should take their advice, you deserve to be happy, you're a wonderful person who's had a bad start in life don't give up now. Take their advice and start living again, all the rest will fall into place.

 

[SexyChele]

I never knew counselors were out to lay MORE guilt on you. I always thought counselling was supposed to help you put things that have happened in the past in their place (obviously since we can't change them) and help you get to a happier locale with yourself.

Unfortunately, there are many out there. Look at Vix's experience with her priest. And I used to have a roommate whose father was a preacher who would "counsel" women who were victims of physical abuse. His response? Obviously the wives weren't pleasing their husbands enough, so it was the wife's problem that she was beaten.

Now, I'm not saying that all religious counselors are bad or evil. There are many religious and faith-based counseling organizations who strive to help and are good at what they do. Also, one should never try to find a counselor who simply tells them what they want to hear. Lots of those out there as well.

A good counselor is one who can maintain an objective view of the situation and help one discover the good and not so good within themselves. Then the counselor helps that person work towards making themselves healthy. During the process people must face their demons, but if a counselor places all blame on the individual, the counselor is not worth the license that hangs on the wall.

 

[exhibitionist4m]

Thank you

I will keep it in mind and will try to do what I can....I know it will be hard to change after so long but I will. I am making it my goal to be free of this burdan that I seem to keep on me.

I thank all who wrote to me in this Thread,PMed and Emailed me. It has shown me and helped more than you will know. I will keep you posted as to my problem being solved if you wish to know the progress.

 

[FastFastr]

Exhibit... your username and the quotation that you use "I am still childlike....My body will grow old and my mind will stay young!" speak volumes.

The lack of orgasm is not the problem, it is a symptom of something else.

Please try to see a specialist that is not affiliated with the church (for now) and one who has no political adjenda.

 

[FastFastr]

Also... I admire your courage in posting a question like this - it takes courage!!!

 

[exhibitionist4m]

Update

Hey everyone...
well, I have called around and found a few people that are according to Better Business are pretty good. I wll see if I am able to afford them..
Things are the same and not changing,,, talking is still not working...
I thank everyone who PMed,IM, and AIMed me.. each of you has helped me in many ways.... I cannot tell you how much it has helped...
Thank you, thank you, and thank you...

 

[exhibitionist4m]

Hi

Just wanted to let you know... I have talked with a few people and it really hasnt helped yet.. I havent had an O yet but I will keep trying.. I did meet a man and I have talked with him for a few days now.... I kinda like him.. I talk to him and have been dealing with it.... no he isnt a doctor but is a really good friend to me and has helped me talk about it.. he has kinda an understanding but I guess I needed some one to listen and not judge me like the rest of them did that I went to
I am Still trying to see if I can get at least one O.. I do feel the "build up" but no release... I have to relax more I guess and hopefully I can get it out...
I will let you know if/when I do.... I hope it is as grand as I have heard about.... till next time
EX4M

 

[Hung'N'Horny]

Da big "O"

I have a friend that didn't cum until she was 30-ish. Answer? She hadn't been with the right guy. Yeah, that guy was me. No braggin', no bullshit, it just took the right atmosphere and the right touch, so to speak.

 

[Quint]

H'n'H,

Hey, way to take a serious thread that was in no way about you and insert a random "my dick is bigger than X people's dicks" story. Speaks well of your good taste. Really.

Ex,

Sometimes a listening ear is all you need. I had a terrific friend who I could just rant to for hours. Sometimes he would offer his own suggestions, but sometimes I would come to new conclusions all on my own, just because I was finally able to talk them out in a comfortable setting. I definitely recommend that you keep talking to this person--and let us know what progress you make with him. I truly am more worried about this side of your life than the orgasm side, as I believe most of us are, but it's good to know you're still trying for the elusive O as well.

Best wishes.

 

[Hung'N'Horny]

Please don't misunderstand my post. I'm not trying to turn this into a "my dick is bigger than X people's dicks" story. Some people can have an orgasm at the drop of a hat while others need a certain psychological/emotional "comfort zone". I just happen to have experienced both ends of the spectrum and tried, however clumsily, to relate that.

Don't give up, Ex, you're not alone.

 

[exhibitionist4m]

I am still working on it.. and my friend is not around anymore... he and his family have moved on with their lives,, I am still in the same part of life and nothing has changed,,,, I still havent had one but am still trying..... I am sure one day I will...... I am thinking a change in the environment might help... but I am not sure when that will be.....

I have not given up nor have I stopped trying... I am starting to think I need to find a new way of looking at it.... just give up on trying and see if it just happens.. wether it be sooner or later... who knows... I wil let you know

 

[ChainedEros]

I am 30 years old and I have never had an orgasm.
What is wrong with me? I have had oral, played with me with his fingers, and had sex in different postitions. I have had to fake it.(no he didn't know the difference.. he thought he did it)
Why can't I get off? I am very frustrated and feel I will never be satisfied. I have masterbated but it takes forever and I give up after 30minutes of trying.
What am I doing wrong and why am I not sensitive enough to get off? I dont even get aroused when my breasts are touched.
what is the deal

I feel so bad for women like this. Knowing other women who are multiorgasmic. And knowing that there is essentially nothing that I can do for her.

Sad.

 

[exhibitionist4m]

amazing

Well as you all know ....... ex4m has not fallen off the Earth...she has been very busy as of late and not able to get online....with her job and the other obligations she has on her plate....she and I have hooked up for about a year and a half.. started being physical about 5 months...she IS as wild as her posts say(maybe even more so) as for the problem of no orgasims.. I am here to tell you..... she no longer has the problem of the "BIG O"..not only has she had an Orgasim she is a squirter!

Let me tell you about one encounter~~~
we were in a building, bringing in boxes, we both looked at each other and knew what was on the others mind,, as we walked towards one another we could see the other starting to breathe harder.. as we met we kissed long and passionfull our tongues dancing, hands roaming, clothes slowing falling off,
her body looked like...an angel, breast perky nipples hard and erect, round hips, long legs, muscles hard, body quivering from desire, bretheing faster, slight moans escaping her mouth as I kissed slowly down her chest, my tongue circling her nipples and the sucking them.squeezing her breast .. moving down her belly kissing and licking .. moving slowly downward.... till I got to the soft shaven mound .. I slowly part her pussy lips with my tongue start to lick her clit which is hard and erect.. the wetness is amazing.. dripping , running down her legs... my cock is rock hard and I cant wait.. I had to take her but I want to please her.... I sat her on the desk I parted her legs to have better access... I start licking and kissing her pussy... she started to breathe faster with short breaths, I stuck my finger in and out of her slowly at first as I licked her.... I could tell she was about to cum.. her moans were getting louder and could tell she wanted more... I kissed up her belly.. I couldnt wait.. my rock hard cock was tingling with desire(my whole body was tingling) I postioned myself so that the head of my cock was right at the entrance of her pussyhole... I shoved it all the way into her till the base hit her lips a loud moan came from her mouth as I moved in and out of her.... I wrapped my hands around her hips and moving faster and faster.. harder and harder.... her moans became louder and louder.... her breast firm and nipples hard and erect ... I moved faster and her breathing became fast and short..
then it happened...........
her back arched,, her mouth opened.. and she she started crying out OH MY GOD I AM CUMMING ~~~ and to my amazment.. her hips were moving my entire body I could not hold her down... she was racked with spasims from her orgasim.. I looked down and her pussy juice was spurting all over my cock and thighs,sqirt after squirt I ws so amazed I couldnt belive the amount of cum coming out of her.. I watched in amazment as she went through her first orgasim, her pussy lips spread and it looked like a budding flower... at the moment she looked like an angel in my eyes...I watched as she went through the thrashing on the desk .. her breathing slowing.. the quivering subsiding, pussy juice puddling on the tableas she came back to her senses.. she was saying how wonderful and embarrasing it was but I told her she looked like a goddess to me...she sat up on the desk and said .. you didnt cum... I 'll fix that.. she slid to the ground parted her lips and took my cock into her mouth.... my cock was wet with her juices... she slowly gobbled it up .. licking ,sucking, moving her tongue all around it... her lips tight around it... moving in and out... her hands playing with my nipples.... moving one hand down playing with my balls.... my mind was going crazy I was so turned on by what I had seen and she sucking my hard rod.. I exploded into her mouth her taking it all,, drinking my cum (all of my cum) sucking out every last drop....neither one of us could move our bodies.. we were totally and completely spent from the passion of the love making we just did... her blonde hair flowing down her back and looking up at me with her blue eyes wide and gleeming... I knew at that point I found someone I could be with for the rest of my life....and she felt the same way about me...... so all you guys out there dont be jealous she will be back on later to play (TRUST ME)OH and as far as the guy who washes,dries, and brushes her hair she said she would be theirs ... WELL I DID IT and will continue to!... will write more later on !

by :youngagain

 

[exhibitionist4m]

thanks

I thank all of you for your help.... as you can see it has helped me.. I found that I had to have the right person and that I had to feel somethig for him.... thanks to all of you and it feels really good!!!!

 

[Noor]

Congratulations, have fun!

 

[shy little fairy]

never give up on masturbating until you reach your orgasm - maybe it is the feeling you have that you are "taking too long" or that "something is wrong w/ you." get yourself a toy, some erotica or maybe a video. and give yourself PLENTY of time. it is not unusual to take more than half an hour to have an orgasm.

 

[exhibitionist4m]

thanks... I amhaving the time of my life and I hope all of you are having as much fun as I am !!!!

 

[intrigued]

What a roller coaster ride of emotion this thread was!

I feel like a train just ran over me, backed up, and ran over me again.

 

[assister49]

I am able to reach orgasm through masturbation (most times using a vibrator) but have difficulty letting go with a partner. I find it hard to relax and let myself receive pleasure from another.

This is true for me many times as well. Much quicker and easier to cum when I am by myself. But I am learning to better let go with my husband, and more times than not I can cum with him. Sometimes it is not quite as intense however as when using the vibrator.

 

[Bandit58]

This is true for me many times as well. Much quicker and easier to cum when I am by myself. But I am learning to better let go with my husband, and more times than not I can cum with him. Sometimes it is not quite as intense however as when using the vibrator.

Well my life has improved immensely, I now have a wonderful partner who has shown me that I can not only orgasm with him but am a gusher as well He is also my Master and we have just begun the journey of exploring together (I am a new submissive and He is an experienced Master). I have been warned that there is much more to cum........

 

[assister49]

Well my life has improved immensely, I now have a wonderful partner who has shown me that I can not only orgasm with him but am a gusher as well

I have found that out also. Never woulda thought... Sex is so much more fun now.

 

[Bandit58]

I have found that out also. Never woulda thought... Sex is so much more fun now.

LOL I agree with that 100%!