I don't know whether to be insulted or flattered.

[KillerMuffin]

"Please go out in the yard and wash your Truck,get a job or something else
constructive and quit cracking out this trash.You can,have and are very capable
of writing some very good pieces and I hope you continue your good works....."


That hit my inbox after I posted a little lecture on grammar called a Crash Course in Grammar. I still don't know if I should be insulted or flattered.

Well, you can't please all the people all of the time. I do wish I write back and let them know that I am cranking out the fictional sex verbiage, just on the book, not on short stories. Wonder what s/he'll do when s/he finds out s/he has to pay for it.

 

[sexylilmissie]

Isnt that just the way

So typical of some people though. I swear some people just have no taste.

I Think in some way you should be complimented though-s/he did imply other works of yours were good. take the good out of the message and discard the rest.

If you cant say nothin' nice, dont say nothin at all Bambi

 

[VeraGem]

Any time someone is moved to write an email, good or bad, the writer has done his/her job. They've moved someone to think about what they've written for a longer time than it takes to back-click.

So - where is all my hate mail? I'm getting pretty bummed here. When I wrote incest they promised me hate mail and I haven't seen any and I'm pouting and...

**whine**

Killer Muffin, you don't know how good you have it - what I wouldn't give to be spat at in the face...

 

[Sateema Lunasi]

Dont sweat it

Either way, people told Anais Nin and Henry Miller that they wrote horrible trash too.

 

[MissTaken]

Be flattered.

Any feedback indicates you have touched your reader.

Vehement, clear and direct negative feedback is a wonderful thing. This reader obviously thought your skills were worth the time to finish reading the selection and encourage you to write erotica.

It is too bad the feedback was anonymous. I think feedback can turn into a great learning experience for the author and the reader if a dialogue ensues.

 

[rigged4dive]

I just want the ISBN number of the book!

 

[mlyn]

Knee JERK reactions...

I think the greatest disservice the internet has done is to allow us this instant gratification for our dissatisfaction with something. It used to be that it took time to find paper, pen, stamp and write your complaint out. Now it is so easy, that we often write without thinking and more emotion than what we should.

I think sharing thoughts and emotions are great. But to write in anger is hurtful to you both, and that is what I dislike.

As far as grammar, we all need lessons in grammar. Even those who pride themselves on their English could use some refresher courses. I've seen a lot of college professors who need to retake English 101!

So, if you have something of value, then share it.

 

[mug shot]

KillerMufin,
I for one appreciated your little lecture, grantedI dont have good grammer, it was still helpful. Thank you for taking the time to give us not so good writers some helpful input and tips. Just thought I'd put in my 2 cents.
Mug Shot

 

[VeraGem]

Anonymity, Assholes and the Internet.

Writing hate mail is far more hurtful to the person writing it in my opinion. In any case, it illustrates more about the character and courage of the sender than the receiver.

If the same brave senders of nasty email were standing in a line at the bank they'd be far less likely to do say or do anything rude, like cut the line or shove you. Why? Simple - they'd have to look you in the eye and stand the scrutiny of everyone watching.

Later they hop into the car and the glass and steel cage provides a little more insulation. Now the can cut or flip someone off, tailgate, curse, harass and just drive away - rarely having to face up to any consequences of their idiotic actions.

On the net it's a free-for-all. Under a pseudonym or anonymous post they writhe and bash and, to paraphrase Graves: "Let all of the poisons that lurk in the mud hatch out."

Personally I choose not to be hurt by it - sticks and stones...

 

[MysteryWriter]

hmmmm

If your truck isn't dirty fuckem

 

[rogtom_69]

Nasty Email

Well, KillerMuffin, I do so agree with the general consensus here that if that 'someone' took the trouble to email you, you must have struck a chord.

Perhaps s/he is a frustrated writer? Jealsously can often spark resentment.

Hey...Keep up the good work. And I am also interested in how that book is cumming along....

BTW as to grammar ... We all get it wrong sometimes but as long as the prose is not ambiguous and the reader understands what you are saying, you haven't missed the mark by much...right?

 

[HomerPindar]

Any time someone is moved to write an email, good or bad, the writer has done his/her job. They've moved someone to think about what they've written for a longer time than it takes to back-click.

I've made the comment just last night at a party that the worse form of insult to an artist has to be apathy. On the flip side of it though, I don't think the job of the writer is to garner an action which the writer themselves acknowledges as negitive or insulting... well, unless the writer is into that sort of thing.

Speaking of which:

So - where is all my hate mail? I'm getting pretty bummed here. When I wrote incest they promised me hate mail and I haven't seen any and I'm pouting and...

**whine**

Killer Muffin, you don't know how good you have it - what I wouldn't give to be spat at in the face...

Is this a request for degrading hate-mails? Erotic-degrading-hate-mail only, of corse.

HomerPindar

 

[HomerPindar]

Any time someone is moved to write an email, good or bad, the writer has done his/her job. They've moved someone to think about what they've written for a longer time than it takes to back-click.

I've made the comment just last night at a party that the worse form of insult to an artist has to be apathy. On the flip side of it though, I don't think the job of the writer is to garner an action which the writer themselves acknowledges as negitive or insulting... well, unless the writer is into that sort of thing.

Speaking of which:

So - where is all my hate mail? I'm getting pretty bummed here. When I wrote incest they promised me hate mail and I haven't seen any and I'm pouting and...

**whine**

Killer Muffin, you don't know how good you have it - what I wouldn't give to be spat at in the face...

Is this a request for degrading hate-mails? Erotic-degrading-hate-mail only, of course.

HomerPindar

 

[CarolineOh]

Here's my flattered or insulted moment of the day. I try to write realistic action in my stories. My characters are not super sexual dynamoes, they are human. So, here's a line in my first story A Night In His Arms:

>>> I dove back onto his throbbing cock, eager to take it all in, but this time I began to choke before I got it down, and I had to pull off. <<<

and one from my second story, Over His Knees, Down On Mine:

>>> He hitched his hips a couple of times, and his hot sticky fluid filled my mouth. I tried to swallow it, but sputtered, and most of it flooded over my lips. <<<

So I just got feedback from some wiseass who asks "So, when are the babes in your stories going to learn how to suck dick?"

 

[DRxBlue]

Some people just don't get it...

i think that your Negative Feedbacker was sexually frustrated by the fact that your story really IS a "Crash Course in Grammar".

It's quite a good one too, in plain English, and a lot of help for people who want to be writers.

He (i assume it was a HE) might have thought it was a story about the violent rape of someone's grandmother. That could have led to a pronounced feeling of dissatisfaction, which translated into a vicious personal attack on your sweet self.

That's my diagnosis...don't take his diatribe too personally. He DID say that you were "very capable of writing some very good pieces" after all.

Now you know how Woody Allen felt when people complained that he wasn't making "funny" movies any more..maybe.

Do tell us more about "The Book"!
And PLEASE continue to tell us stories! i'm nearly done with your current library.