I dont know what to call my new Mistress

[Kitsuchi52]

I am a married woman, my husband is my master. He sees other women sometimes (yes I'm good with this). Recently he's gotten really serious with one woman, and she discovered that I am a complete sub, and she really enjoys playing with me with Master's permission. The problem I am having, is what do I call her? I was given a pet once, and she called me Miss, and Mistress is too formal, and compares her too much with Master, plus this is her first experience with this kind of thing, and we are still pretty new too. Looking for advice, please!

 

[desertslave]

I am a married woman, my husband is my master. He sees other women sometimes (yes I'm good with this). Recently he's gotten really serious with one woman, and she discovered that I am a complete sub, and she really enjoys playing with me with Master's permission. The problem I am having, is what do I call her? I was given a pet once, and she called me Miss, and Mistress is too formal, and compares her too much with Master, plus this is her first experience with this kind of thing, and we are still pretty new too. Looking for advice, please!

Ask HER how she would prefer to be addressed.

 

[Kitsuchi52]

I am worried that she'll have no idea, so I would like to have some ideas of what names to tell her for ideas. I have no clue either.

 

[SpunThings]

I am worried that she'll have no idea, so I would like to have some ideas of what names to tell her for ideas. I have no clue either.

Goodness gracious, just ask her. What makes you feel good to call her? What about just her name?

Trust that she's got a head on her shoulders, and can lead you in this one small thing. If you can't submit to her in this, how can you with something else?

 

[Nezhul]

What's wrong with miss and mistress? Well if mistress compares to master too much and you dislike that, then miss should be surely fine, no?

I heard the word ma'am used too, but this is even more formal. Overall I feel there's very little names for a dominant you can invent, because you can't use nicknames.

 

[MeekMe]

What's wrong with miss and mistress? Well if mistress compares to master too much and you dislike that, then miss should be surely fine, no?

I heard the word ma'am used too, but this is even more formal. Overall I feel there's very little names for a dominant you can invent, because you can't use nicknames.

Why in the world would you not be able to use a nickname?

 

[CollarsAreVarar]

I call my Domme Madam or Ma'am. Hope that helps.

 

[Nezhul]

Why in the world would you not be able to use a nickname?

Suggest one then. I cannot think of a nickname for a domme or a Dom. For me, nicknames are something that's used towards equals or inferiors. You don't call your boss by the nickname. And dominant is essentially a boss in my view.
That's why I said it. Maybe I'm wrong.

 

[seela]

Suggest one then. I cannot think of a nickname for a domme or a Dom. For me, nicknames are something that's used towards equals or inferiors. You don't call your boss by the nickname. And dominant is essentially a boss in my view.
That's why I said it. Maybe I'm wrong.

Nicknames are rarely universal and something strangers online can come up with.

It can be something as simple as honey, or it can be something derived from their name, something that they have experienced together etc. Nicknames don't have to be a sign of inferiority. Moreover, what you call each other does not necessarily have to reflect the D/s aspect of the relationship.

Then again, I also call my boss by the nickname, so what do I know.

To the OP: call her what feels right. Talk with her. This isn't really something we can decide for you, because we don't know neither of you or your dynamic.

 

[Penuche]

Ask HER how she would prefer to be addressed.

This. If none of the obvious labels seem right, I'm sure that even "you" or her first name would be enough, if said with enough respect and/or in the right way.

BTW if it helps, the Latin equivalents of Master and Mistress are Magister and Magistra - might she like that as her title?

 

[Penuche]

<snip> Trust that she's got a head on her shoulders, and can lead you in this one small thing. If you can't submit to her in this, how can you with something else?

Good point. If she can't work this one out, I wonder whether she's got enough sense to be a domme with all the responsiblity that entails.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[dastardlyrichard]

You could always go all politically correct and say: 'yes mizz, no mizz' three bags full mizz.' Sounds respectful but no too formal and is sufficiently new to be unassociated with other words.

 

[MeekMe]

Suggest one then.

SnuggleBunny It doesn't matter what the nickname is, it's how the interested parties use it.

I cannot think of a nickname for a domme or a Dom. For me, nicknames are something that's used towards equals or inferiors. You don't call your boss by the nickname. And dominant is essentially a boss in my view.
That's why I said it. Maybe I'm wrong.

I've never thought of a nickname as something used for people that are "inferior." I've had bosses that everyone used nicknames for. If two people decide they like using nicknames then that's up to them. My husband and I both use pet names for each other. Also, seela's post was spot on.

OP, discuss this with her. We could give you lots of names, but do you really want to look through a catalog and find something or would you rather have an agreed upon name/title that has context and meaning within your relationship? She might want you to call her TitsMcGee, we don't know.

 

[OzoneRed]

In my (unpublished) stories, beta PYL's are addressed as "Lady ...." or "Lord ...."

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

How about Queen or Goddess? Would she like these?

But I am with others who say ask her. Let her feel the responsibility of thinking up the way you address her and punishments for not using the right title.

Sam xx