I could use some advice making my wife. cum

[oregun]

Hello everyone,

I have been with my wife for 4 years now . When we first met she had never had an orgasm from a man . Only from masturbation . It was one of my greatest joys in life to give her her first orgasm . I have always been the kind that loves to please . I would rather make my partner cum repeatedly then please myself .

Now she cums almost everytime we make love , but only once . I love to go down on a women . And have always been able to drive my lovers crazy doing it . My wife says she loves it when I lick her . She has only cum once that I can remember from having her pussy licked . I could use some ideas on what helps others ,or maybe I could be doing something different . any help would be much apperciated .

 

[Cakegirl]

Oregun, some women just aren't multi-orgasmic, and some don't find it easy to come at all. If your wife never came with any other partners, you should give yourself a big pat on the back for giving it to her!

As long as you're paying attention to her needs, what she likes, etc, I'm sure you're doing a good job - she may not be getting the multiple orgasms, but no doubt she's getting all the other good stuff - the satisfaction, the sense of closeness with you, etc.

 

[peachykeen]

I think you might need to examine your motivations here. I am sure that you love your wife and that you THINK you want to be able to 'make' her have more orgasms because that means she is more pleased. However, what I suspect is really going on is that you are looking for the ego boost it would give YOU.

You've not said anything to indicate that your wife is in any way dissatisfied. You say she loves it when you go down on her, and that she has an orgasm just about every time you have sex. If on those occasions when she doesn't she is not too bothered by it, and if she is otherwise quite happy with how things are, what would you gain by 'making her have more orgasms' (note: this phrasing is largely what gives you away, my friend)?

If it ain't broke, don't fix it, as they say.

 

[oregun]

Thankyou ,
I guess I'm aware that she may never have multiple orgasms . Hopefully as she gets older ability to cum will intensify . I just can't thinking there is something else I could do to help . Its not like I'm the most experienced lover in the world . Toys have helped . I was hoping with all the people I would have a great new resource to help with my endeavor .

 

[oregun]

Point well takin . I'm a guy , guys try to fix things even if there not broke . We try to build a better mouse trap . As for the Ego boost . I'm all man . Men are ego driven . Yes it gives me great satifaction to make her come . Is that wrong ? I don't think so .! If its is I have been doing it all wrong most of my life .

 

[peachykeen]

Yes it gives me great satifaction to make her come . Is that wrong ? I don't think so .! .

Don't mistunderstand - I am certainly not trying to fault you for wanting to please your wife. What I am saying is, it woud seem that she is already pleased, but you have this idea in your head that if you MAKE her have more orgasms, that makes you more of a superstud. In other words, you don't want it for her, you want it for you.

I know some might say I am merely arguing semantics but I think the words we choose reveal an awful lot about our state of mind. This is why I keep touching on your language. Look at these two staements side by side:

I want to make my wife have more orgasms.

I would like to give my wife more orgasms.

To me, there is a small world of difference in those two statements.Can you see the difference? The first looks to me like a force of will, and the second is more about a real desire to please.

 

[LadyJeanne]

If your wife comes just about every time you have sex, consider yourself lucky. She's enjoying herself, you're enjoying yourself, so why not just relax? You might do more damage than good by putting pressure on her to come. If she feels pressured, she may get anxious and start to fake it just to get you off her back.

 

[Lust Engine]

Hey, don't put that kind of pressure on yourself. Be glad she cums in one form or another. Just use it as a foreplay device now. As long as your wife enjoys... why fret??

 

[vargas111]

Yeah, you shold not compalin. My wife has never orgasmed and will not let me try to give/make/help her have one.

 

[MT_Pitcher]

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