I can't seem to get him in

[devilgal]

Hi
I have a problem...
My boyfriend and I were close to having sex for (both) our first time..
The thing is that I can't seem to get him in...and we always can't seem to find the way in, if you know what I mean...and he doesn't dare to push too hard against me, because it would hurt me...
It's my first time and I'm feeling a bit lost.
What should I do???

Oh and, can contraceptive pills be bought at pharmacy? And are these pills really reliable?

 

[Randyrandy]

Get a condom om him now, one with lube gal. You need to be safe first... Now get some KY or other lube ( not vaseline or other petro lube either, breaks the condom) and use your fingers first .... you need to feel what is going on .... yes put them inside you..... the when you think your ready get on top and slowly work down on him... you can be in control and stop when it starts to hurt... the pain won't last girl so keep going... hope you enjoy yourself...

The pill comes from the DR you need to go NOW and don't be afraid to ask questions.... how long what other birth control etc.

Good luck girl and have fun....

 

[Guest]

For one, I've never known birth control pills to be sold over the counter at a pharmacy. Either try condoms, or visit an ob/gyn or Planned Parenthood to get on the pill. As for not being able to have sex, I'm afraid to tell you this but there usually is a certian amount of pain for female virgins. Have you tried applying extra lube? Sometimes you need that li' extra help.

~Tiggs~

 

[Lasher]

Just a thought here...

But should two people who don't know anything about birth control or lubrication really be having sex??

 

[Melody_lane]

OMG! Lasher, you fucking read my mind!!

 

[Guest]

Lasher

So true Lasher. I was wondering that as I was responding. Hell, if they don't understand these aspects of sex, they're prolly youngin's.

(P.S. before anyone gues psycho, I spelled "prolly" and "youngin's" this way on purpose. )

 

[Wizard]

Come on now guy and girls, when I started poking away I didn't know shit about shit other than get her pregnant. Remember when we were young some off us had to learn by trial and error....... Keep posting devilgal we will get your questions answered. All good advise also keep it safe go slow lube up let him spend time on you so you are truly ready both mind and body. After all that go at it and enjoy it only gets better!!!

 

[Guest]

Hey Wizard, i mentioned lube, etc. in my first post here too.

 

[Wizard]

And I thought it was good advise too!! just wanted to stress LUBE thats all.....

 

[Wizard]

Hey did anyone mention lube?

 

[devilgal]

Hi....

Me again...
Interesting replies I've got...
Well, I'm 17, going on to 18. I have a very good and close relationship with my boyfriend.
The only thing that puzzles me is sex...
I mean you see on TV and others, sex is like so easy the first time round!
Anyway, thanks for all the constructive info and advices!

 

[Felix]

I understand your problem and applaud your candor, but your honesty has raised an issue for this board. While we as individuals are certainly free to offer advice, the stated policy of this board -- one you agreed to implictly by entering -- is that all participants must have reached majority.

You, unfortunately, are legally still a minor. The distinction may seem arbitrary and even hypocritical (in fact, it is likely both), but the rules exist to protect both children and this service. I will spare Laurel the effort and tell you we would be immensely pleased to help you celebrate your 18th birthday, but until then please stick to legal pastimes and stay off this site. Please be careful until you do come back -- ignorance is no one's friend.

However, if I may address this question in the context of two inexperienced partners to my legal comrades...

At one level, additional lubrication is the very simple answer to the question. Each woman is different, but for those who need it, there is no substitute. My girlfriend suffered a decade of painful sex (and manifestly incompetent and insensitive lovers) before she learned this seemingly obvious tip from me; even now, in my legendary hands, she necessarily uses AstroGlide early and often.

As others have pointed out, though, there is a great deal more to this issue. From the purely pragmatic (virgins may not have many STDs, but they sure can get pregnant, so at a MINIMUM wear a condom) to the sublime (sex just might be more than simply "sticking it in"), there are so many significant aspects to address that one hesitates to even begin. It is a bit terrifying to consider that our wayward poster is undoubtedly well ahead of her peers in considering these issues, and yet is still so uninformed. I realize that in the end experience is the only true teacher, but it does seem a bit daunting to set out on a journey without a destination, much less a map.

Perhaps we should start a FAQ for frequent topics, and include an essay on what all virgins should know. Even if we had to post it off-site for legal reasons, it would still help out some folks as well as head off the endlessly recycled topics.

 

[Gingersnap]

If indeed you are in need of assistance please see your doctor. I personally would pick a family planning center close to a college or university. I know you will encounter people with the information you seek and a solution to your problem. You can also check in your phone book most every community has a hot line. The public health dept. can be a source too. Whatever please practice safer sex. THis public service announce. is brought to you by "Condoms are colorful and fun" as long as they dont break