I came out to my mother

[Ms_Lilith]

I never knew how cool she was until that moment.

We were talking about people we know who are gay, and just things of that nature, and I said "well, I've been with women".... and she just got this shocked look on her face... and she said "what do you mean, "you've been with women?"", and I said "Mom, I've BEEN with women". And she paused and asked if I was gay. I said no. She asked if I was bi... and I hesitated, and then said "yes, mom... I am."

She just smiled at me and said that we all find our way in life.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

WTG!!! am soo happy for you!!! (and especially pleased that your mom understood)

PET

 

[Bandit58]

That's great vixenshe
I'm afraid I will probably never tell my parents.....they are getting on in years and the fact that I even left my husband was a shock to them (I am the "black sheep" of the family for that, let alone the shit that would hit the fan if I came out!).

I live in a small rural area, I've lived around here all my life and the ripples that went around when I left my marriage and got a couple of tattoos was enough. I have kids to consider too, my son has left home but my daughter still lives and goes to school round here and I don't want to make things difficult for her, it was bad enough with the breakup.

I have friends who know though, and who have accepted me and treat me exactly as they did before I told them. I was with a woman for the first time a couple of months ago, and they have noticed a change in me since then, and others have commented to them but they haven't given me away! Maybe I'm more out of the closet than I thought, but no one has said anything to my face.....

 

[Etoile]

That is such an awesome response. I'm glad it went well for you, vixenshe!

It's funny, I never really thought of bisexuals having to come out as such.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I come from a harshly Catholic family... and any 'gay activity' would have normally ripped my parents' hearts out, and of course, had the guilt of the Catholic church thrown down on me.

Coming out that I'm interested in women was definitely a difficult thing to gear myself up to do, I've been trying for years to get the guts... and the other day, it just felt easy to say it...

Just like homosexual people, bisexual people are judged by their family and peers, and must face those family and peers. Coming out was definitely a necessary step in my journey.


Now telling my DAD... another story.. I don't think it will happen... he's much more closed-minded than my mom.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Congrats Vix!

I also had to come out as a bisexual...it was very difficult. Sometimes it can be even harder, because sometimes neither the straight or the gay community wants to claim you as their own

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Congrats Vix!

I also had to come out as a bisexual...it was very difficult. Sometimes it can be even harder, because sometimes neither the straight or the gay community wants to claim you as their own

Yeah, sometimes there are those unwilling to accept a 'half-breed' (I've heard this word used to describe my bisexuality, and I think it's a dirty, dirty word).

But my friends have been wonderful, and my mom now too.

 

[MzChrista]

Thats cool Vix.
Me and my Mom are real tight. She even said that if Molly wanted to come live with us shed be cool with it.

 

[WanderingWiccan]

Congrats, vixen, I'm very happy for you and especially proud of your mother for accepting you. While, I don't think it is easy at all for anyone to come out, and note this is solely my opinion, I think that bisexual women, and even some of the more 'beautiful' (note this as the American society's definition of beautiful... which I think is a load, everyone is beautiful to someone) lesbians, are more readily accepted than gay or bisexual men will ever be.

But, that's not what this post is really about and I apologize for running off on a tangent. Vixen, again, vielen kongratuletiert, and I hope maybe one day I'll have the courage to stand up and tell my parents who I really am. Maybe then I'll get kicked out and have a good reason to move to California with my father.

Brightest Blessings of All,
The Wandering Wiccan - Bobby

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Congrats, vixen, I'm very happy for you and especially proud of your mother for accepting you. While, I don't think it is easy at all for anyone to come out, and note this is solely my opinion, I think that bisexual women, and even some of the more 'beautiful' (note this as the American society's definition of beautiful... which I think is a load, everyone is beautiful to someone) lesbians, are more readily accepted than gay or bisexual men will ever be.

But, that's not what this post is really about and I apologize for running off on a tangent. Vixen, again, vielen kongratuletiert, and I hope maybe one day I'll have the courage to stand up and tell my parents who I really am. Maybe then I'll get kicked out and have a good reason to move to California with my father.

Brightest Blessings of All,
The Wandering Wiccan - Bobby

Bobby, thanks for your post... *smile*


And you'd be surprised about your opinion on attractive bi women... a friend of mine is GORGEOUS. I mean, stunning. She is bisexual. When she came out to her friends, only I stayed as a friend to her. She lost her job as a model for a local company, because she was projecting an image that they ddin't want their company to project. Things like that. Just because the porn business thrives on the fantasies of men (and many women) regarding women together, doesn't mean the reality is that glamorous.

The girls I work with know that I'm bi, but my manager and the owners of the company don't.. and I'm rather afraid of what might happen if they find out... *sigh* Some people are just so afraid of what they don't understand, it's sad.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Thats cool Vix.
Me and my Mom are real tight. She even said that if Molly wanted to come live with us shed be cool with it.

You're very fortunate... *smile* My mom wouldn't be able to do that just yet, I think... but then, she's only known for the last few days (though I think she's suspected for some time now)...

 

[WanderingWiccan]

*sigh* Some people are just so afraid of what they don't understand, it's sad.

I've always believed that. It's part of why I try so hard not to be uneducated about anything if at all possible. I wish you and your mother the absolute best of luck dealing with all the awful people out there because you and I both know, unfortunately, the more people you tell the more likely it is someone you don't want to know will find out. But, I'll be here for you when that happens and, ya know what, I'll help ya hunt 'em down if they hurt you. I'm hard Corps (Read that as: Marine Corps) at heart. Nobody messes with my friends.

Bright Blessings and Much Love,
The Wandering Wiccan - Bobby

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I've always believed that. It's part of why I try so hard not to be uneducated about anything if at all possible. I wish you and your mother the absolute best of luck dealing with all the awful people out there because you and I both know, unfortunately, the more people you tell the more likely it is someone you don't want to know will find out. But, I'll be here for you when that happens and, ya know what, I'll help ya hunt 'em down if they hurt you. I'm hard Corps (Read that as: Marine Corps) at heart. Nobody messes with my friends.

Bright Blessings and Much Love,
The Wandering Wiccan - Bobby

I know that eventually my boss will find out... and I just hope she's woman enough to be able to have a queer person on her staff. We have a transitioned trans working at our office (man to woman), and all are okay with that, though some get nervous around her..... but... I don't know, I still worry a little.