I Believe in Fairytales

[Kitt_e_Katt]

I have always considered myself lucky in love. Goodness did I have it wrong, a failed marriage and a failed relationship thereafter have eaten away at my confidence. The more I got it wrong the bigger I became in weight and the more my confidence eroded.
Now I can feel loneliness sweep over me like a hungry wave and I can't seem to find my air.
I've moved on from those mistakes, grown and changed. But I still can't seem to take that step forward, this is my attempt to do that. A new beginning if you would.
I'm looking for friendship, someone to share a terrible day with, laugh in the happy moments and help ease this lonely ache.
I still believe in Fairytales...could you be my Knight in Shining Armour?

 

[Fuzzy1975]

I have always considered myself lucky in love. Goodness did I have it wrong, a failed marriage and a failed relationship thereafter have eaten away at my confidence. The more I got it wrong the bigger I became in weight and the more my confidence eroded.
Now I can feel loneliness sweep over me like a hungry wave and I can't seem to find my air.
I've moved on from those mistakes, grown and changed. But I still can't seem to take that step forward, this is my attempt to do that. A new beginning if you would.
I'm looking for friendship, someone to share a terrible day with, laugh in the happy moments and help ease this lonely ache.
I still believe in Fairytales...could you be my Knight in Shining Armour?

Well good luck on Lit, but some advice, don't get your hopes up that your knight in shining armor is lurking anywhere around here....

 

[filt]

Sorry to hear about the tales of woe. Are they failures or just a stepping stone to getting you to where you want to be? An experience to help you establish what you don’t want? Plus the cliche of was it better to regret doing than regret not finding out.

Confidence is a fragile thing and words alone won’t help you. Do things for you, if it catches the attention of others then what a byproduct. Not so long ago, I changed my life and lost 10st, so it’s not just me chucking platitudes at you.

You’ll get loads of pm’s, be patient, separate the wheat from the chaff and you’ll find someone who makes you feel good.

Good luck.

 

[StarGazer58]

I know many will disagree but I don't think that a virtual friend can really solve the problem of loneliness. Having a person to chat with either through emails, PM or maybe even the phone can be helpful but also can become a crutch or an excuse not to make the changes necessary in real life.

Again this is just my opinion but to me, real life is really where loneliness is really felt. Not feeling another's touch, nobody to kiss or hold hands with. Nobody to cuddle on the couch with or just sit and talk about your day. There is not that special someone to go to dinner with or explore the shops of some small town. That is why I say the virtual world can help but is not really going to fix the problem of loneliness.

I believe there are two parts to every relationship. There is the physical part which provides that spark to get the relationship started and the mental side to nurture and keep the relationship going. You will have to decide on what you want to do to start that journey. Good luck.

 

[andersflanders]

This is a sweet and quietly moving post. Here's wishing you the best of luck with your quest...

 

[mythicman62]

Hiya Kitt,
Many of us have been thru some of the same things. We all have to learn and grow from these obstacles in our lives. I think what you are trying can work as a starter.

 

[Starlightblue]

Hey

How sweet!

Good luck kit

Bumping

 

[sherbetburps]

Bump-a-roonie! I can empathise - I wish you all the best of luck in finding the connection you yearn for

 

[TheDarksiders]

I must have missed the part where she asked for reflections on the viability and desirability of online relationships. It just sounds like she wants to meet a good guy out here and hope for the best. I say good luck to you, OP!

 

[StarGazer58]

I must have missed the part where she asked for reflections on the viability and desirability of online relationships. It just sounds like she wants to meet a good guy out here and hope for the best. I say good luck to you, OP!

Considering this is an online forum and there are not millions of people actively using the site, the chances of finding that special someone that lives close by her for a IRL relationship are pretty small. Not saying people don't physically meet from here or that they could not travel to get together but more than likely anything that starts from here is going to an online relationship.

She also does not write anything that specifies that she wants a IRL relationship either. She just says that she is looking for a friendship which could go either way.

I too wish her luck in her search.