I am sorry

[Xander]

looking at what i've posted, and what I've send back to some of you in emails.

I am sorry. I know I tried to bite off your heads with words, and there is no excuse for that. you emailed out of concern, and i answered by trying to rip you a new one. That was totally uncalled for, and I sincerly apologise.

The blame is solely on me. I am the asshole here. I am the one fucking royally up.

I am sorry.

 

[Angel]

You aren't an asshole.

 

[Nicole]

I agree Angel ... Xander your not an asshole, your just hurting, we all do silly things when were hurting.

Sorry for your pain, I can only hope you feel better soon, as hard as it, one day you WILL feel better.

Good Luck.

 

[Flagg]

Well I for one will never forgive you! Bastard!

 

[KillerMuffin]

I have no such emails and I sent no such emails. I for one, have no idea what's going on. Don't particularly care to. I'm swathed in my own difficulties at the moment and sharp pain involved has pretty much innured me to any sympathy for anyone else's troubles.

However, from my admittedly discompassionate seat here, you are sounding like an attention grabbing whiner. You speak to a mysterious "you" on a public bulletin board and previously rant and rave at least once that I've seen. Wouldn't all of this be better carried on in email or IM?

Dirty laundry belongs in a hamper darlin, not on display for everyone to see soiled bloomers.

 

[Iris]

Agreed, KM, and well said. If X feels he wronged someone personally, he should then apologize to them personally.

 

[Flagg]

The mysterious "You" is of course meant in the plural sense.

 

[Problem Child]

geez. tune in next week, same bat time, same bat channel.

 

[LittleRedDevil]

huh?

 

[Mistress]

Snuggles I hope you feel better....

 

[alexander tzara]

Very compassionate, KM and Iris.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=29917&pagenumber=1

 

[KillerMuffin]

Well, AT that was clear as muddy water running through a sewer. X is having some sort of trouble where he needs the support of friends and this is apparently involving bad emails sent to such friends. One would think an apology to these friends via email would be a better method. Now if X man is apologizing for being very human and needing his friends and having to fight his demons, well then that's a different issue altogether. In my rather self-absorbed opinion apologizing for being human and having weaknesses is just another link in the self-destructive chain and my shrink assures me it's unhealthy martyrdom. Not that I am in amy position to make snap judgements, hasn't stopped me from doing it yet. Xander needs help, that much is obvious. The thread was the proverbial "cry for help" that everyone has to do when they hit rock bottom. As friends we can only support him so far then we get to the point where we are either helping him get better or enabling him to continue his pathos or whatever. Gingersnap gave the most intelligent suggestion there is. If he is having difficulties with the demons he's got on his back, then he needs the help of those who have been there done that as well as the unqualified support of friends. NA is the best place for him to go. He's got a long tough row to hoe with that. And it's going to be a severly emotionally painful one for him and those who love him. But it's his choice to make and he's got to make it. Either go to the people who can give him the help he needs and get well or to continue on as usual, with the occasional pity party when he invariably gets weak, until he reaches the point where he does a little snort or becomes addicted to something else. It's his choice to make.

There should be no apologies made for being human and admitting to weakness. It's not a burden to those of us who are his friends or at the least like him. If he actually emailed someone that hurt them, then the appropriate thing to do would be to write a personal email to apologize. Displaying it so vaguely on the board gives rise to questions about his motive for doing so. Is it really an apology or is merely a wish for attention and crippling sympathy disguised as such? And yes, speaking from the standpoint of someone who is broken like X, only in a different way, sympathy is crippling. It's seductive, addictive, and enables one to continue self-destructive behavior.

And no, KM has no compassion today. None whatsoever. I will no doubt feel horrid for being so mean to X by coldly wondering why he did not make use of the cc: function and personally apologize to those he offended, rather than drag everything out here on the board. But not today and probably not tomorrow either. I'll check Tuesday, but I don't have much hopes for it.

 

[Xander]

KM

I would have. But the emails bounced back when I tried, thus this thread.

 

[Guest]

Xander

Ruler of the Written Whine

 

[KillerMuffin]

*smacks jeeezz really really hard* Do shut up. If you must contribute to the discussion please do so productively. Even in my own cold way, at least I haven't tried to kick a man when he's down. Despicable behavior that.

 

[Iris]

I didn't mean to seem like I lack compassion. I just put myself in the position of the person or people he is apologizing to. If I thought a friend had wronged me, or one perceived they did and wanted to make ammends, I'd find it more personal, and certainly more sincere, if they did it one on one rather than post it on a public BBS.

If e-mail isn't working, ICQ works too. And it has this nifty feature where you can message someone when they're offline, and they'll get it when they come back on.

To be perfectly honest, if I got a public apology like this, I'd think that in addition to (maybe) the apology, which may very well be sincere, and I believe Xander's is even though it's not me he's apologizing to, the apologizer would be also be out to ask for help or an ear, or to make themselves seem like a better person because everyone would then see them apologize.

And that has to easily be the biggest run-on I've ever written but I'm too lazy today to fix it.

 

[alexander tzara]

I assumed Xander was apologising for the angry outburst of his "Xander Attack!! Come all you Motherfucking Trolls. I fucking dare you!!" thread, not just for whatever happened in private emails.

I didn't know you were ill, KM. I'm sorry you're in pain. But even if I did know, I would still have thought that writing "you are sounding like an attention grabbing whiner" was harsh and unneccessary.

 

[insideShiraz]

Where am I?...

Is this the Pussy Mullets thread?...

Wow, she flamed you hard, eh, Xman? A thread should be water off a Duck's back...

Hi, April...