I am ready to take the plunge.

[JohnnyA]

Cleveland, OH

I'm an attractive 25 year old male. I am 30 lbs overweight, but have been going to the gym almost 2x a day since Xmas. I've always wanted to experiment and give another man a blowjob, and different sorts of things. I'd like to start a PM with someone nearby that might be interested. I can't believe I actually wrote this message finally. Tally ho, hope to see some messages.

 

[PredatorSmile]

All I will say is to be safe and hygienic.

 

[JohnnyA]

That's my intent. Thanks though for the advice. The last thing I want to do is go for 25 years living a happy and content lifestyle an then blow it all on some fantasy.

I want to get to know somebody over the phone and do things right.

 

[PredatorSmile]

That seems like a good idea. Talk to the guy and get to know him. Don't hook up with a married guy who is gay or bisexual, trust me. Vengeful wives and ex-boyfriends can be a pain for poor unsuspecting you. Be safe.
Also, watch out because there are some "queer hunters" out there. People who try to attract and then trap GLBT people and then kill them. They're all over the net so be careful. Choose a location you know, with privacy. Have fun !

 

[JohnnyA]

Wow, I never even knew that this was a possibility. I should take a step back and think this through. Maybe I ought to go to a gay bar first for less of a chance of a crazy person. My god would that be hard to walk throught that door though. I'd probably have a heart attack.

What can I expect to see in a gay bar? Maybe that would make me more comforatble. When you walk into a straight bar everyone kind of turns and looks at you grunts, and then strares at the wall again making chitchat.

I'm certainly not a dancer or anything and loud techno music drives me away so I am trying to find a happy medium where I can meet like minded people.

The best part about all this is that now that I've decided and come to grips with my sexuality the world seems so open now. It's weird, I keep wanting to write this sentence

"I'm not gay, but I want to have the experience of being with and fuck another man."

and it's true, but for some reason it's hard to be a bi-sexual male, seriously. People seem to want to stick a knife in the road and say you're either gay or straight you can't be both and if you try to say you are then you lying.

Wow, this post just multiplied into something I never thought it would. Goddamn it felt good to write all that out.

 

[PredatorSmile]

I've been to gay bars before. Guess what ? Most gay guys at the bar looked and acted like regular guys. Don't expect hussy-type dudes. I have several gay male friends who are quite masculine-looking and they
are good guys. Nobody will bother you, mate. Just come in, smile, order a drink and possibly make conversation. However, there is a type of guy you should avoid. I'm referring to something that happened to a friend of mine. My friend Danny is a switchhitter. He split with his girlfriend Danielle and then started exploring his bisexuality. He picked up this guy named Leonard at a bar and took him home. When he woke up, his wallet was gone, as was the silverware. What can I say ? Be careful. Luckily, Dan was unharmed and you know what, he went back to Danielle. Not all bisexual or bi-curious guys have happy endings. It's a dangerous world out there. Just don't be too eager. You dont have to go to a gay bar to meet people. My BF told me that the most interesting members of the gay and bisexual male community are the kind of guys who never go anywhere near a gay bar. I'm talking about guys you could meet at the library, the locker room, a restaurant or a club. Bars are pick-up places and often seedy and unpleasant. If you are bisexual or bi-curious, odds are that you have some innate ability to detect others like yourself. You've been leading a straight lifestyle so your queer sense is probably not that developed but it's there. You're born with it. Use it to sense who is what and then, make your move. Beware of closet cases. I mean that. One of my gay male friends, a dude named Henry, hooked up with Todd, this jock who had a girlfriend. After they slept together, Henry told me that Todd the jock got all angry and started calling Henry all kinds of names. Some bi-curious or bi-sexual men are in deep denial of their true feelings. Some may even get violent. Like I said before, be careful.
Good luck, Johnny. Be safe.

 

[JohnnyA]

Thanks a lot. The more info I get the better prepared I'm going to feel.