ksmybuttons
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Feeding frenzy. We have lost several posters of substance recently and I am disgusted that, as a community, we allowed it to happen.
I am pissed.
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Mischka
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We have lost loads of "posters of substance" over time. Such people usually have busy lives, and can only share themselves for brief periods. In fact, I'm actually surprised that so many substantial posters have remained for as long as they have.ksmybuttons said:
sexy-girl
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posters come and go and usually come back also
i don't think we've lost that many posters recently they are just probably busy with stuff but they will be back posting im sure
i've started threads like this in the past when i was fairly new and people told me that they would be back and they were
i don't think we've lost that many posters recently they are just probably busy with stuff but they will be back posting im sure
i've started threads like this in the past when i was fairly new and people told me that they would be back and they were
ksmybuttons
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You know, it isn't what we can do now. I can only answer for myself. I don't spend tons of time here and I missed what was going on as I ignore many of the threads populating the board recently. Part of it is not allowing or accepting behavior that is personally hurtful.
I will be much more watchful and out there for those I admire. I will be more aware, so that those people whom I want in my world will know it.
I can't take on a negative vendetta as it is not my style and I don't want that in my life, but I can take on a positive one.
I will be much more watchful and out there for those I admire. I will be more aware, so that those people whom I want in my world will know it.
I can't take on a negative vendetta as it is not my style and I don't want that in my life, but I can take on a positive one.
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Re: Re: Re: I am pissed.
Mishka comes and goes. It has to do with life and that is good. It is the people who have felt forced out with whom I am concerned: people who have been hurt and as a community we have allow it to happen.
You, Juspar, keep coming back for more. You are fun. Just because you change your name doesn't change who you are.
Skin thickness is important but evil people are another thing.
I'mVan said:
Mishka comes and goes. It has to do with life and that is good. It is the people who have felt forced out with whom I am concerned: people who have been hurt and as a community we have allow it to happen.
You, Juspar, keep coming back for more. You are fun. Just because you change your name doesn't change who you are.
Skin thickness is important but evil people are another thing.
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People come and go because of various reasons; they get busy with something else in their life, they get bored, they get their feelings hurt, they get stalked, they get tired of the high noise to signal ratio.
Several things can be done about some of these:
1) Ignore trolls. Don't respond to their posts, don't quote their posts, don't view the threads they start, don't start threads about them, don't view or post in threads about trolls, and don't respond to people who respond to trolls (for that thread only). If more people did this we would have fewer trolls.
2) Think about what you say before you say it. This not only makes you sound more intelligent, but it hurts people's feelings less often.
3) If you can say something in a nice or neutral manner rather than a sarcastic or hurtful manner, then do say it nicely or at least in a neutral manner. Rather than calling someone a "liar" point out that their statement is false or wrong.
4) Try to avoid taking sides when an argument erupts involving personalities rather than issues. If you take sides in an issue try not to get personal about it.
5) Don't jump into a feeding frenzy when a number of people gang up on somebody else - even if you agree with the sharks and feel the need to feed - you will probably regret it later.
6) If you are going to maintain a grudge against someone, just put them on ignore - don't carry it over into every thread where they post. Also, don't conduct campaigns to out them or harrass them - ignoring them is a lot more effective and it keeps the noise to signal ratio down - something that has been growing by leaps and bounds around here lately.
I can probably think of a few more, and I sometimes fail to observe these rules myself, but those suggestions should help.
Several things can be done about some of these:
1) Ignore trolls. Don't respond to their posts, don't quote their posts, don't view the threads they start, don't start threads about them, don't view or post in threads about trolls, and don't respond to people who respond to trolls (for that thread only). If more people did this we would have fewer trolls.
2) Think about what you say before you say it. This not only makes you sound more intelligent, but it hurts people's feelings less often.
3) If you can say something in a nice or neutral manner rather than a sarcastic or hurtful manner, then do say it nicely or at least in a neutral manner. Rather than calling someone a "liar" point out that their statement is false or wrong.
4) Try to avoid taking sides when an argument erupts involving personalities rather than issues. If you take sides in an issue try not to get personal about it.
5) Don't jump into a feeding frenzy when a number of people gang up on somebody else - even if you agree with the sharks and feel the need to feed - you will probably regret it later.
6) If you are going to maintain a grudge against someone, just put them on ignore - don't carry it over into every thread where they post. Also, don't conduct campaigns to out them or harrass them - ignoring them is a lot more effective and it keeps the noise to signal ratio down - something that has been growing by leaps and bounds around here lately.
I can probably think of a few more, and I sometimes fail to observe these rules myself, but those suggestions should help.
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Good for you, Ruby. That is the way it should be. Part of it still is. I am just going to let people know that I appreciate them more. I have been remiss in that I think.
Yes, Heretic, I agree with your points, but also want to add that I will be be sure to seek out those I like more often and catch up with what is happening so they know that I am paying attention.
Yes, Heretic, I agree with your points, but also want to add that I will be be sure to seek out those I like more often and catch up with what is happening so they know that I am paying attention.
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Fuck me.
I'mVan
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Re: Re: Re: Re: I am pissed.
*grin* I know Mischka comes and goes. For all that we aren't 'close', I respect her and think she's a wonderful person, I hope she's a friend.
I was away for several months, and I'm not the same person who signed up here two years ago - this isn't just a name change. I know exactly what you mean.
Don't consider that we as indivuiduals, have anything to account for in the departure (permanent or temporary) of members. The joy of Lit is it's dynamics, and they change, it's not just Laurel's infamous "phases." People come and people go.
ksmybuttons said:
*grin* I know Mischka comes and goes. For all that we aren't 'close', I respect her and think she's a wonderful person, I hope she's a friend.
I was away for several months, and I'm not the same person who signed up here two years ago - this isn't just a name change. I know exactly what you mean.
Don't consider that we as indivuiduals, have anything to account for in the departure (permanent or temporary) of members. The joy of Lit is it's dynamics, and they change, it's not just Laurel's infamous "phases." People come and people go.
ksmybuttons
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I am pissed.
I hope no one is the same after 2 years. Just for their own personal growth reasons. But, you still have a nice one...butt that is.
I know people come and go - they grow and change. As individuals we don't have control. As a group, we have a great deal of control. Harbinger has a nice thread about liberty. The rights and responsibilities that go with it.
How we treat people is a responsibility.
I'mVan said:
I hope no one is the same after 2 years. Just for their own personal growth reasons. But, you still have a nice one...butt that is.
I know people come and go - they grow and change. As individuals we don't have control. As a group, we have a great deal of control. Harbinger has a nice thread about liberty. The rights and responsibilities that go with it.
How we treat people is a responsibility.
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ksmybuttons said:
Alright! Alright! I'll come back! Sheesh.
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Rambling Rose said:
Then answer your pm's. Man, you suck .
ksmybuttons
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Rambling Rose said:
Yeah!
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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I am pissed.
It's a personal responsibilty how we treat people, we cannot take responsibility for the community.
Yeah, seen plenty of personal growth thereksmybuttons said:I hope no one is the same after 2 years. Just for their own personal growth reasons. But, you still have a nice one...butt that is.
It's a personal responsibilty how we treat people, we cannot take responsibility for the community.
