I Am NOT Leaving!!!

[Isolde]

Yes, boys and girls, my life sucks right now as many of you have heard and today it is official...

indy and I are no longer an item...so, be gentle with him girls, he is back in the fray....

I think the the both of us are mature enough to frequent a board which we both enjoy and leave it at that. We have put off communication with each other to give us both time to clear our heads but, in the end, we are going to be fine.

However, I feel no need to leave the place and people I love here and who have given me lots of support. Being a single mom I may not get in here as often but...dammit!....I am not being driven off that easily.

indy..I love ya no matter what and soon, we will be back to the friendship we had!!

Oh, and btw...indy said he was going to start posting on Monday so you havent seen the last of him yet!!

 

[willywanker]

Good for you both!!!!!!

And selfishly, too, I'm personally glad cause maybe we can keep the Acadamy thread going.

But I'm glad you are staying. Said it before, I'll say it again. Got a couple of broad shoulders here you may use as needed.

 

[LordMagicMan]

SOrry sweeite. *hugs*

 

[GuyJD]

I'm sorry to hear of your break up. But on that same note, I'm glad to hear of you staying. I only hope that the doorknob doesn't bruise his ass on his way out.......LOL.

 

[Fleshmachine]

That's great, but you don't have to yell.

 

[Isolde]

But I LIKE to yell!!! LOL

*big round of hugs to everyone*

Thanks all and flesh...that is one scary av, hon...

 

[Guest]

I am Unregistered because

I do not want to be attacked for posting as myself. But I have read the posts on yourself and your husband separating and what a rat he was/is.

Then I read that you and Indy have been having an "online" relationship for a few months and I can't help but wonder if you are not partially to blame for what has happened to you.

You reap what you sow.

You are accepting and looking for sympathy and dont' say you're not otherwise you would have kept it in PM's or Email. Don't give me the line that "we're all family" here. You rant and rave about your husband and everyone says "Oh, poor poor Isolde". Then you are hearbroken over Indy, within the same week. And now that's over and its' "oh poor Isolde".

You were married with children. You deserve everything that you have gotten so far.

 

[Mistress]

Re: I am Unregistered because

I do not want to be attacked for posting as myself. But I have read the posts on yourself and your husband separating and what a rat he was/is.

Then I read that you and Indy have been having an "online" relationship for a few months and I can't help but wonder if you are not partially to blame for what has happened to you.

You reap what you sow.

You are accepting and looking for sympathy and dont' say you're not otherwise you would have kept it in PM's or Email. Don't give me the line that "we're all family" here. You rant and rave about your husband and everyone says "Oh, poor poor Isolde". Then you are hearbroken over Indy, within the same week. And now that's over and its' "oh poor Isolde".

You were married with children. You deserve everything that you have gotten so far.

WE all love you hon, chin up ok.

 

[Guest]

So you think what she did was okay then?

I guess it would be different if it was the guy doing the same thing?

 

[Beebeeblue]

Dear Unregistered ass..err I mean user.

Im not sure who or what you are, but I can say this:

If you are so fucking perfect yourself, then you should have nothing to hide. C'mon, let us see who you really are.

 

[Guest]

Mistress wouldnt object because in fact she did and does the same things to her significant others.

 

[Mistress]

So you think what she did was okay then?

I guess it would be different if it was the guy doing the same thing?

You know all that really matters to me, as her friend, is that she was once in a shitty situation then for a short while she was able to find happiness and love, and THAT is the most important thing.

 

[Siren]

It is the "Moral Majority"

 

[Mistress]

Mistress wouldnt object because in fact she did and does the same things to her significant others.

Oh eat your damn facts, what I did was a one time thing and my relationship was bad at the time, I was lucky enough to find someone who I fell in love with, and that is all that matters.

 

[Guest]

From now on, I'll refer to myself as NS, in order to differentiate me from the other unregistered that commented toward Mistress re: her experience.

I'm not attacking anyone, I'm just asking why it's okay for her to do this and then be surprised/upset when the husband leaves and the online falls apart. That's all.

 

[Mistress]

NS?

From now on, I'll refer to myself as NS, in order to differentiate me from the other unregistered that commented toward Mistress re: her experience.

I'm not attacking anyone, I'm just asking why it's okay for her to do this and then be surprised/upset when the husband leaves and the online falls apart. That's all.

I am only assuming here, but her relationship was bad, and that is why she managed to find love else where. I know what that is like from personal experience and though others try to attack me regarding what happened with my situation they just don't understand. Everyone has their morals and person standards, and what I did went against everything I believed in. Yet the chance at love came along, and I grabbed it,and it got me out of the shit I was in. I am sure that is close to what Isolde was dealing with....

You don't let love pass by, if it might turn out greater then what it was before, it IS a risk, it is a chance that you don't have to take. If you don't take it, you may regret it for the rest of your life, or even worse, you may settle for someone who was not meant to be in the first place. I took that risk, and so did she, judge all you want, attack all you want, but all that matters is that she found love, and she was happy while it lasted. You don't ever want to sell yourself short when it comes to happiness, because it could be a chance you may never get again.

 

[Siren]

Here Here Mistress

 

[Guest]

Sometimes you decide to let it pass you by.... you think that its no big deal.... someone else will come along and make you feel the same way.... maybe even better than the last....... but sometimes it isn't so....

and then you spend the rest of your life wondering 'what if'


Take life and love..... grab onto them with both hands....... because life is too short.... and a great love is hard to find.

 

[Guest]

Back up a second Mistress. I wasn't attacking anyone.

Don't be so defensive. I stated my point and asked for an opinion. That's all. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[Tabby432]

Back up a second Mistress. I wasn't attacking anyone.

Don't be so defensive. I stated my point and asked for an opinion. That's all. Nothing more, nothing less.

Not to get involved with this one way or the other but...

If you're not attacking and are only posting your opinion why be unregistered?

 

[Siren]

GOOD POINT Tabbers

 

[Isolde]

*shakes head*

I am not going to get into a debate about morals. I know very well that some dont agree with what I did but, for everyone's understanding let me make clear:

1: The marriage was 'over' three years ago. Thats when the love died and thats when I knew he was manipulative and abusive. He was kicked out of the house by me and by DCFS more than once. Why was I stupid enough to stay with him three years after I knew I didnt love him and let that feeling grow into hate? I dont know...why does any woman?

2: When I met indy we were friends. He helped me through some tough times and, when it was over, I found out I felt..and still do feel...more than friendship for him. I fell in love. He showed me that my heart didnt have to be empty and that I could have those feelings again. Was it right that I didnt love my husband but I loved him? I dont know. I dont care. I did and still do and I will admit to it freely. Judge me how you will.

3. I left him...not the other way around. He wasnt going to let me go. He was too possessive.

So there are the circumstances. Some will agree and some will not. I chose what I did and now I live with the concequences...however...that does not mean I have to live with it eating up inside of me.

I, thankfully, have friends on this board who understand that, many times, you just have to spell it all out in order to be able to deal with what is happening in your life.

Did many of them come and comfort me when I posted my threads? Yes. Did some wag their fingers and say,"you're getting in too deep, girl". Yes. Did they love me even though I may have stumbled. Yes, and I can never repay them for all they have done for me. Have I done the same for others who have been on this board and in similar situations? Not enough but, yes, and I will continue to do it because these people mean alot to me.

In other words, we are being to each other like friends are in real life. When you go through something like this...you go to your friends and pour out your heart and they give you comfort and encouragement, chiding when needed and their whole hearted support without judgement.

And that is what I did here. I went to friends and they responded. Did I get what I asked for in the long run with my relationships? Probably. But I also have some of the best friends around.

Thanks to all who responded. May I be able to do the same when you are in need of me.

 

[Guest]

I respect your answer and your reasons.

Good luck to you.

 

[Mistress]

Back up a second Mistress. I wasn't attacking anyone.

Don't be so defensive. I stated my point and asked for an opinion. That's all. Nothing more, nothing less.

I know that you weren't attacking, but I was stating a point myself for anyone else who did choose to attack.