hypothetical questions

[freakygirl]

Ok, let's say you have a RL friend that comes to Lit also. You two flirt with one another, possibly have a offline thing going too. Nothing serious.. just a "fling". Or maybe you don't... but you'd like to. But circumstances (one or both are involved with someone else) doesn't allow for it.

And s/he is flirting with and planning on meeting another person from the boards. Do you get jealous? Feel threatened?

I mean, You aren't really involved with this person.. but you do have an attraction.

How do you handle it? Keep quiet? Threaten the "other" person (the one that is getting closer to your person of interest)? Or do you just ignore it?

 

[lickerish]

If the interest was mutual, and sort of exclusive.. then yes, I would get jealous, maybe a little irritated. I doubt he would want me to behave that way.

If the interest was one-sided, (my sided, as usual), then it might nip at the heart.. but I don't have the right to get jealous. I couldn't ignore it, but I wouldn't have a say either.



<edited to say> if I were already in a relationship, I would never cheat. The above comment was based on my incessant singleness.

 

[juicygirl]

A little jealous yes. Justifiably jealous probably not.

 

[Reverie]

I might feel a bit jealous but I wouldn't mention it, not unless we were actually involved.

 

[skitch]

I agree...jealous but not justifiably jealous. I'd, personally, take it as a "what's wrong with me?" attitude.


skitch

 

[Juspar Emvan]

I reckon pretty much the same as Licky. Especially the bit about cheating. I couldn't even be with someone else who was cheating, that would mean I was cheating too.

Always best to talk about shit. It festers otherwise.

 

[juicygirl]

yeah sweetie I know what you mean.

 

[lickerish]

oooh, good answer skitch, that's so 'me' too... I always wonder what's wrong with me, lol.

 

[AzureAngel]

My solution is the same as ever: Remove my pants.

 

[lickerish]

<edit>Especially the bit about cheating. I couldn't even be with someone else who was cheating, that would mean I was cheating too.

EXACTLY!

My ex, who married the last girl he cheated on me with, refuses to understand my point of view on this. Don't even get me started... grrrr.. he's a jack-ass.


/hijack

 

[freakygirl]

I've cheated.. on one person in my life. I will never do that again!

Just about killed myself over it.

As far as my own question. I haven't found myself seriously attracted to anyone on the boards. So I can't say how'd I react.

More than likely, i'd be like Licky..

 

[QuickDuck]

I agree...jealous but not justifiably jealous. I'd, personally, take it as a "what's wrong with me?" attitude.

been there done it... thats the reaction i had.

 

[skitch]

"what's wrong with me"

usually leads to self doubt..for some, depression...been in those boots many a time..but romantics, as i claim myself to be, often find themselves in that position...whenever you meet a "realist", you'll find that they think it's complete idiocy to let this stuff bother you. *sigh* to be called an idiot and be proud of it..

skitch

 

[lovetoread]

Well,when I first met Tiger on here we were only friends.

I was splitting up my marriage and wasnt interested in anything,if ya know what I mean.

For months I had to see him flirting here on the boards,and he'd tell me about the dates he was going on in real-life,the phone and real sex he was having.

That stuff made me very jealous.

When he decided that I was to be only his online,I had to tell him that I didnt like that stuff. I thought he would stop telling me his exploits,but he stopped doing all of it totally.

So things worked out well for me.

But had I been still in my marriage,no matter what he did,would I have said anything?

Never.

 

[YogiBare]

Do I feel jealous? Probably.

What do I do about it? Probably talk about it with others to get the feelings out. And fuck the hell out of my SO, too.

Not necessarily in that order.

 

[JazzManJim]

Yeah, I'd probably be jealous, but not with any real justification. Then again, I get jealous easily. That's my hang-up, though, and I'd never let any hint of that get out of me.

Mostly, it'd be the "Dammit, why does she waste herself on that guy. I'm better than him" sort of jealousy I've been getting since I was in puberty.

 

[Cirrus]

I've been in this situation in real life, without the online thing. Yeah, I was jealous. No, I didn't say anything. But don't go by me. I tend to have to reach emotional critical mass before I say anything, and then I usually just blurt it out at the most inopportune time.