Hypothetical question.

[LittleJade]

Say you're wandering down the sidewalk of a busy downtown street on a sunny fall day... say you end up right outside a Starbucks...

and say you see a fat woman walk out of a burger joint, carrying her lunch... say this fat girl gets surrounded by five young men, aged 18-20, who start taunting her, saying such things like:

"Oh my god guys, look at that Fat Cow!"

and

"Look at that! How do they let women that fat and ugly out of the house. That should be illegal. And look! She's eating a relative for lunch!"

Say these men have surrounded her. Say she's near tears, and the sidewalk is crowded with other people, who are witnessing this, as the young men surrounding her are purposely making a scene.


What would you do?

 

[SubKekiLee]

Well id jump in and tell them to go to hell and try to comfort the person.. Ive never been a real fighter but I hate the prejuiced that happens when people see someone bigger..

 

[littleone77]

Please tell me its not you in that hypothetical quetion Jade.

If so...I have nothing to say. (Btw, I'm not implying anything. I just know that hypothetical situations are usually not so hypothetical.)

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

 

[LittleJade]

That was my lunch hour, today.

It was a veggie burger and diet soda, by the way.

 

[Luvkitty33]

I would tell them to get lost or I was going to call the cops as I took out my cell phone. Then I'd attempt to get the girl away from the group.......remove her from the situation and try to comfort her.

Some people in this world are such assholes that it makes me physically sick to my stomach!!!!

I don't remember if I told you already, but I love your new AV. Beautiful

 

[BiBunny]

I'd rip somebody a new asshole, and I'm the meekest, most mild-mannered person you've ever met. Besides, I'm taller than most men (and certainly fat by "their" standards), so I'm betting they wouldn't fuck with me. That's ridiculous behavior.

 

[SubKekiLee]

That was my lunch hour, today.

It was a veggie burger and diet soda, by the way.

Ohhhhhh Jade I am so sorry had I been there I know 5 assholes who would have had my foot up thier ass.. I am sorry you went thru this.. {{{jade}}}}} You are gorgeous.. dont let them effect you

 

[FreeOnceAgain]

I shout out
"What the hell is your problem? Grow up, will you? Did you have stupid for breakfast with a side of insensitive ass?"

Then I would moon them - hoping they will be distracted my fat bottom and give the innocent victim a chance to get away without further damage.

 

[LittleJade]

The sidewalk and terrace of the Starbucks were crowded with people.


Not one person said a THING.

Not one.

 

[littleone77]

That was my lunch hour, today.

It was a veggie burger and diet soda, by the way.

There is nothing that anyone can say that will help it. Just try to remember who you are and forget about those who don't know you.

They say that the most painful things are eventually blocked from our memory.

Where do you live anyhow? Assholeville?

 

[LittleJade]

There is nothing that anyone can say that will help it. Just try to remember who you are and forget about those who don't know you.

They say that the most painful things are eventually blocked from our memory.

Where do you live anyhow? Assholeville?

Assholeville is right.

 

[littleone77]

Assholeville is right.

And please, don't call yourself fat. Its something they would do and we both know what you truly are.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Thane1234]

I would walk up to her and the group of men and stare the leader down. I would tell her not to mind these troglodytes.

I would then tell the leader that he owes her an apology. If he mouths off I would break his nose for him and then, depending on whether his friends are cowards, (which I suspect) offer her my hand and walk away, or (if they are not) likely proceed to get my ass kicked.

Either way, I have acted honorably.

I generally am well dressed (a suit or something similar) however so I suspect that they would crap themselves, mumble some quasi apology and leave.

 

[graceanne]

The sidewalk and terrace of the Starbucks were crowded with people.


Not one person said a THING.

Not one.

I'm so sorry. And it doesn't surprise me that no one did anything. *hugs* I've actually been in your situation, and got right in those people's faces and told them to fuck off. I also called the police, and if I was you, I'd ahve called the police and reported harrassment. Then I'd have called my husband and had him come kick som serious ass.

Once I was waiting with my daughte routside a public bathroom. This guy FINALLY came out, some homeless dude (who we learned later had shit on the floor), and he looked at me and said 'fat bitch'. I told K and he said 'he's lucky I wasn't there'.

 

[im_a_voyeur]

I would make a rude comment to the guys which would be very offensive (and therefore I will not mention it here). I'm sure an exchange of curse words would ensue. I would check to make sure you were okay and offer whatever support you would allow me to give.

That's extremely disappointing that not one person said anything to the guys or at least checked up on you.

 

[HB1965]

That was my lunch hour, today.

It was a veggie burger and diet soda, by the way.

OMG Jade I'm sorry. ((((Jade))) They are asses. You are a truly beautiful girl

Knowing me I would have told them to take their smart ass comments and shove them where the sun don't shine. That was after I would have gotten a police officer to tell them to move on.

 

[LittleJade]

I told them to fuck off, but I'm disappointed in myself. I always thought I was a stronger person than I showed today... I've about six things going on right now that are killer stresses, and it's been affecting my confidence and whatnot... and this was just the last straw... add to that being outnumbered and overpowered, and I just fucking cowered.

I suck.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

My impulse (and I sometimes have poor impulse control, especially when it involves running my mouth ) would have been to look at them and say loudly: "What - you pick on other people to take attention away from your tiny dicks?"

 

[im_a_voyeur]

I told them to fuck off, but I'm disappointed in myself. I always thought I was a stronger person than I showed today... I've about six things going on right now that are killer stresses, and it's been affecting my confidence and whatnot... and this was just the last straw... add to that being outnumbered and overpowered, and I just fucking cowered.

I suck.

I know how you feel. Sometimes when you're caught off guard like that, you aren't able to respond how you know you would have normally. And then you want to kick yourself for not standing up for yourself in the manner that you wish you had. Don't beat yourself up about it. It happens to the best of us.

You do not suck. Those 5 guys suck. The people who watched and said nothing suck. You're a lovely person, both inside and out, so don't let complete strangers and their shortcomings bring you down.

 

[fluttertongue]

You do not suck!! You were harassed and no one came to your aid. They suck!! I know we haven't formally met, but I had to jump in and show my support.

 

[the_pet]

I told them to fuck off, but I'm disappointed in myself. I always thought I was a stronger person than I showed today... I've about six things going on right now that are killer stresses, and it's been affecting my confidence and whatnot... and this was just the last straw... add to that being outnumbered and overpowered, and I just fucking cowered.

I suck.

you do not suck.....


look....we agree they are HUGE ASSHOLES for their behavior right?
.........do we care what HUGE ASSHOLES think? HELL FUCKING NO!
they're obviously SOCIAL MISFITS that have to result to insulting people to make themselves FEEL powerful because they really are PITIFUL EXCUSES FOR HUMANS SUCKING UP MY GOOD AIR !!!!!!!

you're beautiful....THEY ARE ONES THAT SUCK!!!!


angry pet

 

[TheBlackDahlia]

I'd have told 'em to lay it off and help her get out of there as quickly as possible.

I was going to ask if this happened to you, but you already answered my question. I'm so sorry. Please don't let them get to you. No only were they assholes, but they don't know you. You truly are a beautiful person, and I know others have already said it, but it's true. Don't be so hard on yourself sweetie.

*hugs*

 

[Luvkitty33]

I know how you feel. Sometimes when you're caught off guard like that, you aren't able to respond how you know you would have normally. And then you want to kick yourself for not standing up for yourself in the manner that you wish you had. Don't beat yourself up about it. It happens to the best of us.

You do not suck. Those 5 guys suck. The people who watched and said nothing suck. You're a lovely person, both inside and out, so don't let complete strangers and their shortcomings bring you down.

My sentiments exactly!!! HUGE HUGS FOR YOU, too!!!!! I know you're probably sad and mad at the same time, but really, they aren't worth the effort it takes to be upset. You ARE beautiful, and they are NOTHING!!

 

[Luvkitty33]

You know, as sad as it is, I'm really not all that surprised that nobody said or did anything to help you. Disappointed? YES! Surprised? Not really.

I've seen a couple shows (20/20 and Dr. Phil) where there have been experiments set up to see how the public would respond to someone on the street in need of help. The hired actors to play out particular scenes, for example, a man and woman in an argument where the man is obviously being verbally abusive and starting to get physical. This went on for a very long time with SO many people just walking by and either ignoring them altogether or looking at them and then looking away. It was unreal.....and SCARY!!! Finally, a single woman stepped in to help the girl getting "verbally abused."

I've seen this same type of behavior played out with children, too. One was on a playground, and even there, with mothers everywhere with their own children, it took FOREVER until one of them stepped in to help the poor kid (who was an actor, by the way).

It doesn't leave me with much confidence that if I ever found myself in a bind that someone would step in to help me. How sad has our society become?