Hypnosis to Improve Stamina?

[PhxGizmo]

I was curious to learn anyone's experience using hypnosis to prolong sexual stamina. I'm usually good for 4-5 minutes of penetration, but then tend to get too stimulated and ka-pow! Has hypnosis worked for anyone?

 

[shiny5437]

I once tried a guided visualisation thing (which is pretty much like self-hypnosis) to try to get over my old PE problem.

I found that I could last longer if I 'visualised', and tried to imagine the feelings of, a bag of frozen peas on my sex bits. You have to work on the visualisation regularly outside of the bedroom to be able to effectively recall in the heat of the moment.

Did it work? A bit, but I think i had overall sexual anxiety problems at the same time so I probably needed to try a different approach at that time.

I would certainly recommend it as something to try out though as guided visualisation is a good skill to have for stress management, etc.

Try out 'Creative Imagery' by William Fezler for starters.

 

[Remy_James]

I was curious to learn anyone's experience using hypnosis to prolong sexual stamina. I'm usually good for 4-5 minutes of penetration, but then tend to get too stimulated and ka-pow! Has hypnosis worked for anyone?

In my experience with hypnosis, it's not so much any programming or trance that assists in your longevity, rather, it is the understanding of breathing and learning how to control your body. When I first started to get sexually active, I would cum almost instantly though upon looking inward at my habits and patterns, I found that upon a large amount of stimulation I would subconsciously inhale deeply and hold my breath, increasing the stimulation and sending myself over the edge.

I then managed to late a considerably longer, about as long as you at that point.

Tell me, does your significant other MIND that you do this? Some women just want to please their men. Personally from experience, if it's in regards that she wants it to simply LAST longer, try waiting until you're about to arrive at that critical moment (you should feel your balls tighten) and pull out, smack your penis upon her clit rapidly. A little frustrating to her? Yes. But the teasing will not only raise her anticipation and arousal, but calm yourself down enough to where you go into a "round 2" without even cumming just yet. Each "round" for me at least is a bit shorter, but depending on your girlfriend you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

The other way is just good ol' practice with her personally. Don't be afraid to voice your doubts or concerns, she may even work with you.

 

[shiny5437]

I definitely agree with Remy_James regarding controlling your breathing.

I think I read in some tantric thing that guys need to focus on prolonging the out breath over the in breath and keeping a smooth breathing pattern. I think part of this is to do with relaxing the muscles in the pelvis. One thing I used to do was subconciously tighten my pelvic muscles which used to lower my threshold for going over the edge.

I can't seem to post without mentioning bum sex but I found having to learn to relax to do anal play paid dividends in my overall longevity.

Remy_James - one more thing. I thought the clit smacking was just a porno thing. Sounds painful to me. Do your partners actually get off on it? Just curious.

 

[Remy_James]

Remy_James - one more thing. I thought the clit smacking was just a porno thing. Sounds painful to me. Do your partners actually get off on it? Just curious.

Not partners, partner.

It's more of a brushing tap than a pecker slap, perhaps smack was a more intense verb than I intended. On the other hand yes, she actually smacks (verb intended) her own clit when she's extremely aroused and edging to nuture a multiple O, she described it as something of an electric jolt that makes all the right muscles contract allowing her to stall her impending orgasm while also relishing in the sensation.

But in the sense of 'getting off' solely by clit smacking no, I cannot simply tap-tap-tap to an orgasm and doing it too much will indeed frustrate her to the female equivalent of blue balls. It's only used to stall or enhance an already lengthy session when we both aren't ready to cum just yet, or when I just want to be a dick and tease her relentlessly...

 

[sunandshadow]

It is quite possible to give a woman an orgasm by repeatedly sliding your dick (or anything else lol) over her clit. Dunno about smacking though.

 

[ScottyS]

"The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know" is a nice book you might want to peruse.

The overall method presented in that book is basically gaining control over your sexual response through breathing and use of the PC muscle in order to achieve multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms. I used to practice it myself, and I can say it definitely works, though it requires practice, patience and some discipline. That's probably the main reason I haven't done it in awhile; I tend to lose patience after about an hour or so of practicing and settle for the familiar ejaculation. But once you experience an orgasm in your brain, you'll see why the practice is worthwhile. But like I said, you need to develop some patience and discipline and make sexual Kung Fu more of a lifestyle than an isolated technique.

I haven't experienced problems related to premature ejaculation personally, but all men suffer from the ignorance that leads them to masturbate and have sex in a way that doesn't help them develop control at all, but rather just encourages them to seize small bits of pleasure here and there. Next time you masturbate, focus on deep relaxation before you begin. Be sure to use lube, because that will allow you to use long, relaxed strokes. Pay attention to your own sexual response, from the first stirrings of horniness all the way to orgasm. That mindfulness is probably the most powerful tool at your disposal. Make sure you breathe deeply and gently throughout. When you get to the point of no return (maybe twenty seconds before orgasm, but if you feel really worked up you should stop sooner), pull up on your PC muscle and relax for a few minutes. Then start again. You'll soon be able to enjoy the pelvic expansion that accompanies orgasm without ejaculating. You can practice this with your partner, but it's obviously much easier to start by yourself.

 

[ApprenticeApril]

I've read before that dill can help with libido and stamina.