Humiliation Help: How to Make a Woman Blush

[twysted73]

You MUSt have seen this coming, no?

Alright Gents and Genteals (Pyl's):
What I want from you is one (just one, you can muster atleast that much, yes?)
of your most favorite techniques.
No reason to horde them as if they're some ancient Chinese secret.
Out with it. Share and be respected for your technique.

As a reward for your efforts, I will choose the one I like the most. I will break with my usual "no kiss and tell" policy and share it with you once I've done it.

Fair enough?

 

[CutieMouse]

I could tell you, but then I'd have to kill you.



*does secret handshake woo-woo magic*

 

[YourCaptor]

In front of people she cares about point out the total idiocy in something she has said.

Make it short, aggressive and direct. Then watch her try to sink into the ground.

I love it.

 

[Netzach]

Usually by forcing her to wear pink panties and high heels. Much more fun with girls who aren't interested in that than with boys who claim not to be but are.

It's REALLY upsetting to the right girl.

These codified "how do you embarrass someone" threads are fairly silly for this reason. Every human has another trigger and another set of factors.

If someone "pointed out the total idiocy of something I said" in front of the people I care about, for example, he'd miss his balls.

 

[YourCaptor]

Usually by forcing her to wear pink panties and high heels. Much more fun with girls who aren't interested in that than with boys who claim not to be but are.

It's REALLY upsetting to the right girl.

These codified "how do you embarrass someone" threads are fairly silly for this reason. Every human has another trigger and another set of factors.

If someone "pointed out the total idiocy of something I said" in front of the people I care about, for example, he'd miss his balls.

Well, I have a snappy comeback, but fuck it.

It's a fun topic, lets keep it there.

 

[Netzach]

I'm just saying it's really contextual. There's nothing formulaic about humiliation.

If she's madly in love with you, licking your shoes on fifth avenue might not faze her.

 

[Noira]

Usually by forcing her to wear pink panties and high heels. Much more fun with girls who aren't interested in that than with boys who claim not to be but are.

It's REALLY upsetting to the right girl.

These codified "how do you embarrass someone" threads are fairly silly for this reason. Every human has another trigger and another set of factors.

If someone "pointed out the total idiocy of something I said" in front of the people I care about, for example, he'd miss his balls.

Every human has their own set of triggers. If anyone decided to point out the idiocity of what I said in front of someone else, they'd be lacking their balls the next day too. If someone tried to force me to wear pink panties and heels I'd go FUCK YOU and shove the heels up their ass and wear the panties outside of my pants to be spiteful.

...I'm beginning to suspect I'm a domme more than a sub.

(coughs politely)

I'm pretty easy to humiliate but it wouldn't make me blush, the things that humiliate me--they make me attempt to remove people's balls if they did it intentionally or completely withdraw from humanity and hate myself for the next 10 years. I'm STILL humiliated by an event that happened when I was ten at a soccer game that no one else probably remembers. To make me BLUSH, now, the best way to go about that would probably be to start playing something up about me way over the top. "I was with her and you should've seen the bras she was picking out! She just had such taste in lacy undergarments! Show them the bra, honey!" Playing something crazy up for me would have me embarrassed in no time, and humiliated if I had to prove it too.

Everyone's got their triggers. And my technique listed here doesn't just work on me. I can quite embarrass a friend of mine by going on about her mad skillz. I imagine this could be made vaguely erotic by going on about someone's bed skills and asking them to prove it once you've built it up. I don't think I really could humiliate someone erotically because I've seen the damage being humiliated as a child by friends did to me. XP So sorry if this isn't the best contribution.

 

[Netzach]

Every human has their own set of triggers. If anyone decided to point out the idiocity of what I said in front of someone else, they'd be lacking their balls the next day too. If someone tried to force me to wear pink panties and heels I'd go FUCK YOU and shove the heels up their ass and wear the panties outside of my pants to be spiteful.

...I'm beginning to suspect I'm a domme more than a sub.

(coughs politely)

I'm pretty easy to humiliate but it wouldn't make me blush, the things that humiliate me--they make me attempt to remove people's balls if they did it intentionally or completely withdraw from humanity and hate myself for the next 10 years. I'm STILL humiliated by an event that happened when I was ten at a soccer game that no one else probably remembers. To make me BLUSH, now, the best way to go about that would probably be to start playing something up about me way over the top. "I was with her and you should've seen the bras she was picking out! She just had such taste in lacy undergarments! Show them the bra, honey!" Playing something crazy up for me would have me embarrassed in no time, and humiliated if I had to prove it too.

Everyone's got their triggers. And my technique listed here doesn't just work on me. I can quite embarrass a friend of mine by going on about her mad skillz. I imagine this could be made vaguely erotic by going on about someone's bed skills and asking them to prove it once you've built it up. I don't think I really could humiliate someone erotically because I've seen the damage being humiliated as a child by friends did to me. XP So sorry if this isn't the best contribution.

*chuckle*

I had a butch boi who felt pretty much like that about pink panties. She was amenable to blue dreadlocked gothic girl drag, though. Which was fun.

I had bet her wife who said there was no fucking way she'd do femme drag - I tapped the one appealing form I could. Much more hot than humiliating.

It's a landmine strewn field to go playing in more for some than others.

The most humiliating thing I ever did to someone was, because of who he is and what his baggage is, to make him hit on a woman in a bar. That's it. For most people recreation. For him, complete struggle.

I'm SURE that hops gender lines for some people.

 

[ecstaticsub]

The way I see threads like this is what will humiliate me most is the LAST thing I would ever put on a public forum. That in itself would be humiliating. As in to humiliation play that I am, I am not going to do it unless ordered to do so by my PYL.

Also, even though my PYL just browses my comments here when he wants he does not comment. However, if he was to post an answer to this question I would never be back to this forum.

IMHO, humiliation play is the most private of play.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm with Netzach and ecstaticsub on this one. Also I think often people confuse embarrassing and humiliating with each other and usually are thinking the former when they ask about the latter.

Catalina

 

[twysted73]

Alright, to simplify this a little more and reduce general interpretation (always a thread killer I've noticed)...how about we do this:
What was one of YOUR embarrassing/humiliating/PERSONAL experiences with humiliation play?
Yes, this just means whoever is reading it and appying it to themselves as far as what they consider humiliating within their play dynamics.

Now I'm not asking for something that'll keep you from ever returning.
For god's sake you're on lit. What else do you have to do that's so pressing?

 

[twysted73]

Ugh..nevermind.

Lost interest.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm just saying it's really contextual. There's nothing formulaic about humiliation.

If she's madly in love with you, licking your shoes on fifth avenue might not faze her.

This is something I've pointed out to Jounar as we've been diving into the world of humiliation.

For his last sub, to have naked pics of herself posted on the net was ultimit humiliation, and to have he perform on web cam for a bunch of stangers in a web chat was devistating. But for me, it's 7th heaven.

There are how ever 2 things that's he's gotten me to get that blush and try to hide from him look.

1. The clamps in my av there? Well he had me put them on my nipples, then get on all fours so my tits hung the best. So far I'm okay right? Then comes the kicker. He had me start swinging them. I don't know what it was but that action kept putting in my mind those really old black and white clips you see with the bullet bras with tassles on them and the woman swinging them in circles and what not. He laughed his ass off as I tried to keep swinging, and hide my face at the same time.

2. The other thing that gets to me is peeing infront of him. I have no idea why that bothers me so. Maybe it's because he makes me do it in a cup, like you would at the doctors office or something. But everytime, same thing, I try to hide from him with out moving and with out not completing the task.

But it is very personal. I could walk naked for miles down a busy down town street on a leash with "bitch" written across my ass and it wouldn't faze me. *shrug*

 

[subbie_333]

In front of people she cares about point out the total idiocy in something she has said.

Make it short, aggressive and direct. Then watch her try to sink into the ground.

I love it.

i'm not sure that this has anything to do with BDSM humiliation. Vanilla humiliation, embarrassment, insult, and, degradation - yes. But, i don't see it as a way to improve/enhance a BDSM relationship, especially with this event acknowledging that the two people share a vanilla relationship as well. Also debatable is the idea that this action also forces the vanillas to participate in this supposed BDSM activity in a nonconsensual way. So, it doesn't work for me, but, then again, i am unqiue.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm just saying it's really contextual. There's nothing formulaic about humiliation.

If she's madly in love with you, licking your shoes on fifth avenue might not faze her.

Yes. Absolutely.

 

[CynicSan]

I don't bother with the usual forms of humiliation. I have a preference for attacking the mind, which is why I'm quite an oddball dom. In truth I have never made my sub do something against their own will. I simply coerce them.

Utilizing sexual denial is a common route of doing this. Only pleasuring certain parts and get them high on carnal lust that they beg you for a screw. Best way is play to their fetishes--if they like to be whip. Whip them. Tell them they aren't allowed to touch themselves. Ect. Eventually they will do anything, even things they normally won't do, without a second doubt.

It's not uncommon for subs to get off on humiliation. Being forcibly humiliated is boring in my opinion--the true fun is getting them to humiliate themselves by their own free will. That way once they do it they get the "oh my god I just---" thought in their heads. And then all you have to do is get them to admit they loved it. Throw in a few degrading words and bam.

OF COURSE....this takes a great deal of time to do and won't work with every kind of sub. Like most things in sex--it all depends on what gets someone off.

 

[twysted73]

This sort of insight is precicely what I have been asking about.

The POV of one who enjoys what they enjoy, regardless of whether it's someone else's choice or not. Approach or not.
PC or not.

Thank you CS

 

[CutieMouse]

I don't bother with the usual forms of humiliation. I have a preference for attacking the mind, which is why I'm quite an oddball dom. In truth I have never made my sub do something against their own will. I simply coerce them.

<snip>

It's not uncommon for subs to get off on humiliation. Being forcibly humiliated is boring in my opinion--the true fun is getting them to humiliate themselves by their own free will. That way once they do it they get the "oh my god I just---" thought in their heads. And then all you have to do is get them to admit they loved it. Throw in a few degrading words and bam.

OF COURSE....this takes a great deal of time to do and won't work with every kind of sub. Like most things in sex--it all depends on what gets someone off.

This sort of insight is precicely what I have been asking about.

The POV of one who enjoys what they enjoy, regardless of whether it's someone else's choice or not. Approach or not.
PC or not.

Thank you CS

To quote the long lost Wicked One (seems appropriate given the last two posts):

Sounds like my kinda people. The board has mentioned mindfucks before, and what you've described certainly fits in at that level. Now, twist in the wind a little further. Find that chink and exploit it. Show your partner the abyss. Get him/her writhing in agony/pleasure/humiliation all at the same time. The cream that rises to the top is the stunned look on the face and sound of your partner's voice in a barely audible whisper that says "i can't believe i just did that."

Ambrosia is the realization you can get them to do it again.

Humiliation and the Art of the Mind F*ck... woo-woo magic, indeed.

Edited to change the quote as I finally found the one I was originally thinking of.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I don't bother with the usual forms of humiliation. I have a preference for attacking the mind, which is why I'm quite an oddball dom. In truth I have never made my sub do something against their own will. I simply coerce them.

Utilizing sexual denial is a common route of doing this. Only pleasuring certain parts and get them high on carnal lust that they beg you for a screw. Best way is play to their fetishes--if they like to be whip. Whip them. Tell them they aren't allowed to touch themselves. Ect. Eventually they will do anything, even things they normally won't do, without a second doubt.

It's not uncommon for subs to get off on humiliation. Being forcibly humiliated is boring in my opinion--the true fun is getting them to humiliate themselves by their own free will. That way once they do it they get the "oh my god I just---" thought in their heads. And then all you have to do is get them to admit they loved it. Throw in a few degrading words and bam.

OF COURSE....this takes a great deal of time to do and won't work with every kind of sub. Like most things in sex--it all depends on what gets someone off.

Now I really love how your brain works! lol

 

[Homburg]

"Remember, you asked for this."
"No I didn't!"
"Yes. You did."
"Yes, I did."

Pure gold.

 

[the captians wench]

"Remember, you asked for this."
"No I didn't!"
"Yes. You did."
"Yes, I did."

Pure gold.

For us the first time is usually:

"You agreed to be my <blank>"
"No. but. well. yes. but...."


The second time he gets me to ask for it, and the damned thing about it is, I never can figure out how he does it!

 

[CutieMouse]

For us the first time is usually:

"You agreed to be my <blank>"
"No. but. well. yes. but...."


The second time he gets me to ask for it, and the damned thing about it is, I never can figure out how he does it!

That's the [delicious] woo-woo magic.

Find the hairline crack in the facade, carefully chip away at it, push a bit harder - next thing you know the whole dammed stone wall comes tumbling down in a whimpering puddle of orgiastic giggles... and the next time he asks, the memory of the orgiastic giggling goo overrides the common sense practical stone wall, and BOOM! Right back to woo-woo magic.

 

[Homburg]

For us the first time is usually:

"You agreed to be my <blank>"
"No. but. well. yes. but...."


The second time he gets me to ask for it, and the damned thing about it is, I never can figure out how he does it!

That's the [delicious] woo-woo magic.

Find the hairline crack in the facade, carefully chip away at it, push a bit harder - next thing you know the whole dammed stone wall comes tumbling down in a whimpering puddle of orgiastic giggles... and the next time he asks, the memory of the orgiastic giggling goo overrides the common sense practical stone wall, and BOOM! Right back to woo-woo magic.

What she said.

Had this very experience this past weekend.

"You asked for it, baby girl. Twice now."
*buries her face in the pillow*

 

[the captians wench]

That's the [delicious] woo-woo magic.

Find the hairline crack in the facade, carefully chip away at it, push a bit harder - next thing you know the whole dammed stone wall comes tumbling down in a whimpering puddle of orgiastic giggles... and the next time he asks, the memory of the orgiastic giggling goo overrides the common sense practical stone wall, and BOOM! Right back to woo-woo magic.

woo-woo magic. Got it.

What she said.

Had this very experience this past weekend.

"You asked for it, baby girl. Twice now."
*buries her face in the pillow*

Yup, never fails. but with me, I try to hide my face in my hands.

Which I was the brilliant one to bring up the fact that if my hands are cuffed behind my back I can't hide in them. How do I hide now?

 

[Homburg]

Yup, never fails. but with me, I try to hide my face in my hands.

Which I was the brilliant one to bring up the fact that if my hands are cuffed behind my back I can't hide in them. How do I hide now?

This is such a fun reaction. You get to watch the person try to figure out how to hide. So much fun