How?

[GrnEyedGrl]

So, I'm married....extremely happily. My husband and I are in an open marriage and as we are becoming more and more open with our sexuality, I'm discovering that I am very much bisexual. I find myself looking at women all the time and fantasizing about them. I find that I get off more watching women in porn than I do watching men....which is convenient for my husband

We have participated in two foursomes where I engaged with the other women, and it gave me a taste of something I definitely want more of. My husband tells me that I should be the one looking for another woman to either be with individually or bring in to our relationship because it is looked at as sexy for a woman to be looking for a MFF, but it's creepy when a guy does it....lol. My question is, how? How do I even go about finding someone? I barely know how to pick up guys, much less girls! Help!

 

[frogocite]

I would say best bet is go out on the town to a gay club, my other half is curious and loves clubing in gay clubs. everyone is normally relaxed and even no strings hookups are easy. Would love to know how it goes and good luck!!

 

[Somehowyou]

Why you look on lit of course. Dozens of people in your region you can corespond with and decide if you want to meet. Also, try Plenty-of-fish. What you want is easy!

 

[JustoffCenter69]

Exactly!

Well, you are further along than I have gotten - I'm happily married too and the hubby knows that I have been attracted to other women for a long, long time but have never acted on it seriously.
The longer it goes, the more I want to try it, and the more I think about it! The one problem I have is that I don't just want a classic girl-girl porn experience. I want to meet a girl and go through the whole process that you go through when you meet anyone you want to date - I want to kiss her, call her, go parking, buy her gifts - work my way up to it. Am I crazy?

 

[Tmmldr]

Well, you are further along than I have gotten - I'm happily married too and the hubby knows that I have been attracted to other women for a long, long time but have never acted on it seriously.
The longer it goes, the more I want to try it, and the more I think about it! The one problem I have is that I don't just want a classic girl-girl porn experience. I want to meet a girl and go through the whole process that you go through when you meet anyone you want to date - I want to kiss her, call her, go parking, buy her gifts - work my way up to it. Am I crazy?

No, and I'm impressed. All you need to do is tell that and those who have had unsatisfactory mostly physical encounters will be at your beck and call.

 

[klippert]

my thoughts.... a male view...

First....LOL, I have always thought; Women hold all the keys.... if we men get laid, that's because she wanted to get laid.

I would venture a guess, there is a web site, here for example, where you could net work and find another lady, whom is looking for a her first FF experience. Even one in a open marriage such as your self.

one suggestion... take pix...LOL

 

[GrnEyedGrl]

Well, you are further along than I have gotten - I'm happily married too and the hubby knows that I have been attracted to other women for a long, long time but have never acted on it seriously.
The longer it goes, the more I want to try it, and the more I think about it! The one problem I have is that I don't just want a classic girl-girl porn experience. I want to meet a girl and go through the whole process that you go through when you meet anyone you want to date - I want to kiss her, call her, go parking, buy her gifts - work my way up to it. Am I crazy?

Uhhh....are you close to indy?

 

[JustoffCenter69]

Uhhh....are you close to indy?

I wish I were...NW PA!

 

[jdntdp]

with all respect

I am not sure why this is so tough. If you want something like this, G/G play is everywhere. In my single days (3 yrs ago) I cannnot remember meeting a girl who had not experimented or wanted to. It is everwhere and probably easier to find than m/f dating. I had experimented with AFF and adultspace years ago and had great success AND, most of the girls I had met were activly involved with other women. This is no surprise as our culture identifies women as beautiful creatures, we all lust and make this natural connection. Men have a tendency to be pigs and lets face it... gross. I will say that if you are going to try the online gig, that you move forward slowly. Start with email, then IM, phone, then a busy public meeting in a location where you are BOTH famillar. Then meeting in a neutral location like a hotel. If all goes well at every phase, then you can move things home. Just be smart about it.

By the way, none of the girls I knew in an open relationship were ever successful. Ultimately, their marriages failed. I am not saying that it cannot work, but my experience has been that it's physically fun but there is a price to pay. I believe that sex is tied to emotion more than the body. If there is something we are seeking physically there is something lacking emotionally. This "emptiness" may not be in your marriage, but in your own psyche. If you were to figure out what this need is, your drive to be with someone else may fade. Just my opinion.