How Would You React?

[MysteryJKR]

Alrighty! Hey people.. I had a big discussion about this at work today and thought id get some feedback from strangers. hehe..

Alright.. me and my best friend.. My best best trust more than anything friend..who happens to be a girl.. a very attractive girl who is a model are going out to get tattoos.

First I thought it was just her taking me out to get one for Christmas and just cuz and she would get one with me..

But than I found out that she wants to get one with me... like the same one.. (maybe) and in the same spot as me..

So because of our great friendship which I highly doubt will end anytime soon due to any reasons I agreed and have put a TON of thought into it.. much like everything I do.


BUT as of recent I got myself a girlfriend.. & a few women at my work said that if there boyfriends/husbands got a tattoo with there best friends they would be very mad and upset with there significant other.. but only if that friend was of the opposite sex..


Why? Friends are just friends.. nothing more.. Right? Whether or not there guys or girls your friend is a friend and someone who means the world to you.. someone who might last longer than any relationship.. not that im saying my relationship will end any time soon.. (hope not!) But you know what im saying hopefully..

Relationships are supposed to be about trust I always thouht.. & I personally would have no care in the world if my g/f decided to get a tattoo with one of her close guy friends.. There just friends... I trust her and thats that..

But like I said.. woman at my work have gotten all uppity about it.. Like its the worst thing in the world and if there guys did it than they would like get rid of em. Isnt that harsh? sounds harsh to me..

But like I said.. I dont see what the big deal is at all.. Friends are just friends and people show how much they care for there friends in different ways.. My best friend who has been with her b/f for over 3 years has told her b/f and he doesnt care at all..

Am I wrong? Or do guys just not care as much about something like that than women?

Or are my friends at work right and it will be some huge problem?

What do you all think?

Thanks!

 

[cymbidia]

I wouldn't be upset if my SO (if i had one) wanted to go do that. However, i'm not a kid anymore and when i was, i probably would have been upset over it. The answer to this lies partly in the fact that jealousy is often, i think, an age thing for women.

We get WAY more secure in our sexuality and attractiveness and eminent desireablitiy as we get older. We know what we can do and know what we want. When we're way young, however, it's all about the hot smothering flashes of feeling, jealousy chief among them. We're confused and unsure about ourselves and our value, consequently, we smother you.

If it bothers the girlfriend, then you have to ask yourself if the bond with your palfriend is worth the grief you'll have to suffer from your jealous gf over it.

Maybe it's time to get rid of the gf.
Maybe the bond with the palfriend is more important.

No one can call it but you.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Originally noted by cymbidia the wise
If it bothers the girlfriend, then you have to ask yourself if the bond with your palfriend is worth the grief you'll have to suffer from your jealous gf over it.

No one can call it but you.

Bingo.

If it bothers the SO. Why are you asking us, all you can get from us is the range from do it to don't do it. If she matters to you, communicate with her. I see only that you have asked everybody else, not the one who you need to.

 

[MysteryJKR]

my girlfriend knows im gonna go get a tattoo with her.. but not the same one in the same spot..

She was ok with my getting it with her but I dont know if her feelings will change with this new bit of news.. But I havent been able to get ahold of my g/f so I can get to her with it just yet..

I just honostly didnt even stop to think that she would be hurt by it or anything because I never saw it as any kind of issue or big deal. Just something between friends..

I know very well that it is my decision in the end.. I know. Thus I know that I am only asking for opinions of others in a "what if?" kinda way ya know..

I just wanted to see how others would react to the same thing..



Oh.. About the age and maturity thing... Yes I am only 19. but all of the friends at work are much older than I, two of which are grandmothers.. (I work in an assembly area of a plant that is mainly women)

So I dont know what that shows about them.. Thats also why I asked about whether or not it just might not be an issue for guys or sumthin.. *shrugs*

but yea.... I think with the more I say the more im not making much sence. lol

But thanks so far!



I really do appreciate it mucho. hehe.