How would you react if...

[Anomaly1964]

...you found out your significant other, who was timid with you sexually, was online being very nawty with someone else?

 

[papadoc19]

...you found out your significant other, who was timid with you sexually, was online being very nawty with someone else?

I might be a little sad and hurt...would wonder why she is holding back with me...

 

[respeito]

...you found out your significant other, who was timid with you sexually, was online being very nawty with someone else?

that's a terrible truth to face. like papadoc said, i would be hurt. i'd also dig deeper and want to know what was so wrong with our foundation that my significant other felt he had to fill a void with online companionship. was it stress? physical or emotional distance? is he doing it for the sake of recreation? does he just not love me....did he ever love me? i think i'd also ask myself if my integrity would allow me to work past the problem and stay in the relationship.


:: a tiny, two-cented opinion ::
the internet provides total anonymity. it's a platform that allows people to shed the insecurities and inhibitions that (can) burden them during physical interaction...to "bare all" to complete strangers.

the internet also makes it easy for people to connect mentally in the virtual world. when you've found yourself virtually connected, you begin sharing things: detailed things, intimate things. feelings get...intense. a door has been opened and a relationship has formed. an emotional need is being satisfied, but without a real commitment.

i'm not saying that it's right or wrong, just that it's a (rapidly) growing experience.

outside of confronting the situation, i would have to consider, heavily, if his activities outside of our marriage impacted the relationship enough for me to leave him.

 

[Anomaly1964]

Great answers so far...thanks!

 

[L8tnIt]

Respeito has described some awesome points.
I can only add that each individual relationship is just that- individual.
How one couple (two friends, monogamous marriage, dedicated lovers, etc...) may react is likely different to how another couple may react.

Patience, Willingness to Adapt, Compromise, and Communication is at the forefront of all relationships... why would these traits not continue?*

*Communication is the foundation of any relationship whatsoever.

 

[janeyl]

...you found out your significant other, who was timid with you sexually, was online being very nawty with someone else?

It would very much depend on the level of intimacy shared as much as it would in real life...just a fuck, virtual or real, would bother me much less than sharing something of himself with someone*or offering them the opportunity to do the same...

if they were timid with me sexually in real life but were being a tiger on line...it would make me feel inadequate that they were unable to share that side of themselves with me...

I agree on many levels with what respeito has said but am bizarrely very much the opposite...much more inhibited on line than in real life...

 

[NotHisLady]

There are some things people will do in a virtual situation that they would hesitate to experience in RL. It may be curiosity that leads them or an unspoken desire that they are uncomfortable facing.
Being online means it's possible to try those things in a way that is removed from physical reality.
Finding out about it and treating it as an opportunity to share those thoughts, feelings, and desires rather than making it a confrontation may let that usually timid partner feel safe opening up.
Having a virtual partner is worlds away from having a physical affair.

 

[mamasota]

...you found out your significant other, who was timid with you sexually, was online being very nawty with someone else?

I feel, my humble opinion, instead of having hasty reactions about him/her, let the SO know you discovered the online nawties, ask pertinent questions, if you love that person enough, then it would be a convenient way to get a new and more pleasurable groove on, and perhaps it is a good opportunity to now shed that shyness, or reservations, and begin to really enjoy each other.

 

[Anomaly1964]

I feel, my humble opinion, instead of having hasty reactions about him/her, let the SO know you discovered the online nawties, ask pertinent questions, if you love that person enough, then it would be a convenient way to get a new and more pleasurable groove on, and perhaps it is a good opportunity to now shed that shyness, or reservations, and begin to really enjoy each other.

Great response...

 

[BlueDreams]

These are good answers. Me? I would just be pissed. Maybe a combination of pissed and jealous and sad. I would feel inadequate or even rejected if SO felt he couldn't be naughty with me (because I'm definitely *not* shy), but could with someone else.