How would you make them feel special?

[Vermilion]

Say your life and relationship had descended into mundanity and you weren;t connecting with your SO any more. You decide to spoil them rotten, give them a fun, romantic, sexy evening with you where you could laugh and reconnect as a couple - what would you do?

OR...

What would you like your SO do for you to make *you* feel spoilt rotten?

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[English Lady]

I'd cook him his favourite meal -anything with steak And I'd make a respberry pavalova for dessert -because there's a special message with pavalova for hubs and I.

Then I'd take him to bed and massage him from head to toe with a nice smelling oil because he loves a good massage and then, well we'd do what comes natural to a man and woman naked in bed together *grins*

 

[impressive]

Attention is the ultimate compliment that can be paid.

Nothing, IMO, makes a person feel more valued, more special and appreciated, than the attention to detail of the one(s) they love/desire.

I think that the descent into mundanity, into routine, often results in a lack of attention. We get caught up in other things, and we fail to see what's right in front of us. We take it for granted.

Which, for example, which would make you feel more special?

(a) Your SO remembers that, sometime last spring, you mentioned a fondness for a type of perfume that was out of your price range. He buys it for you for your birthday in October.

(b) Your SO asks you, a week before your birthday, what you'd like as a gift. You tell him about the perfume that you'd mentioned the previous spring. He buys it for you.

Same gift. Same gift-giver. Same depth of feeling behind it (presumably). WAY different impact.

To my way of thinking, anyone who is emotionally invested in you should have the sense to PAY ATTENTION.



So, to answer your question, I'd cook up whatever I could recall my SO saying s/he would like to try. I'd sprinkle that (lightly) with some tried-and-true favorites and, for bonus points, add something that I just kinda think maybe s/he'd like to taste.

 

[RogueLurker]

I think Imp has it ... the best thing you can do is to show them that you do pay attention to all that they say and do ... that they are your focus. Nobody likes to feel invisible or taken for granted. I think that goes for anyone - not just for your SO.

If I want to do something special for my partner, I'll cook something that she likes (which I may not be fond of) or take her out to dinner to a place that serves sushi or fish and I'll struggle through stoicly. The best thing I can do is give her a foot massage - she ends up with this delightfully silly look on her face during it and ends up falling asleep as soon as I'm done. She and I both know that there's nothing in it for me - it's all about her. Giving a gift out of the blue - something that she has mentioned in passing some time ago or something that I think she might like - that's how you show that you care, that even if things get in the way, you are listening to them and thinking of them.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Hurrah for Imp! That's perfect advice.

My father, bless him, once presented me with a birthday present of a small antique bronze prayer icon that I had admired when he and I had been in the same antique store months earlier. The icon itself is a beautiful thing, but the thought and care was the really superb part.