How will I know he's still curious, its been 20 years?

[scooter1000]

When I first met Jim I new there was something different about him. We became inseperatable as friends ,even when he moved to another city. We were around 18 and I would stay at his place sometimes a week at a time.
He actually asked me if I wanted to try having sex with him. I said no, but I have always fantasized about it. Now its 20 some years later and I want him more than ever!!! But he's been with this girl for along time and he's changed. how should I approach this problem?

 

[Etoile]

Ask him. Keep it casual. "Hey buddy, remember when you suggested we have sex together?"

 

[justchuckc]

Problem? What problem? Situation maybe.Possible adventure maybe.opprotunity maybe.But personally I see it as not a problem. If he once was chances are he still is, interested that is. I don't care for cliches like "nothing ventured nothing gained" but after 50 years in this life I have learned that regret can be much worse than denial. Attitudes toward our lifestlyes has changed (not enough though) for the better in the last 20 years.Follow the advice of Etoile(wise beyond her years, read her threads)and conduct yourself like a gentleman.....and then let us know. Just my 2 cents keep the change.

 

[bimori]

Call him talk to him . Talk about old times you had together . About old memories then bring up that you wish you had tried it . How you've thought about it for all these years . The worst that can happen is he says no . But if he says yes you may have mis this . I say go fo it .