How turned on do you get by your own writing?

[Thenaughtypen]

I am out of the box new to writing erotic stories. I've written tons of other stuff, but my novel is drying up and I needed to create, so here I am.

So - my challenge to me is to write from as many sexual angle as I can. See what I can imagine, put myself in the shoes of gay, straight, male, female and go for it.

One story published, and two pending as I write this. Erotic literature is so much fucking fun to write.

Trouble is I just get so horny writing. It's like I have expanded my entire sexual fantasy world and all of it turns me on.

Listen, there is also stuff that just doesn't cut it for me. I'm not into taboo, incest or anything remotely non consensual. My questions about the morality of some of that is a different thread of course.

Anyway - do you get hot and wet / stiff as you write?

 

[ElectricBlue]

Write horny, edit in the morning once you've had coffee .

 

[Thenaughtypen]

Write horny, edit in the morning once you've had coffee .

That does seem like excellent advice. Of course the risk is I just end up horny with my coffee and whoops, there goes the day.

 

[SimonDoom]

I go different ways on this question. In general, I think it's a good thing to write about what turns you on, because when you get turned on by your subject matter and are really in tune with what turns you on you can write more authentically and enthusiastically.

However . . . I use writing to explore the boundaries of my sexual interests, and of my sexual ethics, and to go places I would not, in fact, want to go in real life. I have long enjoyed stories that do this and when I started writing a few years ago it was something I wanted to do, and it's something I've done as a writer and something I want to continue doing.

So I'm not always truly turned on by what I write. It's more a matter of getting myself in a zone where I can explore what it would be like to be turned on by a certain subject matter, and letting my imagination run free to describe and get me into that zone.

For instance, I'm a hetero male, but I'm working on a gay male story. The subject matter doesn't normally turn me on but I can use my imagination to get myself into a fictional world where I am a different person and it does turn me on. That, to me, is part of what being a writer is about.

 

[KeithD]

Getting turned on is the primary reason I write the erotica stories.

 

[SamScribble]

I often get a rush from my own writing - but I don't think that's what you mean, is it?

 

[ElectricBlue]

For instance, I'm a hetero male, but I'm working on a gay male story. The subject matter doesn't normally turn me on but I can use my imagination to get myself into a fictional world where I am a different person and it does turn me on. That, to me, is part of what being a writer is about.

Likewise. One of my favourite comments from a close reader was that the few gay scenes in my work are "written with enthusiasm." One of my beta readers for The Dark Chronicles was rewarded with his own chapter - which he then went on to promote in one of his stories. It's one of the highest scored chapters in the series, and shows a demonstrable kick up in views. I'm quietly amused by that .

 

[Ian_Snow]

It really depends on the story. I try - emphasis on try - to write things that would turn me on as a reader, but sometimes that's just not going to happen. I write a lot of filler for my collections, stuff that I like just fine, but which I don't find particularly sexy to me. That stuff helps pay the bills, and on occasion, it surprises me that readers like it more than I did. But by and large, the stuff that excites me tends to be the better written stories. So if I can invest myself into the sexiness of a story and come across situations where I, ah, need to take a break, that generally means I'm doing an okay job.

 

[Blind_Justice]

Not to sound arrogant, but I don't write kink-centric. My stories are stories with uncensored sex scenes, not sex with a convenient framework.

Fuck, that did sound arrogant.

Anyway, I try not to force the plot in a way that all my sex scenes are handjob material for me personally. Besides stuff which turns me on, I have written enough sex scenes which are absolutely not my cup of tea, but they had to be done because the characters involved worked that way or the plot demanded it. I've written GM sex, light D/s play, demon non-con, incest and some others which personally don't do much for me, but going by some comments, they did for others. Fine by me.

Even those self-written sex scenes which do turn me on have something awkward about them. The Rhys/Borna scene in Mud&Magic 10 for example. I find it extremely hot, but considering one of the participants is an armor-plated, clawed and scorpion-tailed hermaphrodite, I figure not many other people might be as invested as I am. The sex scenes in "Dramatic License" aren't half bad, even though the story surrounding them isn't my brightest moment. Then again, autobiographic stuff has those extra memories attached which add an extra layer of spice.

 

[lovecraft68]

Not to sound arrogant, but I don't write kink-centric. My stories are stories with uncensored sex scenes, not sex with a convenient framework.

Fuck, that did sound arrogant.

Anyway, I try not to force the plot in a way that all my sex scenes are handjob material for me personally. Besides stuff which turns me on, I have written enough sex scenes which are absolutely not my cup of tea, but they had to be done because the characters involved worked that way or the plot demanded it. I've written GM sex, light D/s play, demon non-con, incest and some others which personally don't do much for me, but going by some comments, they did for others. Fine by me.

Even those self-written sex scenes which do turn me on have something awkward about them. The Rhys/Borna scene in Mud&Magic 10 for example. I find it extremely hot, but considering one of the participants is an armor-plated, clawed and scorpion-tailed hermaphrodite, I figure not many other people might be as invested as I am. The sex scenes in "Dramatic License" aren't half bad, even though the story surrounding them isn't my brightest moment. Then again, autobiographic stuff has those extra memories attached which add an extra layer of spice.

Please, in a forum where some people can't go two posts without talking about their scores of how many stories they have or how amazing someone said their story was....you don't sound arrogant discussing the kind of scenes you write.

We joke here about people reading one handed here, I think some authors post one handed while they stroke themselves on and offline.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I look on it like this. If I can’t turn myself on, who else do I think I can?

 

[Voboy]

I look on it like this. If I can’t turn myself,on, who else do I think I can?

This.

 

[KeithD]

It's easier to be turned on by what you write and be able to write across genres if you are bi to begin with.

 

[Ginlover]

Oh no, I'm going to be in a minority then. My writing does not turn me on.

I can think in detail about whats happening, I'll even see if something is possible, I'll consider how something feels but at that stage it's too clinically be hot to me. For example if a guy did that would my hands touch him there? Next I add the emotion, past the logistics stage and on to bringing it alive. Now I have the first draft of a sex scene

Then I read it, and again, and again...probably making edits each time. This is when I add more reality or humour. Shes been top long enough her knees will be complaining, type thoughts. How will she say something or move to relieve the pressure while not breaking the mood.

Now I'm pretty bored and numb to the sex scene I've written. My sex scenes have the same detail I put into any other scene I write.

Feedback is they are hot as fuck and successful stroke stories. People ask about the characters so I hope I still make my people 3 dimensional.

Knowing I'm causing a physical and emotional reaction in my readers is why I write sex, but no I am not turned on as I write them.

 

[sirhugs]

I write to get the ideas OUT of my brain. I hope NOT to be turned on by them by the time I am done.

 

[oggbashan]

When I have the idea? Maybe.


When I'm in full writing flow? Maybe.


When I'm editing? No.


When I submit? Maybe.


When it is posted? No. I'm deep into writing the next one.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

Yes, during first draft.
First edit, and trying to make scenes into a story - that's more like doing a cryptic crossword, a fun mental challenge and satisfying when it all comes together.
Second edit, I'm basically reading through hoping to find it hot and finding all the bits that cause me to stumble instead. So a third time through tends to be more for fun than the second!

Sometimes I go back and read stories after they've been posted (or scenes that are hanging around my virtual filing cabinet). It's nice to know there's some stories tailored completely to me!

 

[CuttingEdge]

Very much so...I learned as a teenager that I could write what I wanted to experience since I could not really experience it due to my protected life. And now that I am an accomplished writer (published beyond erotica), I can write about anything which is freeing.

I have two modes: I write the erotic parts when i am excited, and then write the parts that build up to the erotic scenes when I am not, so I seldom go from start to finish, but skip around to different parts of my stories as I write. I also have different stories in various stages of completion, from just started, to almost done.

At any given time I have 50 stories or so...

 

[Sunnyade]

I've been putting my experiences down in a diary for about 6 years. Really just for my own benefit. It's helped me work things through and given me an outlet for my thoughts and emotions. I still get turned on reading over my journal. Doesn't help with my productivity thats for sure.

 

[Emirus]

One day I’ll get the hang of how to do multi-quote comments.

 

[Thenaughtypen]

Not to sound arrogant, but I don't write kink-centric. My stories are stories with uncensored sex scenes, not sex with a convenient framework.

Fuck, that did sound arrogant.

Anyway, I try not to force the plot in a way that all my sex scenes are handjob material for me personally. Besides stuff which turns me on, I have written enough sex scenes which are absolutely not my cup of tea, but they had to be done because the characters involved worked that way or the plot demanded it. I've written GM sex, light D/s play, demon non-con, incest and some others which personally don't do much for me, but going by some comments, they did for others. Fine by me.

Even those self-written sex scenes which do turn me on have something awkward about them. The Rhys/Borna scene in Mud&Magic 10 for example. I find it extremely hot, but considering one of the participants is an armor-plated, clawed and scorpion-tailed hermaphrodite, I figure not many other people might be as invested as I am. The sex scenes in "Dramatic License" aren't half bad, even though the story surrounding them isn't my brightest moment. Then again, autobiographic stuff has those extra memories attached which add an extra layer of spice.

I don't get arrogance in that comment at all. There is a choice isn't there, I suppose. A story about sex, or a story with sex. I find the language of writing about sex kind of taxing. I want the reader's imagination to do the work, but I think they may often want graphic detail that's a tough balance. I haven't done enough yet to get there.

A story that has uncensored sex still has to be a good story, of course. Which makes me think. For my non erotic stuff I barely touch on sex. It happens, of course, because that is what people do, but I frankly gloss over because it doesn't advance the story. I could be wrong. I'll maybe pick stuff up doing this that shows that feeling erotic about a character makes them more real. Brings the reader closer, somehow. I don't know.

 

[Thenaughtypen]

I go different ways on this question. In general, I think it's a good thing to write about what turns you on, because when you get turned on by your subject matter and are really in tune with what turns you on you can write more authentically and enthusiastically.

However . . . I use writing to explore the boundaries of my sexual interests, and of my sexual ethics, and to go places I would not, in fact, want to go in real life. I have long enjoyed stories that do this and when I started writing a few years ago it was something I wanted to do, and it's something I've done as a writer and something I want to continue doing.

So I'm not always truly turned on by what I write. It's more a matter of getting myself in a zone where I can explore what it would be like to be turned on by a certain subject matter, and letting my imagination run free to describe and get me into that zone.

For instance, I'm a hetero male, but I'm working on a gay male story. The subject matter doesn't normally turn me on but I can use my imagination to get myself into a fictional world where I am a different person and it does turn me on. That, to me, is part of what being a writer is about.

I like the authenticity angle. If it does nothing for me, then how on earth do I know if I'm getting my reader interested? I've started with gay male and next up will be lesbian. I am neither., but I find both arousing. What I'd like is the reader to be unable to even figure my gender, let alone orientation, and just believe in the characters that I created.

 

[Thenaughtypen]

Oh no, I'm going to be in a minority then. My writing does not turn me on.

I can think in detail about whats happening, I'll even see if something is possible, I'll consider how something feels but at that stage it's too clinically be hot to me. For example if a guy did that would my hands touch him there? Next I add the emotion, past the logistics stage and on to bringing it alive. Now I have the first draft of a sex scene

Then I read it, and again, and again...probably making edits each time. This is when I add more reality or humour. Shes been top long enough her knees will be complaining, type thoughts. How will she say something or move to relieve the pressure while not breaking the mood.

Now I'm pretty bored and numb to the sex scene I've written. My sex scenes have the same detail I put into any other scene I write.

Feedback is they are hot as fuck and successful stroke stories. People ask about the characters so I hope I still make my people 3 dimensional.

Knowing I'm causing a physical and emotional reaction in my readers is why I write sex, but no I am not turned on as I write them.

Interesting. I think the concrete detail (knees complaining type stuff) is the difference. That is a jolt to the reader that it could be real. I remember in a book a thousand years ago that I read, when the hero lost his virginity a kitten nibbled at his toe. I cannot remember the book, but I remember that. That's probably what makes you work hot.

I don't know if this is the same for anyone else, but I write as if I'm watching a movie in my head. I literally don't know what's going to happen next, but I've read a review so I've got the gist of the story. Because it is so visual, when writing about sex, I see it and the skill is then surely to notice the kitten at his toe. I suspect that takes more practice than I have time for, because it is a real skill.

 

[davion2308]

A little

I always get super turned on when an idea hits. I'm just sitting there doing something else and I think, "What would the conversation be if a brother- and sister-in-law started bitching about how conservative their spouses were?"

Then I start imagining the scene, they're up late sitting at a camp fire at a family vacation and the family in question is very conservative. The two trade notes on what they did before, sexually, and how they ended up here. They don't touch but they tell each other stories of crazy adventures and they're both experimental and like trying new things.

Now the conversation turns to what they haven't done before and what they want to try. They share and we now have a sexy conversation with a conspiratory flavor and they're turning each other on by being completely honest and vulnerable at their desires and wants.

I get turned on thinking about it. My process is jotting down notes, hand-writing as quick as possible to take notes and thinking about the conversation. I'm turned on right here. This is sexy. I plot out a bit of the conversation, enjoy feeling hot and bothered, and then get back to whatever it was I doing.

Is the actual writing portion sexy? No, it's work. I'll check notes, I'll try to get the conversation down but I'm too busy making them sound realistic and human and not talking formally or stilted. I'm doing surgery here and it's too precise to be turned on.

I'll read through and get all turned on again once I'm done. Then I do an edit and final draft (not sexy) and I post.

 

[Emirus]

Oh no, I'm going to be in a minority then. My writing does not turn me on.

My sex scenes have the same detail I put into any other scene I write. People ask about the characters so I hope I still make my people 3 dimensional.

Knowing I'm causing a physical and emotional reaction in my readers is why I write sex, but no I am not turned on as I write them.

If you’re in a minority then I’m in the same minority myself. I’m more interested in writing a story in which the sex is an integral part rather than thrown in to satisfy the idea of the site. That doesn’t mean I don’t write with the intention of turning the reader on. That’s the point of writing a sex scene. But I hope, if the sex was removed, the story would still be enjoyable.

I do enjoy the femdom stories (enjoy not get turned on) because I can put myself into the male character. I also enjoy writing erotic couplings and romance with me (attempting) putting myself into the male character.

I couldn’t possibly attempt gay male or lesbian and I’ve been attempting to write an incest story for months. Yes to transgender because I see the transsexual as a woman.

I have written the multiple sex scene type of story but I’ve always tried to make the story “over the top,” and hope readers have realised what I’ve tried to do.