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[scheherazade_79]

Turn Someone Off You

I've picked up a stalkerish type person from Gaydar Girls. I'm not interested, because:

a) I'm not looking for anyone.
b) She smokes so much dope she's cross-eyed.
c) She's so not my type by any stretch of the imagination.
d) Having looked at her profile and what she's looking for, I'm so not her type either.
e) She won't leave me the fuck alone. I'm getting several lengthy messages each day, and what's more - whenever I haven't responded to her, or haven't written a satisfactory amount, I've been LECTURED about my rudeness.

I've tried everything. I stopped responding to her messages... Later on that day she sent me a blockbusting message, DEMANDING an explanation for my lack of response.

And this is the worst thing - she's a good 6 years younger than me, damn it!

I explained to her that I wasn't looking for anyone, and that I really didn't think I was her type. At the end of the day, she's looking for someone who's ambitious at work and who loves their job... That's about as far away from me as they come.

She's now written back, saying that suddenly that isn't a priority anymore, and she wants me all the same.

I'm starting to feel slightly afraid of her.

So the question is... what can I tell her that'll be an absolute turn off and make her leave me the hell alone?

 

[Vermilion]

Turn Someone Off You

I've picked up a stalkerish type person from Gaydar Girls. I'm not interested, because:

a) I'm not looking for anyone.
b) She smokes so much dope she's cross-eyed.
c) She's so not my type by any stretch of the imagination.
d) Having looked at her profile and what she's looking for, I'm so not her type either.
e) She won't leave me the fuck alone. I'm getting several lengthy messages each day, and what's more - whenever I haven't responded to her, or haven't written a satisfactory amount, I've been LECTURED about my rudeness.

I've tried everything. I stopped responding to her messages... Later on that day she sent me a blockbusting message, DEMANDING an explanation for my lack of response.

And this is the worst thing - she's a good 6 years younger than me, damn it!

I explained to her that I wasn't looking for anyone, and that I really didn't think I was her type. At the end of the day, she's looking for someone who's ambitious at work and who loves their job... That's about as far away from me as they come.

She's now written back, saying that suddenly that isn't a priority anymore, and she wants me all the same.

I'm starting to feel slightly afraid of her.

So the question is... what can I tell her that'll be an absolute turn off and make her leave me the hell alone?

Say you're questioning your sexuality and want to try men again...?
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[impressive]

So the question is... what can I tell her that'll be an absolute turn off and make her leave me the hell alone?

How about:

You're scaring me & I've alerted the authorities. Go away now.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Say you're questioning your sexuality and want to try men again...?
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That's a huge lie, though, Vermilion!

 

[scheherazade_79]

How about:

You're scaring me & I've alerted the authorities. Go away now.

That's not bad... I'm just worried she'll want an explanation on it - why she's scaring me, at what times of day I felt particularly afraid, whether I've had past experiences that have made me feel afraid....

Fuck. I just want to bury my head and have her go away.

 

[matriarch]

How about:

You're scaring me & I've alerted the authorities. Go away now.

I'm with you, Imp.

Add to which, say you've also reported her actions to Gaydar Girls owners, and requested that they remove her from their files for her behaviour. And then do NOT reply to any of her messages again. The more you respond to her, the more you fuel her obsessive wishes.

As a last resort, change your e-mail address.

 

[Elsie Grey]

That's a huge lie, though, Vermilion!

Still a good idea. You don't have to do anything about it...

Elsie

xxx

 

[scheherazade_79]

Hmmm....

Ok, so maybe I'll go for a two-stage plan. First I tell her that (oh God.... I don't believe I'm saying this...) I want to try men again *sigh* And then if she keeps it up, I'll tell her I reported her to the authorities, and if she carries on she'll be sectioned under the mental health act.

I feel a bitch saying all that, though...

 

[Vermilion]

Hmmm....

Ok, so maybe I'll go for a two-stage plan. First I tell her that (oh God.... I don't believe I'm saying this...) I want to try men again *sigh* And then if she keeps it up, I'll tell her I reported her to the authorities, and if she carries on she'll be sectioned under the mental health act.

I feel a bitch saying all that, though...

Just regard it as self-defence, ok?
<kisses>
Just come and flirt with all the girls on here more if you feel the need to re-assert your lezbean-ness

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[scheherazade_79]

Just regard it as self-defence, ok?
<kisses>
Just come and flirt with all the girls on here more if you feel the need to re-assert your lezbean-ness

x
V

I'm never going to go to lesbian heaven now... and all because of some chick who's cross-eyed as a coot, and believes it's her right to possess me

 

[rgraham666]

Not being a bitch, being smart.

The poor woman is an obsessive. Best to stay away from her.

 

[impressive]

Hmmm....

Ok, so maybe I'll go for a two-stage plan. First I tell her that (oh God.... I don't believe I'm saying this...) I want to try men again *sigh* And then if she keeps it up, I'll tell her I reported her to the authorities, and if she carries on she'll be sectioned under the mental health act.

I feel a bitch saying all that, though...

Why do you feel the need to lie? Nothing good ever comes of it.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Not being a bitch, being smart.

The poor woman is an obsessive. Best to stay away from her.

I think I might know who she is, too... She looks familiar. The first time I went out to some lesbian bars / clubs in Cardiff was on a date, where the girl I was with pointed out some of the regular faces and told me who to stay away from.

I might be imagining things, but something in the back of my mind is telling me that this was the woman dressed all in black in the King's Head. I remember my date pointing to her and describing her as an absolute psycho, who goes out on her own, sits in darkened corners and then ensnares unsuspecting women.

I don't know if I feel so bad about lying to her now.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Why do you feel the need to lie? Nothing good ever comes of it.

Not wishing to sound negative, Imp, but I can't see anything good coming out of this situation full stop.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Also, I've tried being honest, and it seems to fly straight over her head

 

[impressive]

Not wishing to sound negative, Imp, but I can't see anything good coming out of this situation full stop.

Well, if you can maintain your self-respect with that course of action, more power to ya.

My objective would be to extricate myself from the situation without compromising my integrity.

 

[Fallenfromgrace]

Bugger...i've been found out

~~ Gaydar girls? Zade, do you really need the networking help from there? i stopped visiting there ages ago- yet i DO need the help.

ANYWAY. Remove your account?...unless you've paid for the whole year...? I think that you should do what imp said- should scare her somewhat. You havent made public your personal email/details have you? if so change that now.

good luck sweet, psycho's like this appear once in a while...

and like someone said above, just come and flirt here to re-assert your homo-ness i'm always willing

 

[scheherazade_79]

Well, if you can maintain your self-respect with that course of action, more power to ya.

My objective would be to extricate myself from the situation without compromising my integrity.

I kept my integrity and sent her the first post from this thread - minus the last line. It was as honest and integritous (?) as I could be.

 

[feeeriek]

i hope it gets sorted soonest

 

[scheherazade_79]

Bugger...i've been found out

~~ Gaydar girls? Zade, do you really need the networking help from there? i stopped visiting there ages ago- yet i DO need the help.

ANYWAY. Remove your account?...unless you've paid for the whole year...? I think that you should do what imp said- should scare her somewhat. You havent made public your personal email/details have you? if so change that now.

good luck sweet, psycho's like this appear once in a while...

and like someone said above, just come and flirt here to re-assert your homo-ness i'm always willing

Grace, do you know how many lesbians I've seen in RL since September? Probably about 2 - max.

I like the AH, but I want people to meet up with in RL. Not necessarily for dates. Friends is cool. It would just be nice to hang out with someone who isn't a gay male, which is what my RL social network consists of.

I haven't paid for the account, and my personal details are secret. Kind of reluctant to get rid of my account, because it would be like closing the only door I have to the RL lesbian world.

 

[scheherazade_79]

i hope it gets sorted soonest

Thanks, Fee. If it doesn't, you can come over and sort her out for me.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I would date you, but you're nuts.




Ask Ms. Psycho if she knows what genital warts are?

 

[scheherazade_79]

I would date you, but you're nuts.




Ask Ms. Psycho if she knows what genital warts are?

People only think I'm nuts, because I'm more 'normal' than most

As for asking Ms. Psycho if she knows what genital warts are... Abs, are you serious???????????? LOL!

No!

It probably would have got rid of her pretty fast, though - unless it backfired... and she wrote back saying: "Great, that's another area where you and I are so compatible!"

 

[Fallenfromgrace]

Grace, do you know how many lesbians I've seen in RL since September? Probably about 2 - max.

I like the AH, but I want people to meet up with in RL. Not necessarily for dates. Friends is cool. It would just be nice to hang out with someone who isn't a gay male, which is what my RL social network consists of.

I haven't paid for the account, and my personal details are secret. Kind of reluctant to get rid of my account, because it would be like closing the only door I have to the RL lesbian world.

Ah hmmm...well...come to london...(you realise that is gonna be my reply to everything you say now? )

I have a lot of lesbian friends- i dont really need gaydar- though i did pay for a month a little while back.

HOW THE FUCK HAVE YOU NOT PAID FOR THE ACCOUNT?! you can't send messages or view profiles on a non paid account?!

Hope she fucks off soon could be my ex...haha...u definately DO NOT want to get involved in that spider's web...

 

[ABSTRUSE]

People only think I'm nuts, because I'm more 'normal' than most

As for asking Ms. Psycho if she knows what genital warts are... Abs, are you serious???????????? LOL!

No!

It probably would have got rid of her pretty fast, though - unless it backfired... and she wrote back saying: "Great, that's another area where you and I are so compatible!"

Hmmmm, true.......okay, go with the man thingie first.