How to win an argument with your (female) partner

[schatz]

All it takes is four words..."You're absolutely right dear"....everything else is just wasted syllables and sentence fragments...."but I...could ya....but the...the...awwww". It doesn't matter what the argument is about fellas, these are the only words that matter well that and "My mistake, I'm sorry".
I guess that's it....no real point to this thread, I'm just spouting off a bit.TTFN

 

[huskie]

I know what you mean. When my wife asks "Why did you do that?" I say "Cause I'm stupid!!!! Now back off!!!" that works pretty good for me

 

[lovetoread]

Oh please.

 

[marksgirl]

Just forget it you can't and wont ever win!

 

[huskie]

Just forget it you can't and wont ever win!

ya.... us smart boys allready know that.

 

[Random Variable]

Pathetic

"What are the three words every man is longing to hear?"

"You were right."

"You'll never win."

Shows how screwed up women can be. Nobody in the world is right all the time. Don't know how to take it without taking it personally. Still fighting with their mom's about what dress to wear.
R.V.

 

[InnocentAngel81]

All it takes is four words..."You're absolutely right dear"....everything else is just wasted syllables and sentence fragments...."but I...could ya....but the...the...awwww". It doesn't matter what the argument is about fellas, these are the only words that matter well that and "My mistake, I'm sorry".
I guess that's it....no real point to this thread, I'm just spouting off a bit.TTFN

that will never happen

 

[DevilBoy79]

"My mistake, I'm sorry".

tried that cause it was my fault , didnt work wasnt trying to win either

 

[schatz]

My main point is simply that many times it's better just to bite your toungue and get it over with. The "yes you did...no I didn't" ping ponging only leads to more stress and a few more lost hairs. It's all gonna end the same way no matter what. Maybe I'm being a tad too stereotypical but this past weekend I practically bit my toungue off and like I said, I just needed to spout off a bit. Matter of fact, I think it would save a lot more time if men just apologized first thing in the morning for any screw ups that they will make during the day....of course, if ya don't screw up then ya gots to apologize in the evening for throwing out misinformation in the morning. Oh well, in the immortal words of Porky the Pig "That's all folks."
Oh....and if the women out there feel that I am wrong my observations....you're absolutely right and I apologize.

 

[sacremento]

I am with the most amazing man, because he actually does this!!

We will have a little tiff over something stupid, and argue a sentence or 2, then all of a sudden I'll start to get that annoyed look on my face and what does he do? He says "you're absolutely right dear" In the most convincing sincere tone of voice!

It always makes me smile, and forget the silly shit we were fighting about, even though I know he's just patronizing me.
It's not a cure for serious arguments, but it does work for the little things! I can testify

 

[MR.GGG]

ROOAAARR

Ever heard the phrase," Won the battle but lost the war." ??

I'll second or third that "spout" ....

Yes, dear.

I'm sorry dear.

It won't happen again....deeerrr....

The really dangerous women tho are the ones who start and continue a verbal battle with you IN THEIR HEAD and it doesn't matter WHAT you say because they are HEARING what they figure you'll be saying and getting more and more PISSED. It takes drastic measures NOT to get sucked in to those kinds of confrontations. These are usually associated with severe PMS type behavior.

A TRANQ DART GUN is the only ways out of one of these TRAPS. When she comes to and hears ,

Yes, dear.

I'm sorry dear.

It won't happen again....

She may ( MAY ) forget her train of thought from before. Only get one chance at that tho.

 

[huskie]

Its all about PICKING your Battles and which ones you really want to win.......

and lovetoread??????? GOOD GOD!!!!!!! What the hell happened to your AV?????????

 

[Kittenwithawhip]

Egads

Not all women are harpies. Not all women wake up in the morning with the sole intention of waging war with their loved ones. Perhaps the

really dangerous women ... the ones who start and continue a verbal battle with you IN THEIR HEAD and it doesn't matter WHAT you say because they are HEARING what they figure you'll be saying and getting more and more PISSED...

feel like all they hear are patronizing, hollow

Yes, dear.

I'm sorry dear.

It won't happen again....

Apologize when you mean it and don't apolgize if you aren't sincere. If you have hurt someone's feelings (intentionally or unintentionally) apologize for that too. Just remember saying sorry doesn't take the place of treating people like they matter in the first place.

 

[huskie]

Re: Egads

Not all women are harpies. Not all women wake up in the morning with the sole intention of waging war with their loved ones. Perhaps the feel like all they hear are patronizing, hollow


Apologize when you mean it and don't apolgize if you aren't sincere. If you have hurt someone's feelings (intentionally or unintentionally) apologize for that too. Just remember saying sorry doesn't take the place of treating people like they matter in the first place.

Yes Dear.....

sorry I couldn't help it.

 

[Random Variable]

Re: Egads

Not all women are harpies. Not all women wake up in the morning with the sole intention of waging war with their loved ones. Perhaps the feel like all they hear are patronizing, hollow


Apologize when you mean it and don't apolgize if you aren't sincere. If you have hurt someone's feelings (intentionally or unintentionally) apologize for that too. Just remember saying sorry doesn't take the place of treating people like they matter in the first place.

I couldn't agree more--continuous apologizing by the man creates a lot of resentment in the man. So the ladies may be getting what they want in terms of apology, but if it is just designed to avoid a fight, you are just creating the grounds for resentment.

Mr. GGG, this is the real winning the battle but losing the war (=the relationship, the marriage, whatever). Enough pussy-whipping is enough.

IMHO women could stand to do a little more apologizing themselves.

Also IMHO women are far more ready to "drop the atomic bomb" in any argument. Just had a spat with my wife about who should photocopy the kids' passports for a trip they're taking. Uses all kinds of excessive language, threatens to storm out of there, sees red--because everything becomes a matter of 'principle.'

So, Mr. GGG and others, I definitely think this "yes, dear" crap has gone far too much and far too long.

R.V

 

[HeidiManshankVA]

I am with the most amazing man, because he actually does this!!

We will have a little tiff over something stupid, and argue a sentence or 2, then all of a sudden I'll start to get that annoyed look on my face and what does he do? He says "you're absolutely right dear" In the most convincing sincere tone of voice!

It always makes me smile, and forget the silly shit we were fighting about, even though I know he's just patronizing me.
It's not a cure for serious arguments, but it does work for the little things! I can testify

My ex boyfreind used to say, "Sybil, is that you?!" "Please tell Heidi that I still love her."

It was piss funny!

 

[faust]

My main point is simply that many times it's better just to bite your toungue and get it over with. The "yes you did...no I didn't" ping ponging only leads to more stress and a few more lost hairs. It's all gonna end the same way no matter what. Maybe I'm being a tad too stereotypical but this past weekend I practically bit my toungue off and like I said, I just needed to spout off a bit. Matter of fact, I think it would save a lot more time if men just apologized first thing in the morning for any screw ups that they will make during the day....of course, if ya don't screw up then ya gots to apologize in the evening for throwing out misinformation in the morning. Oh well, in the immortal words of Porky the Pig "That's all folks."
Oh....and if the women out there feel that I am wrong my observations....you're absolutely right and I apologize.

Come on men, have we really become that spineless? Easy way out? Perhaps - as long as you can look in the mirror and say, "Fuck honor and dignity, I just want to take the path of least resistance!"

That's pretty damn pathetic. Remember, such actions will only perpetuate the one-sided arguments, since all you're doing is rewarding your woman for being a bitch. Better lay down the law, and if the bitching continues, you'll know that it's time to move on to greener pastures.

 

[schatz]

In the past, I used to argue to win no matter what the cost. The main thing was that I was right point blank period. Now that I've matured past my pubescent mentality, I've come to realize that in the long run, it really doesn't matter whose fault it was that an appointment was missed or something was forgotten during the packing for a trip. In the grand scheme of things it's all just petty shit and should not create rifts in a relationship. If you really care about the person you are with and have a mutual respect for one another, it doesn't matter who was right or wrong (in most cases) all that matters is to get over it and get along with loving one another.

 

[gothedistance]

My ex boyfreind used to say, "Sybil, is that you?!" "Please tell Heidi that I still love her."

It was piss funny!

That is cute, and a nice thing to do.

Now, although I have very definite opinions and more experience than most on this subject, this is all I have to say.

 

[huskie]

In the past, I used to argue to win no matter what the cost. The main thing was that I was right point blank period. Now that I've matured past my pubescent mentality, I've come to realize that in the long run, it really doesn't matter whose fault it was that an appointment was missed or something was forgotten during the packing for a trip. In the grand scheme of things it's all just petty shit and should not create rifts in a relationship. If you really care about the person you are with and have a mutual respect for one another, it doesn't matter who was right or wrong (in most cases) all that matters is to get over it and get along with loving one another.

Thats it..... Pick your battles, carefully........

 

[LusciousRedLips]

How to REALLY win an argument with your female partner

Do everything she says to do or even hints that you should do. Cater to her every whim. Worship the ground she walks on. Lavish her with affection. Tell her often that she is the most beautiful woman in the world, and NEVER go a day without giving her a kiss that will make her weak in the knees. All in all, treat her like the princess that she is!

After doing all that, she will overlook the whiskers in the sink, the dirty socks left on the floor, and all the other stupid guy-crap that you do. Then, there will be no more arguments for you to lose.

If that doesn’t work, jewelry helps—diamonds preferably, two carats or larger please

 

[SXCRgirl]

Nothing angers me even more than a man who tries to patronize me. When you apologize, mean it sincerely. Don't just say the words because all you're doing is insulting me. If you don't feel that you've done something wrong, then express that. For me, it's not worth having a conversation that is going to result in resentment and strife. It's much better to just cool down and then discuss it later.

Just my 0.02.