how to wait for somthing thats everything youve wanted, but might not happen
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Quote by Sun Tzu:
“If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.”
My dear mum used to add: "and should you wait for more than 45 minutes.... Then get upstream and bloody do something about it!"
“If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.”
My dear mum used to add: "and should you wait for more than 45 minutes.... Then get upstream and bloody do something about it!"
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There can be a sweetness to the feeling of waiting and hoping and that's fine, but be aware also of what's passing you by as you wait. I can be a romantic and say that hope is beautiful and not waiting could be missing an opportunity, but there's the realistic as well. Being strung along or stringing yourself along on "little" signs of hope is a good way to miss all the other signs of hope and other possibilities around.
*smacks forehead* Then again, I can be a hypocrite.
I say blowing up the damn is cooler.
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Anything that is not physically impossible will happen eventually. Like, some time before the heat death of the universe. But we might not be able to wait that long.
Any specific space-time event has VERY small probability. (What are the chances that particle P will be at location L at time T?) And yet, stuff happens anyway.
Combine those statements. Yes, the event you're waiting for is improbable. Yes, it will very likely occur eventually. No, you might not live long enough to see it.
Wait if you want. I'll make another cup of ginger tea.
Any specific space-time event has VERY small probability. (What are the chances that particle P will be at location L at time T?) And yet, stuff happens anyway.
Combine those statements. Yes, the event you're waiting for is improbable. Yes, it will very likely occur eventually. No, you might not live long enough to see it.
Wait if you want. I'll make another cup of ginger tea.
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'Live not your life as though you have a thousand years, but live each day as if it is your last.' Well, that's what Marcus Aurelius reckoned anyway. I don't think he was in favour of too much waiting around.
Thanks guys.
Difficult situation with someone special. Sometimes damned hard. But other times exhilarating and amazing. And the best thing I've had thus far.
It's complicated on both our sides for a lot of reasons. But we've talked about things and she's made it clear she wants something more. We just need to work out our complications. Mine, will be worked out hopefully by the end of nov. Hers hopefully this year too.
Just take our sweet times with the bad. But I can't deny I'm in love with her. First time she said those words to me after sex I was floored. I never thought a woman like her would feel that with me. But now she tells me every day. And I do too.
I haven't met her son yet but he knows about me. She thinks we'll get along amazing.
Just getting there is the really hard part. The times in between hurt us both. But when were together its magic.
Difficult situation with someone special. Sometimes damned hard. But other times exhilarating and amazing. And the best thing I've had thus far.
It's complicated on both our sides for a lot of reasons. But we've talked about things and she's made it clear she wants something more. We just need to work out our complications. Mine, will be worked out hopefully by the end of nov. Hers hopefully this year too.
Just take our sweet times with the bad. But I can't deny I'm in love with her. First time she said those words to me after sex I was floored. I never thought a woman like her would feel that with me. But now she tells me every day. And I do too.
I haven't met her son yet but he knows about me. She thinks we'll get along amazing.
Just getting there is the really hard part. The times in between hurt us both. But when were together its magic.
I've never believed in waiting. Either you have to make it happen or it's probably not going to. People who get what they want go out and get it. I'm sorry to burst a bubble but waiting around for good to happen may just lead to disappointment. If you have a dream, you have to pursue it rather than waiting for it to fall into your lap. There may be some chance that may happen, but it's more likely that you'll wake up one day and say, "what the hell was I waiting for?"
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Isn't there something wonderful in that wanting? in the possibilities?
I think a little patience goes a long way. Isn't it better to take things slow and make sure it's right... than to jump into something and mess it all up?
“There is a space between man's imagination and man's attainment that may only be traversed by his longing.” - Kahlil Gibran
I think a little patience goes a long way. Isn't it better to take things slow and make sure it's right... than to jump into something and mess it all up?
“There is a space between man's imagination and man's attainment that may only be traversed by his longing.” - Kahlil Gibran
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So let me take a moment to get this straight in my head - You have had sex, she is now telling you daily that she loves you. Her son knows about you so that actually makes her single. Now what is with the insecurities over this situation? Seems a fairly secure outcome to me.
But
Why the time delay? Waiting for your divorce? Have you actually applied yet? How would your new would-be partner react if she were to read of your postings here on Literotica?
By the way, psychiatric wards or indeed hospitals are not called mental hospitals. Glad to see that you were so caring about your wife that your only concern about cheating on her was your fear of catching a sexually transmissible infection. Your support, must have been of great comfort for her.
But
Why the time delay? Waiting for your divorce? Have you actually applied yet? How would your new would-be partner react if she were to read of your postings here on Literotica?
By the way, psychiatric wards or indeed hospitals are not called mental hospitals. Glad to see that you were so caring about your wife that your only concern about cheating on her was your fear of catching a sexually transmissible infection. Your support, must have been of great comfort for her.
Thanks for the replies . I actually had a very nice night tonight. For right now I have to say things are great.
Night L. I can appreciate your feelings on things. Let me answer some questions and clarify.
Why the time delay?. Yes, im waiting for my full divorce. Have I applied?. No. I have to wait until august, after the one year separation has elapsed and I can file.
In addition to that, my girl is in a long fight for custody of her little man. That's soon to be over and its moreso just a matter of finalizing details. We both had lives before we met eachother. And its a matter of tying loose ends. Yes she is single, never married to the father of her son. My father has met her and loves her to pieces. And she knows absolutely everything about my situation. And me. Including my interests that ive posted here actually, after tonight.
Re-reading what I said, I can understand how I might have come off as callous towards my ex. And maybe admittedly I am a bit. Tired. But you need to understand how I got to this point.
It started 3 weeks after we got married, I walked in on her with someone else. And there was no mistaking what was going on. I forgave. Don't ask me why. At the time, yes I was beyond hurt. But I felt it made sense somehow. Looking back I don't know what I was thinking.
She enrolled in uni. I was working full time. She ended up cheating again. And tried to turn the situation around on me. At this point I had not once stepped out on her. Theres two sides to every story. maybe I wasn't there enough. Maybe I was working too much. I don't know what her side was because she straight up would not communicate with me. When I tried to get her to go to marital counselling, she would flip out at me and the argument would go nowhere. By this point she started having more serious problems. Involving cutting herself with kitchen knives. She refused to stay on medications prescribed by her doctor, even when her own family wanted her to. And she made an attempt to try to seduce my own father, no word of a lie. He told me about it himself, and what got me, is my dad has NEVER spoken ill of a girl I was with, even if he didn't like her he always kept that to himself. He just looked at me and said I deserved better and he always wanted more for me. That was what broke the back for me. Id plain and simply had enough and couldn't do it anymore. She went to the hospital when she cut herself really bad, and an evaluation was done and she was recommended to the psychiatric ward (which by the way, I would like to apologize if I offended anyone for referring to it as the mental hospital, I didn't mean this derogitorally). And it was in there that SHE told ME she wanted out. She blamed her problems on me. And refused to take responsibility for her side of the issues. At that point I said fine. And when she was released she moved on her own. and that was that. It wasn't until afterwards that I met the girl im with now.
Could things have been done differently?. Handled some other way?. Maybe. Probably. Nobodys perfect. And I don't seek forgiveness. Or understanding. Im just simply saying what is. Im sure there were things I contributed that I may not even have been aware of. But I never strayed. I don't have a problem with issues. We all have them. Its when someone isn't willing to help themselves that it becomes more complicated and difficult.
It came down to this for me. I had a vision of trying to raise children with someone like this. And I realized I couldn't bring a child into this. I felt it would have been irresponsible and dangerous. I didn't want them to grow up seeing their mother do this to herself. Maybe it wouldn't have turned out that way. Maybe having kids would have changed things. Or maybe made them worse. I don't know. But the thought scared me enough to take that out when I was offered it. Compounded by everything else.
She knows im seeing someone else. Ive been upfront and honest and have hidden nothing. I love what I have and I stand by it.
Theres a lot in between that i havnt mentioned. Too much to type and enter. So yes, I left a situation that was toxic to me. And after 11 yrs I honestly couldn't see it changing. I made a choice. And im happy that I did.
Whats ahead?. I don't know. But after tonight....I know this is worth waiting for. We actually talked about that. About where things are going and how long its going to take. Where we'd like things to go. Were waiting until after her situation has died down and she has full custody of her son. Hes 8 and has never met his dad, and she hasn't had a bf since then. So were going to take it very slow, but she thinks were going to get along great. Realistically itll probably be another month or so. But im ok with that.
She knows mine will be roughly another 9 months. Once you file, if there aren't any disputes, it usually takes a month or so here. Fingers crossed. But she kissed me and said she loves me, and said shes staying by me through this. And shes the most remarkable woman I met. And I believe her.
I actually opened up to her tonight over a glass of wine about my....hidden sexual turn-ons. was an interesting conversation to say the least LOL. She admitted she hasn't thought about a lot of it but shed love to explore it with me and she was open minded....so that was a plus.
The insecurities?. Believing that I actually found someone like this. Never thought I would. Sometimes wondering if were crazy. But each time were together, I know in my heart this is where I want to be.
Maybe its not what others would have chosen. And that's fine. But this is what happened, and where I am at.
And now I wouldn't change it.
. I actually had a very nice night tonight. For right now I have to say things are great.Night L. I can appreciate your feelings on things. Let me answer some questions and clarify.
Why the time delay?. Yes, im waiting for my full divorce. Have I applied?. No. I have to wait until august, after the one year separation has elapsed and I can file.
In addition to that, my girl is in a long fight for custody of her little man. That's soon to be over and its moreso just a matter of finalizing details. We both had lives before we met eachother. And its a matter of tying loose ends. Yes she is single, never married to the father of her son. My father has met her and loves her to pieces. And she knows absolutely everything about my situation. And me. Including my interests that ive posted here actually, after tonight.
Re-reading what I said, I can understand how I might have come off as callous towards my ex. And maybe admittedly I am a bit. Tired. But you need to understand how I got to this point.
It started 3 weeks after we got married, I walked in on her with someone else. And there was no mistaking what was going on. I forgave. Don't ask me why. At the time, yes I was beyond hurt. But I felt it made sense somehow. Looking back I don't know what I was thinking.
She enrolled in uni. I was working full time. She ended up cheating again. And tried to turn the situation around on me. At this point I had not once stepped out on her. Theres two sides to every story. maybe I wasn't there enough. Maybe I was working too much. I don't know what her side was because she straight up would not communicate with me. When I tried to get her to go to marital counselling, she would flip out at me and the argument would go nowhere. By this point she started having more serious problems. Involving cutting herself with kitchen knives. She refused to stay on medications prescribed by her doctor, even when her own family wanted her to. And she made an attempt to try to seduce my own father, no word of a lie. He told me about it himself, and what got me, is my dad has NEVER spoken ill of a girl I was with, even if he didn't like her he always kept that to himself. He just looked at me and said I deserved better and he always wanted more for me. That was what broke the back for me. Id plain and simply had enough and couldn't do it anymore. She went to the hospital when she cut herself really bad, and an evaluation was done and she was recommended to the psychiatric ward (which by the way, I would like to apologize if I offended anyone for referring to it as the mental hospital, I didn't mean this derogitorally). And it was in there that SHE told ME she wanted out. She blamed her problems on me. And refused to take responsibility for her side of the issues. At that point I said fine. And when she was released she moved on her own. and that was that. It wasn't until afterwards that I met the girl im with now.
Could things have been done differently?. Handled some other way?. Maybe. Probably. Nobodys perfect. And I don't seek forgiveness. Or understanding. Im just simply saying what is. Im sure there were things I contributed that I may not even have been aware of. But I never strayed. I don't have a problem with issues. We all have them. Its when someone isn't willing to help themselves that it becomes more complicated and difficult.
It came down to this for me. I had a vision of trying to raise children with someone like this. And I realized I couldn't bring a child into this. I felt it would have been irresponsible and dangerous. I didn't want them to grow up seeing their mother do this to herself. Maybe it wouldn't have turned out that way. Maybe having kids would have changed things. Or maybe made them worse. I don't know. But the thought scared me enough to take that out when I was offered it. Compounded by everything else.
She knows im seeing someone else. Ive been upfront and honest and have hidden nothing. I love what I have and I stand by it.
Theres a lot in between that i havnt mentioned. Too much to type and enter. So yes, I left a situation that was toxic to me. And after 11 yrs I honestly couldn't see it changing. I made a choice. And im happy that I did.
Whats ahead?. I don't know. But after tonight....I know this is worth waiting for. We actually talked about that. About where things are going and how long its going to take. Where we'd like things to go. Were waiting until after her situation has died down and she has full custody of her son. Hes 8 and has never met his dad, and she hasn't had a bf since then. So were going to take it very slow, but she thinks were going to get along great. Realistically itll probably be another month or so. But im ok with that.
She knows mine will be roughly another 9 months. Once you file, if there aren't any disputes, it usually takes a month or so here. Fingers crossed. But she kissed me and said she loves me, and said shes staying by me through this. And shes the most remarkable woman I met. And I believe her.
I actually opened up to her tonight over a glass of wine about my....hidden sexual turn-ons. was an interesting conversation to say the least LOL. She admitted she hasn't thought about a lot of it but shed love to explore it with me and she was open minded....so that was a plus
. The insecurities?. Believing that I actually found someone like this. Never thought I would. Sometimes wondering if were crazy. But each time were together, I know in my heart this is where I want to be.
Maybe its not what others would have chosen. And that's fine. But this is what happened, and where I am at.
And now I wouldn't change it.
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